While some gay men are still quite private and "in the closet" -and thats their right ,in my experience a greater proportion % wise of bisexual men are in the closet or are not "out".
One issue is the difficulty of maintaining bi visibility, especially if you're in a monogamous relationship. Have you considered that you might actually know many more bi people whom you've wrongly assumed to be gay or straight? Just because their sexuality hasn't come up in conversation doesn't mean they're closeted.
While some gay men are still quite private and "in the closet" -and thats their right ,in my experience a greater proportion % wise of bisexual men are in the closet or are not "out".I dont know about bisexual women.It may be the same for them.
I am just wondering what are the possible complex emotional ,social and psychological reasons etc why bisexuals in particular are more reluctant to be open.Is society still more judgemental about bisexuality than about homosexuality for instance?
Never said that.
But I know a few women who can't cope with the competition of two genders. And some who don't want sex with something that's been up a bum.
Loads of men have put it up women's bums.
OP probably because bisexual people get loads of abuse from nosy feckers, oh you're just greedy har de har har or its just a phase/ you're doing it for attention, i'm not even bisexual and I know all the old cliches.
.........I know many gay and bisexual men (im gay myself)
While some gay men are still quite private and "in the closet" -and thats their right ,in my experience a greater proportion % wise of bisexual men are in the closet or are not "out".I dont know about bisexual women.It may be the same for them.
I am just wondering what are the possible complex emotional ,social and psychological reasons etc why bisexuals in particular are more reluctant to be open.Is society still more judgemental about bisexuality than about homosexuality for instance?
Unless you know a few thousand gay and bisexual men, and they cover a wide spectrum of humanity, I don't see how you can draw any conclusion about the entire gay/bisexual population from a small sample. It's also necessary, to draw a conclusion from a sample, that the sample is chosen in such a way that every member of the population has an equal chance of being selected, and that the population is homogenous (no pun intended...that's the actual word used).
In other words, the fact that you know them isn't sufficient to provide evidence of a "social phenomenon" Do you have any other basis for your theory?
Just my opinion, of course. I should also point out that my remarks about sampling are based on the method I used to write sampling and evaluation programs. There may well be other methods with other criteria.
Bisexuals can get away with being straight, so there's no need to come out. Gays can't.
I'm not sure what this post means.
Do you mean in living, working, shopping, socialising generally? Surely gay people don't have to "get away with being straight", they'd just be themselves, as everyone else does?
If you mean in a sexual sense, then aren't they (whether male or female) just being bi-sexual, rather than "getting away with being straight"?
I think we'll all born with the potential to be bisexual but lean towards being straight or gay for the most part, with straight being more common because it's how we reproduce.
I'm a straight female but I can appreciate female beauty and even have minor crushes on a few female actresses - though I don't fancy them like I do male actors, hence seeing myself as straight.
While some gay men are still quite private and "in the closet" -and thats their right ,in my experience a greater proportion % wise of bisexual men are in the closet or are not "out".I dont know about bisexual women.It may be the same for them.
I am just wondering what are the possible complex emotional ,social and psychological reasons etc why bisexuals in particular are more reluctant to be open.Is society still more judgemental about bisexuality than about homosexuality for instance?
In my experience most bisexual men I have met have pretended to be gay to gay partners and straight to straight partners.
I find this sly, self serving behaviour intolerable.
Bisexual women, on the whole, have tended to be more honest.
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To your family?
It's possible to be out to your family but not tell anyone else.
i give up.
Yeah, but you said world.
Edit: Unless you just said world in a loose phrase kind of way.
i did. slack chat, sorry.
bisexuals aren't in denial
Well, I'm sure some are, but clearly not all.
One issue is the difficulty of maintaining bi visibility, especially if you're in a monogamous relationship. Have you considered that you might actually know many more bi people whom you've wrongly assumed to be gay or straight? Just because their sexuality hasn't come up in conversation doesn't mean they're closeted.
That is a pretty big problem, especially in the media. Bisexual celebrities often seem to be labelled by their current relationship for example.
Why do people make such huge assumptions about other people's sexual proclivities and what they do or don't feel.
You might equally say that there is no such thing as homosexuality or heterosexuality.
I'm sure your own inclination seems absolutely normal to you - why do you feel the need to question others?
Cos they are greedy?;)
Loads of men have put it up women's bums.
OP probably because bisexual people get loads of abuse from nosy feckers, oh you're just greedy har de har har or its just a phase/ you're doing it for attention, i'm not even bisexual and I know all the old cliches.
Unless you know a few thousand gay and bisexual men, and they cover a wide spectrum of humanity, I don't see how you can draw any conclusion about the entire gay/bisexual population from a small sample. It's also necessary, to draw a conclusion from a sample, that the sample is chosen in such a way that every member of the population has an equal chance of being selected, and that the population is homogenous (no pun intended...that's the actual word used).
In other words, the fact that you know them isn't sufficient to provide evidence of a "social phenomenon" Do you have any other basis for your theory?
Just my opinion, of course. I should also point out that my remarks about sampling are based on the method I used to write sampling and evaluation programs. There may well be other methods with other criteria.
See above.
I'm not sure what this post means.
Do you mean in living, working, shopping, socialising generally? Surely gay people don't have to "get away with being straight", they'd just be themselves, as everyone else does?
If you mean in a sexual sense, then aren't they (whether male or female) just being bi-sexual, rather than "getting away with being straight"?
I'm a straight female but I can appreciate female beauty and even have minor crushes on a few female actresses - though I don't fancy them like I do male actors, hence seeing myself as straight.
In my experience most bisexual men I have met have pretended to be gay to gay partners and straight to straight partners.
I find this sly, self serving behaviour intolerable.
Bisexual women, on the whole, have tended to be more honest.
Plenty of straight guys partake in anal sex, and not all bi / gay guys do.
nonsense
you can't be greedy just because of a sexual orientation
It was a joke