[fawltytowers93]

Basically about a month ago i joined an online dating site hoping to find a way to help me get over my ex, and to cut a long story short, i met this girl on there who lives in london, and we've literally been having these long conversations every night on fb or skype every month for weeks now. There was an instant connection between us and we got on so well. On thursday i actually travelled all the way to london to meet her and it was honestly one of the best days of my life. Spending the day with her just felt so magical (and in case you're wondering, we didn't have sex while we were there, we made out and that was it).

So i left london feeling like she was the one. but basically while we were in london she told me that she has the same password for all her online stuff, and then said what the password was, so when i got back i was really intrigued and i logged into her account, where i saw all these inboxes from these other boys and they were all talking about meeting up for sex and it has broken my heart she told me she wasnt seeing anybody so i actually felt like i'd found the right person finally. the following day i told her how i felt and she said to me that she appareciates that and that she would like me too if she'd met me at a different point at her life but said that she wants to concentrate on studying/a-levels for the time being. which i was fine with, but its the fact that she's been having sex with all these people and its made me feel so down.

Shes also told me that she doesn't want a committed relationship until she's at least 30 and when she's losing her looks, and until then she just wants a bit of fun while she's still young, and nothing serious.

Thing is, ever since I told her I had feelings for her, she's been a little bit distant towards me, e.g her answers are always shorter and she hasnt been making an effort like she usually does. do you reckon this has something to do with the fact she knows i like her, or am i just being a bit paranoid there?

To sum all this up, I really really really like this girl, I can't stop thinking about her, she's always on my mind now but I really don't know what to do about it now....

Please help? This is killing me....my heart feels like its going to burst.... What should I do about this?

[cpikey316_]

She doesnt want what you want. It probably wont end well if you continue to pursue it.

Best to end all communication now and try to get over your feelings.

[Beau_Soir]

Why would she start talking about her passwords? What a bizarre tale

[IC89]

Cut all ties

Girl sounds horrible.

Probably shouldn't have been snooping on someone's passworded profile though, even if it did show her true colours and help you come to terms with this now.

End contact, as soon as possible.

[mred2000]

Yup, I thought it a bit bizarre, too.

Move on. You both want something different and you've made her sound like a bit of a bike, anyway. Unless you like that sort of thing...

[RandomSally]

Originally Posted by Beau_Soir

Why would she start talking about her passwords? What a bizarre tale

That's what I wondered. Maybe she told him so he'd snoop and either back off or stop talking to her. Maybe you seemed too keen OP.

[Beau_Soir]

Originally Posted by RandomSally

That's what I wondered. Maybe she told him so he'd snoop and either back off or stop talking to her. Maybe you seemed too keen OP.

That's one alternative..but there's another, which I what i'm swaying towards.

[mred2000]

Originally Posted by Beau_Soir

That's one alternative..but there's another, which I what i'm swaying towards.

That it's a load of old codswallop?

[RAINBOWGIRL22]

Originally Posted by fawltytowers93

Basically about a month ago i joined an online dating site hoping to find a way to help me get over my ex, and to cut a long story short, i met this girl on there who lives in london, and we've literally been having these long conversations every night on fb or skype every month for weeks now. There was an instant connection between us and we got on so well. On thursday i actually travelled all the way to london to meet her and it was honestly one of the best days of my life. Spending the day with her just felt so magical (and in case you're wondering, we didn't have sex while we were there, we made out and that was it).

So i left london feeling like she was the one. but basically while we were in london she told me that she has the same password for all her online stuff, and then said what the password was, so when i got back i was really intrigued and i logged into her account, where i saw all these inboxes from these other boys and they were all talking about meeting up for sex and it has broken my heart she told me she wasnt seeing anybody so i actually felt like i'd found the right person finally. the following day i told her how i felt and she said to me that she appareciates that and that she would like me too if she'd met me at a different point at her life but said that she wants to concentrate on studying/a-levels for the time being. which i was fine with, but its the fact that she's been having sex with all these people and its made me feel so down.

Shes also told me that she doesn't want a committed relationship until she's at least 30 and when she's losing her looks, and until then she just wants a bit of fun while she's still young, and nothing serious.

Thing is, ever since I told her I had feelings for her, she's been a little bit distant towards me, e.g her answers are always shorter and she hasnt been making an effort like she usually does. do you reckon this has something to do with the fact she knows i like her, or am i just being a bit paranoid there?

To sum all this up, I really really really like this girl, I can't stop thinking about her, she's always on my mind now but I really don't know what to do about it now....

Please help? This is killing me....my heart feels like its going to burst.... What should I do about this?

I assume BIB is a typo?

Also OP you can only be 18/19 - why are you on dating websites???

[gulliverfoyle]

internet dating is full of messers and players

meet someone in a normal way

cut all contact and move on

[Josephinus]

Hold on . . . you've only met the girl once . . . you're madly in love with her and you've hacked into her dating profiles????

Mate . . . you need to get a handle on yourself. What gives you the right to go snooping like that, regardless of what you found! That's what you should be concerned about!

[John259]

Is the OP a regeneration of CrazyChris?

[madscotsboy]

Originally Posted by Josephinus

Hold on . . . you've only met the girl once . . . you're madly in love with her and you've hacked into her dating profiles????

