I lost my Mum 6 years ago this July and I still go down to the beach sometimes on a windy night and screech my head off. ( I find yelling rather therapeutic )
My brother will put flowers on her grave in England and I will think of her over here in Northern Ireland.
Since she died I avoid card shops near Mother's Day. I also now make my husband buy his own mother's cards as I can't bear to do it.
I lost my mum 2 and a half years ago and it's still as awful as though it happened yesterday. She was just the most wonderful person and she's missed by so many.
The silly woman in m&s yesterday asked me if I'd remembered my mum. First of all, I was only buying a sandwich so what prompted her to say anything about mother's day anyway? Secondly, when I froze and eventually stammered that I didn't have my mum, she just smiled and said "oh well, saves on pennies." I was so angry. I'm going to complain. I doubt anything will come of it but at least I'll feel better...
Sorry, I just really needed to vent that somewhere
my mums still about but she walked out when i was about 5 so mothers day at school was crap. They didnt do fathers day hardly any of us knew who are dad was lol so glad tht as avoided
My mum died last October so this is my first Mother's Day without her, I can barely function most days so all the ads for it are a bit too much for me.
Thank you for this thread it's made me cry but at least I know I'm not alone.
Today I'm lying on the couch with a hangover. I live miles away from my mum and she's coming to visit tomorrow. We dont usually make a big thing of mother's day so I thought, "I'll just nip to ASDA and get her some chocolates."
Now I've read this thread, I'm off to Debenhams for something nice for her.
I lost my mum 2 and a half years ago and it's still as awful as though it happened yesterday. She was just the most wonderful person and she's missed by so many.
The silly woman in m&s yesterday asked me if I'd remembered my mum. First of all, I was only buying a sandwich so what prompted her to say anything about mother's day anyway? Secondly, when I froze and eventually stammered that I didn't have my mum, she just smiled and said "oh well, saves on pennies." I was so angry. I'm going to complain. I doubt anything will come of it but at least I'll feel better...
Sorry, I just really needed to vent that somewhere
I would complain too. That was very insensitive and rude of her - she'd have been better off saying nothing than saying that.
It has been three years since I lost my mum and it still feels raw. I dread tomorrow- worse than other anniversary days like her birthday. I will get up very early and drive back home to the village church yard where she was buried on my own and share out the flowers with the other family members there. Probably have a little cry and spend time thinkling about her.
Those of you seeing mums you love, have a fabulous day and spoil her rotten!
My mother passed away just over 15 years ago, and even now, mother's day is something that can shed a tear. I'd give up every penny I have just to spend 5 more minutes with her.
My first without mine. Can't read all this thread yet. She died April 6th last year.
I have to 'do' Mother's Day because of my own children but there will be a big hole in it for me this year. Thankfully the m-i-l is away on holiday so I'll be spared having to sit through lunch with someone else's mother - if that sounds nasty, sorry - but it's how I feel.
Another motherless person here! She died 7 years ago when I was 15. Mothers day was upsetting for the first few years but now when I walk past the pink, flowery displays in the supermarkets I am fairly unaffected by it all. If the day wasn't so commercialised and the present buying I see people doing didn't reek so much of obligation then I would probably feel sadder.
My mum was truly lovely and kind. I do feel better when I see other people's mothers acting selfishly and being a pain in the arse. I didn't have a mother for very long, but she was awesome.
I have to 'do' Mother's Day because of my own children but there will be a big hole in it for me this year. Thankfully the m-i-l is away on holiday so I'll be spared having to sit through lunch with someone else's mother - if that sounds nasty, sorry - but it's how I feel.
I know what you mean. I'm usually spared the obligation thankfully, though she has decided to invite herself for a meal on Sunday this year for some reason. If a big deal is made out of mothers day I will just leave them to it and wander off to do something else.
Sadly, this will be your first Mothers Day without Mum then.
Have you any family that you will be able to spend some time with? If not maybe funds allowing you can take yourself off to the cinema, for a meal, visit friends either yours or your mums as well as spend some time at your mums resting place. Anything really than spending it at home on your own.
It will be so awful for you if you will spend the day totally alone.
I'm sure someone else on the thread will come up with some ideas for you. I said earlier, you are not alone on here so don't think for one minute you are.
Sadly, there are so many of us missing our mums.
(x)
Thank you for your lovely words. No, I don't have any other family really... so that's not an option. Honestly, I didn't think I'd be too affected by tomorrow, but I think I'm in denial and just trying to block out the fact it's "Mother's Day". Every day is a struggle, so tomorrow won't be any different.
I'd give anything in the world to have her with me tomorrow, as I know everyone else who has lost their wonderful mum would do. I just want one more hug from her... and it pains me knowing it'll never happen.
