My mum wasn't exactly young when I was born as she was 33. 10 years later, she had my sister when she was 43. My sister always regrets that my parents were older than the average, and they often got mistaken for her grandparents.
33 is not young...
My dad was 51 when I was born and 54 when my sister came along, lived until he was 79 so we had him around well into our adulthood. I have to say nobody ever mistook him for our grandfather, no kids ever teased us about having an 'old' dad...I fail to see how anyone can regret their parent's age when it is something you grow up with and see as normal from the beginning. My husband is 52 and our kids are aged 6 and ten, nothing is ever said to them about that and they'd say so if there was. So many grandparents collect their grandchildren from school and care for them these days that they don't stand out as looking out of the norm among the mums and dads. I cannot see where kids notice 'age' as such in adults...unless dad looks like Steptoe:p
My dad was 51 when I was born and 54 when my sister came along, lived until he was 79 so we had him around well into our adulthood. I have to say nobody ever mistook him for our grandfather, no kids ever teased us about having an 'old' dad...I fail to see how anyone can regret their parent's age when it is something you grow up with and see as normal from the beginning. My husband is 52 and our kids are aged 6 and ten, nothing is ever said to them about that and they'd say so if there was. So many grandparents collect their grandchildren from school and care for them these days that they don't stand out as looking out of the norm among the mums and dads. I cannot see where kids notice 'age' as such in adults...unless dad looks like Steptoe:p
35 counts as 'elderly primigravida' or an older woman who has a first pregnancy. My mother may not have been 35, but she was getting there. She was also of the generation who were in the forces during WW2, so her outlook on life was of the more old fashioned kind. My grandmother was born in 1890, so my sister and I are only one generation removed from the Victorians.
You have an older husband - so do I. My OH is 68 and I'm 57, I had my first child at 19, when my husband had just turned 30 and another when I was 24 and he was 35. My daughter is 38 and having her first child next month, but her outlook on life will be vastly different from my own mother's.
Times change and 52 today isn't like 52 forty or fifty years ago. My sister's viewpoint is hers alone - she didn't like having older parents. My parents barely reached their early 70's. My dad died from complications from a burst stomach ulcer and he had Alzheimer's as well. 4 months after his death, my mum died from cancer. As you can imagine, this was devastating for my sister and I.
Back on the topic of Malone's IVF. It's not a good idea to have children late in life, as others have stated here women have a menopause for a reason - their eggs become of poorer quality and complaints like Down's become more common in older mums. If TM has OCD, bipolar and she's neurotic and self obsessed, she's not ideal mother material, quite apart from her age.
''Bipolar, neurotic and self obsessed'' but ''healther than I was 20 years ago''. Ideal candidate for motherhood - I don't think. :rolleyes:
Whoever wrote that article needs serious writing lessons. What the flip is 'weight lose'? And the last paragraph looks like it's been written by a five year old.
As others have said, the menopause happens for a reason and IMHO, IVF on the NHS should not be available to anyone over 40. Having children is a privilege, not a right. Apart from Malone's age, she is clearly unstable and seems to only want kids to please her partner.
Have to say when I saw her I was shocked at her weight loss but good luck to her in eliminating diabetes but my overriding impression of looking at her and her partner/husband was they looked like a couple that just walked off the Jeremy Kyle show...
I feel really sorry for her as it appears that she wants to have a baby to keep her husband, I think because she spent most of her adult life being severely overweight now that she has lost the excess weight she wants to regain/or live out the youth she never had - hence the younger husband, inapropriate clothes and the desire for a baby despite not being able to do so without internvention from medical experts.
''Bipolar, neurotic and self obsessed'' but ''healther than I was 20 years ago''.
Is she trying to be the older woman's Kerry Katona?
That's what Kerry's going to look like in another 20 years' time!! :eek:
The neurotic types are always obsessed with having babies at any cost. They're too emotionally unstable to channel their energies into other aspects of their life and relationship.
Clearly it's far from being the 'perfect time' for her to get pregnant since she's 50 and by her own admission has had years of emotional problems.
I saw her on TM repeatedly saying she'd been talking to doctors.......so what? I bet they didnt advise her to have a baby but she implied they did - anything to justify this ridiculous idea she has dreamt up to keep her man. She is self obsessed and selfish beyond belief.
Is it fair to have a 10 year old when you are 61 ? [cos she hasnt had any treatment let alone a pregnancy yet]. I dont think so and I wouldn't dream of doing it, its not fair on the child. Ones health is not the same in their 60's as the body changes so much after the menopause - let alone the health of the marriage as the stress of raising a baby/toddler/small child/teenager takes its toll!
Tina Malone strikes me as being a particularly smug and rather unpleasant individual.
I'm sorry and no disrespect but at 50 I would of thought her head would be screwed on enough to say. I'm not going through all that again. She should be looking forward to enjoying her grand kids.
