Perfectly put. You cannot tell someone they are gay, straight or bisexual. Only they know. Tom says he is straight and I believe him. It's not that there is proof that he's lying.
It shouldn't matter anyway
I hate reading stuff like this - maybe it 'doesn't matter' - everyone always saying it 'shouldn't matter' like it is some way makes you 'superior' to have pointed this out ....... NO ONE is saying that it 'does' matter!!! its just a discussion. I believe in free speech, and I if want to discuss MY opinion on someones sexuality, whats the problem????
Lighten up. This is after all, a forum!!!