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Old 09-05-2013, 07:28
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Watching my neice struggle through uni at the moment, 2 young children who I know she would much rather be with. She pays the earth for their care, not to be toilet trained, she finds time, god knows where, to do that herself, but to read to them, to sing to them and generally help with their develpment. Nursery for her or many others is not a dumping ground. It is a position of trust.
So when the children are at nursery/childcare they are not being toilet trained? It happens only at times when mum is there? No. The childcare will help with it when your nieces are in their care. So what your saying Is that your completely hypocritical?

Who said nursery is a dumping ground? No one. But child development includes toilet training, if that is happening at an age where they are at nursery, then as a parent I'd expect the staff to pay the same attention to my daughter and her toilet training as I do/did at home. Toilet training doesn't stop when they leave the house. What are the options? Keep them locked up till thier toilet trained? No. I too pay a fortune for nursery and childcare, I don't expect my child to be played with 24/7, I pay for a high standard of care, that includes teaching of manners, encouraging social skills, toilet training if required, encouraging independence and improving confidence. Play is great, but it doesn't have to be carer led and in fact it's better to encourage them to play by themselves, or make friends.

I also note you ignored my link about why potty training too early is not good.
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Old 09-05-2013, 07:36
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Watching my neice struggle through uni at the moment, 2 young children who I know she would much rather be with. She pays the earth for their care, not to be toilet trained, she finds time, god knows where, to do that herself, but to read to them, to sing to them and generally help with their develpment. Nursery for her or many others is not a dumping ground. It is a position of trust.
What about the partner? is he around? How old was she when she had the kids?
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Old 09-05-2013, 09:34
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All children develop at different rates and imo in many cases it is not lazy parenting but undiagnosed problems. People shouldn't be so judgemental

My daughter still soiled herself at school at 5. It was a daily nightmare as nobody would listen to us for best part of 3 years. Bowel training programmes, repeated HV intervention, countless paeds appointments, referral to CAMHs etc.. as surely it all had to be psychological right

She had a bowel obstruction and following treatment by a specialist paeds gastroenterologist was cured immediately.
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Old 09-05-2013, 10:30
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All children develop at different rates and imo in many cases it is not lazy parenting but undiagnosed problems. People shouldn't be so judgemental

My daughter still soiled herself at school at 5. It was a daily nightmare as nobody would listen to us for best part of 3 years. Bowel training programmes, repeated HV intervention, countless paeds appointments, referral to CAMHs etc.. as surely it all had to be psychological right

She had a bowel obstruction and following treatment by a specialist paeds gastroenterologist was cured immediately.
We had exactly the same issue! My poor daughter was on prune juice for a year and the doctor still would not believe there was a medical cause! It was a locum doctor that referred us to a specialist in the end. I still have her poo charts!
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