And tbh. I do think they are being selfish wanted to raise a small child at her age. I don't see it being fair on the child.
And like someone else has said why do people feel like just because they are in a new relationship they have to have a child together.
Its crazy
‘You know life is 70% nurture, 30 % nature, so if he looks like him and gets my brains we’ll be laughing.’
Laughing at his wife’s comment, Paul, who had remained quiet up until this point, added: ‘I really want to become a father now, I never used to think about it in the past but now it’s within our sight, within our grasp I’m really excited about the future and I think we will have a baby by the next summer, hopefully.'
As others have said the menopause is there for a purpose. I am in a relationship with a much younger man (never meant that to happen) we've been together 21 years and if we'd had a child don't think it would have enhanced it in anyway! Most reasons for having a baby I believe are selfish but this is selfish in the extreme if she has OCD and is neurotic and a self obsessional person sorry there is no room for a baby. Just concentrate on your relationship is the best advice any one could give and forget bringing a child into it.
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33 is not young...
My dad was 51 when I was born and 54 when my sister came along, lived until he was 79 so we had him around well into our adulthood. I have to say nobody ever mistook him for our grandfather, no kids ever teased us about having an 'old' dad...I fail to see how anyone can regret their parent's age when it is something you grow up with and see as normal from the beginning. My husband is 52 and our kids are aged 6 and ten, nothing is ever said to them about that and they'd say so if there was. So many grandparents collect their grandchildren from school and care for them these days that they don't stand out as looking out of the norm among the mums and dads. I cannot see where kids notice 'age' as such in adults...unless dad looks like Steptoe:p
That's the thing. I'd be more worried about her personal stability than her age.
She's only FIFTY???? :eek: Dear God, I'd have said 15 years older at least.
She claims she's bi polar, OCD, neurotic and self obsessed? Great parent material :rolleyes:
35 counts as 'elderly primigravida' or an older woman who has a first pregnancy. My mother may not have been 35, but she was getting there. She was also of the generation who were in the forces during WW2, so her outlook on life was of the more old fashioned kind. My grandmother was born in 1890, so my sister and I are only one generation removed from the Victorians.
You have an older husband - so do I. My OH is 68 and I'm 57, I had my first child at 19, when my husband had just turned 30 and another when I was 24 and he was 35. My daughter is 38 and having her first child next month, but her outlook on life will be vastly different from my own mother's.
Times change and 52 today isn't like 52 forty or fifty years ago. My sister's viewpoint is hers alone - she didn't like having older parents. My parents barely reached their early 70's. My dad died from complications from a burst stomach ulcer and he had Alzheimer's as well. 4 months after his death, my mum died from cancer. As you can imagine, this was devastating for my sister and I.
Back on the topic of Malone's IVF. It's not a good idea to have children late in life, as others have stated here women have a menopause for a reason - their eggs become of poorer quality and complaints like Down's become more common in older mums. If TM has OCD, bipolar and she's neurotic and self obsessed, she's not ideal mother material, quite apart from her age.
Whoever wrote that article needs serious writing lessons. What the flip is 'weight lose'? And the last paragraph looks like it's been written by a five year old.
And they both look about 70.
Cold doesn't necessarily mean not nice
That's what Kerry's going to look like in another 20 years' time!! :eek:
The neurotic types are always obsessed with having babies at any cost. They're too emotionally unstable to channel their energies into other aspects of their life and relationship.
Clearly it's far from being the 'perfect time' for her to get pregnant since she's 50 and by her own admission has had years of emotional problems.
And is diving from a highboard advisable if a woman's going through IVF?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2259634/Splash-contestant-Tina-Malone-blasts-ITV-admits-shes-doing-money.html
On TM today defending her decision to have IVF at 50.
Is it fair to have a 10 year old when you are 61 ? [cos she hasnt had any treatment let alone a pregnancy yet]. I dont think so and I wouldn't dream of doing it, its not fair on the child. Ones health is not the same in their 60's as the body changes so much after the menopause - let alone the health of the marriage as the stress of raising a baby/toddler/small child/teenager takes its toll!
Tina Malone strikes me as being a particularly smug and rather unpleasant individual.
And tbh. I do think they are being selfish wanted to raise a small child at her age. I don't see it being fair on the child.
And like someone else has said why do people feel like just because they are in a new relationship they have to have a child together.
Its crazy
This Morning are unfortunately following her IVF journey :yawn:
He/she isn't going to be a 'cute' baby forever, and by the time they're in their teens Tina will be in her 60s.
She's not thinking of the child's long-term future at all, just the quick-fix of having a baby at all costs.
If it looks like him and has her brains, it'll be one scary looking child with the IQ of an amoeba.
'Remained quiet up until this point'. Hmmm. I think we can see who has the upper hand in this relationship. :eek: