What they went through was unbelievably terrible and wish the media would leave them alone. Asking them for quotes about crimes is exploitative and just re-opens their pain.
I agree. That family still have an open wound and will never find any sort of peace if the media keeps poking at the wound to generate headlines.
With regards the OP, it's her money and she can donate to whichever charity she sees fit. What it has to to with anyone else, I really don't know.