I have just come back after laying flowers at my mums resting place. I also bought some flowers to put in a vase next to mums photo. She loved her flowers, I bought her some almost every week. Nothing extravagant, just a small bunch but she loved them. Her job was to put the flowers in water while I put her shopping away.
Mothers day and all these kind of special days and anniversaries must bring back a lot of memories for a hell of a lot of people for very different reasons. I also take time to think of the poor mums who have lost one of the children.I honestly don't know how they would get through the day, it must be dreadful for them. Likewise for all those ladies wanting to become a mum but can't. Then there are those that never knew their mum, gosh I could go on.
Those who are having their first Mothers day without their mum must feel distraught, I know I did. I use to say it actually felt like a physical pain, the longing to see her and that gorgeous smile she had was so strong. If something funny happened, I use to run to the phone to call her.....if only I could do that now.
I am going to spend tomorrow with my family. I am so lucky to have two fabulous, thoughtful,kind grown up children, one of them with their own family. I will enjoy seeing them all tomorrow.
I am going out on monday for a girly day with my daughter. We are going on a shopping trip then she is treating me to a lovely meal. How lovely is that?
I will be thinking of you all tomorrow.
I do sympathise with you saira.jane being served by such an inconsiderate idiot in M&S, what a terrible thing to say to someone. She must be void of any feelings at all. I would have had to say something and attempt to embarrass the daft mare, mind you, it appears she has no feelings. spike Think of all the happy times you spent with your mum, focus on those good times.
I lost my mum 2 and a half years ago and it's still as awful as though it happened yesterday. She was just the most wonderful person and she's missed by so many.
The silly woman in m&s yesterday asked me if I'd remembered my mum. First of all, I was only buying a sandwich so what prompted her to say anything about mother's day anyway? Secondly, when I froze and eventually stammered that I didn't have my mum, she just smiled and said "oh well, saves on pennies." I was so angry. I'm going to complain. I doubt anything will come of it but at least I'll feel better...
Sorry, I just really needed to vent that somewhere
Oh that's so awful. It's like how my family always have a family get together tomorrow and send around an email to invite us and each year I decline. It arrived yesterday despite having said I would not go as my mum isn't much fussed about the day at all. Today I think something snapped and I politely but firmly said that I would not be celebrating mothers day as, whilst the sentiments are worthy, not being a mother it seemed rather insensitive to expect me to sit there and celebrate the thing I'll struggle to become. Even if I did become a mum I doubt I'd celebrate that much since there is always grief for the babies I never had. Anyway no reply to the email yet..
My Mum died when I was 10 (28 now) and I'll never forget that day, although I feel like I don't have enough memories of her before that.
Others have mentioned all the things their mums have missed in their lives, which is very sad. i've said before on here that I'm lucky in a way that my parents died when I was wee because it shaped my life into what it is today. I'm mum to a wee smasher myself now, with great friends - things could be far worse!
The rotters did away with the Garden of Rememberance where my Mum's ashes were scattered, but we have a bench by the riverside for her and my Day (he passed away when I was 12) which says "Sit here and smile and remember me for a while" so that's what I'll do.
I'll think of all of you too. Do something nice for yourselves tomorrow - I'm sure you were all the best gift your mums ever received.
Mothering Sunday doesn't have to be a sad day. She is still your mother.
You could still honour your deceased Mum in some other way by maybe buying a special plant or putting her picture up in pride of place for the day.
Just remembering and talking about her about in a nice way would honour her.
I hope everyone without their mother tomorrow has someone or something that makes you smile.
For those with difficult relationships with their mothers, consider using tomorrow as an starting point. For your own sake try to sort it out and get some form of a resolution now. Because if you think your are angry and upset now, wait until she is not here!
For my mum, as the song says 'i hope i made you proud'...
It's also my first Mother's Day without my mum. My mother died in November very suddenly I can't believe it's been 5 months already! I keep on expecting her to walk through the door or give me a call. I can't help but feel mothers day has been really shoved down our throats this year. I haven't even been able to escape to work. I work in a clothes shop so everyone has been coming in and buying their mums presents. Those who still have their mums make sure you spoil them rotten tomorrow!
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I shall therefore purposefully NOT think of her on Sunday. She'd like that :-)
She never was a fan of Clintons.
My brother will put flowers on her grave in England and I will think of her over here in Northern Ireland.
Since she died I avoid card shops near Mother's Day. I also now make my husband buy his own mother's cards as I can't bear to do it.
The silly woman in m&s yesterday asked me if I'd remembered my mum. First of all, I was only buying a sandwich so what prompted her to say anything about mother's day anyway? Secondly, when I froze and eventually stammered that I didn't have my mum, she just smiled and said "oh well, saves on pennies." I was so angry. I'm going to complain. I doubt anything will come of it but at least I'll feel better...