Mate . . . you need to get a handle on yourself. What gives you the right to go snooping like that, regardless of what you found! That's what you should be concerned about!

I’m inclined to agree with the above. You sound like the kinda guy who’s going to fall for every girl he meets. Although I understand that it would be difficult to not get so invested in someone if that you have always been that way, perhaps this is something you need to try and correct otherwise you might be in for a world of heart ache.

And it doesn’t show much promise of character if you go about snooping into someone’s emails or profile, regardless if they told you their password or not. That’s a pretty bad reflection on you.

[Elissa Richards]

I think you've gone in head over heels and she doesn't feel the same if any of this drama is true. If it is real then learn the lesson it's best to keep a handle on ones feelings...no woman wants a desperate doormat to be their other half.

I don't believe the yarn about hacking her online account...

[Super_Steve]

Originally Posted by RAINBOWGIRL22

I assume BIB is a typo?

Also OP you can only be 18/19 - why are you on dating websites???

Don't think there is, nor should there be, an age when it's cool/uncool to go on dating sites.

Some people find it difficult to meet people other ways.

[*stargazer*]

Whoa. This is not a dating site problem. This is a strange woman who gave you her password and you hacked into her account problem. I am not sure which one of you worries me more. At the moment I am thinking her. But you are not far behind OP. Sorry, but that is bizarre!!!!

Lots of people meet on dating sites and have happy relationships.

[Judge Mental]

You barely know this girl, you've met her once so to say that you are in love with her is a little over the top. I'd say it was more of an infatuation based on your own personal fantasy.

The girl's not interested in a relationship - she's just enjoying a bit of an ego trip and uncomplicated sex. No sin in that and at least she's been honest about it.

Move on - there's really nothing for you there.

Made me smile that she doesn't want a relationship until she's 30 'when she's lost her looks' - hilarious, she sounds about 14.

[solarflare]

Originally Posted by Judge Mental

Made me smile that she doesn't want a relationship until she's 30 'when she's lost her looks' - hilarious, she sounds about 14.

And what a catch too

"Hi, I'm finally getting steadily uglier now, fancy a relationship?"

Erm, great, thanks.

Anyway, without wishing to be too harsh about it, in a way you're lucky OP. Imagine you'd actually found "the one" and went straight to going through their personal emails and then somehow they found out about it and dumped you...

[mred2000]

Originally Posted by Judge Mental

Made me smile that she doesn't want a relationship until she's 30 'when she's lost her looks' - hilarious, she sounds about 14.

A-Levels so must be 16-18? Sounds so mature for her age...

[wrexham103.4]

problem being here;

you want someone to help you get over your ex - so a girl comes a long, is nice to you, you feel a bit special and wanted again so this is probably the overall attraction. Also if shes told you she doesnt want to commit , plus the long distance its highly likely she will be meeting other men, and seeing as your not 'together' she has every right to. harsh as it may sound when you have feelings towards her,

personally i'd stay away, find someone more local who you can actually meet to go out to the cinema, nights/days out ect

[TWS]

You don't love her, it's not killing you, but you are a bit of a drama queen I would look into that if I was you

[petertard]

This seems a bit of an invention. If it is true, hacking into her accounts was a big mistake. You did not need to know stuff about her you could only find out surreptitiously.

[tenorlady]

No complications in this situation, she's taking the mickey out of you. Move on and don't look back.

[courtney_synn]

Originally Posted by fawltytowers93

Basically about a month ago i joined an online dating site hoping to find a way to help me get over my ex, and to cut a long story short, i met this girl on there who lives in london, and we've literally been having these long conversations every night on fb or skype every month for weeks now. There was an instant connection between us and we got on so well. On thursday i actually travelled all the way to london to meet her and it was honestly one of the best days of my life. Spending the day with her just felt so magical (and in case you're wondering, we didn't have sex while we were there, we made out and that was it).

So i left london feeling like she was the one. but basically while we were in london she told me that she has the same password for all her online stuff, and then said what the password was, so when i got back i was really intrigued and i logged into her account, where i saw all these inboxes from these other boys and they were all talking about meeting up for sex and it has broken my heart she told me she wasnt seeing anybody so i actually felt like i'd found the right person finally. the following day i told her how i felt and she said to me that she appareciates that and that she would like me too if she'd met me at a different point at her life but said that she wants to concentrate on studying/a-levels for the time being. which i was fine with, but its the fact that she's been having sex with all these people and its made me feel so down.

Shes also told me that she doesn't want a committed relationship until she's at least 30 and when she's losing her looks, and until then she just wants a bit of fun while she's still young, and nothing serious.

Thing is, ever since I told her I had feelings for her, she's been a little bit distant towards me, e.g her answers are always shorter and she hasnt been making an effort like she usually does. do you reckon this has something to do with the fact she knows i like her, or am i just being a bit paranoid there?

To sum all this up, I really really really like this girl, I can't stop thinking about her, she's always on my mind now but I really don't know what to do about it now....

Please help? This is killing me....my heart feels like its going to burst.... What should I do about this?

Deary me

[munta]

You hacked her accounts. Rather stalkerish don't you think?