Sorry, I just really needed to vent that somewhere
Thank you for this thread it's made me cry but at least I know I'm not alone.
Now I've read this thread, I'm off to Debenhams for something nice for her.
Those of you seeing mums you love, have a fabulous day and spoil her rotten!
My mother passed away just over 15 years ago, and even now, mother's day is something that can shed a tear. I'd give up every penny I have just to spend 5 more minutes with her.
I have to 'do' Mother's Day because of my own children but there will be a big hole in it for me this year. Thankfully the m-i-l is away on holiday so I'll be spared having to sit through lunch with someone else's mother - if that sounds nasty, sorry - but it's how I feel.
My mum was truly lovely and kind. I do feel better when I see other people's mothers acting selfishly and being a pain in the arse. I didn't have a mother for very long, but she was awesome.
I know what you mean. I'm usually spared the obligation thankfully, though she has decided to invite herself for a meal on Sunday this year for some reason. If a big deal is made out of mothers day I will just leave them to it and wander off to do something else.
Thank you for your lovely words. No, I don't have any other family really... so that's not an option. Honestly, I didn't think I'd be too affected by tomorrow, but I think I'm in denial and just trying to block out the fact it's "Mother's Day". Every day is a struggle, so tomorrow won't be any different.
I'd give anything in the world to have her with me tomorrow, as I know everyone else who has lost their wonderful mum would do. I just want one more hug from her... and it pains me knowing it'll never happen.
Thoughts go out to you all xx
Mothers day and all these kind of special days and anniversaries must bring back a lot of memories for a hell of a lot of people for very different reasons. I also take time to think of the poor mums who have lost one of the children.I honestly don't know how they would get through the day, it must be dreadful for them. Likewise for all those ladies wanting to become a mum but can't. Then there are those that never knew their mum, gosh I could go on.
Those who are having their first Mothers day without their mum must feel distraught, I know I did. I use to say it actually felt like a physical pain, the longing to see her and that gorgeous smile she had was so strong. If something funny happened, I use to run to the phone to call her.....if only I could do that now.
I am going to spend tomorrow with my family. I am so lucky to have two fabulous, thoughtful,kind grown up children, one of them with their own family. I will enjoy seeing them all tomorrow.
I am going out on monday for a girly day with my daughter. We are going on a shopping trip then she is treating me to a lovely meal. How lovely is that?
I will be thinking of you all tomorrow.
I do sympathise with you saira.jane being served by such an inconsiderate idiot in M&S, what a terrible thing to say to someone. She must be void of any feelings at all. I would have had to say something and attempt to embarrass the daft mare, mind you, it appears she has no feelings.
spike Think of all the happy times you spent with your mum, focus on those good times.
Oh that's so awful. It's like how my family always have a family get together tomorrow and send around an email to invite us and each year I decline. It arrived yesterday despite having said I would not go as my mum isn't much fussed about the day at all. Today I think something snapped and I politely but firmly said that I would not be celebrating mothers day as, whilst the sentiments are worthy, not being a mother it seemed rather insensitive to expect me to sit there and celebrate the thing I'll struggle to become. Even if I did become a mum I doubt I'd celebrate that much since there is always grief for the babies I never had. Anyway no reply to the email yet..
My Mum died when I was 10 (28 now) and I'll never forget that day, although I feel like I don't have enough memories of her before that.
Others have mentioned all the things their mums have missed in their lives, which is very sad. i've said before on here that I'm lucky in a way that my parents died when I was wee because it shaped my life into what it is today. I'm mum to a wee smasher myself now, with great friends - things could be far worse!
The rotters did away with the Garden of Rememberance where my Mum's ashes were scattered, but we have a bench by the riverside for her and my Day (he passed away when I was 12) which says "Sit here and smile and remember me for a while" so that's what I'll do.
I'll think of all of you too. Do something nice for yourselves tomorrow - I'm sure you were all the best gift your mums ever received.
x
You could still honour your deceased Mum in some other way by maybe buying a special plant or putting her picture up in pride of place for the day.
Just remembering and talking about her about in a nice way would honour her.
http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/s/Whenever/2Tfl6n?src=5
by beth orton about her own mother, nice song.
Although about his dad, The Street - Never went to church - has always been a song i have found comfort in:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hDK5JTZtMY&feature=fvwrel
I hope everyone without their mother tomorrow has someone or something that makes you smile.
For those with difficult relationships with their mothers, consider using tomorrow as an starting point. For your own sake try to sort it out and get some form of a resolution now. Because if you think your are angry and upset now, wait until she is not here!
For my mum, as the song says 'i hope i made you proud'...
Don't have sound, but thats touching all the same.