9 year old falsely accused his cousins of abusing him... other family reactions?
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So I just read this in a Newspaper...
A little boy was given to his Aunt and Uncle as his mum was an alcoholic. He then said his cousins (both young teens) had abused him. The family went through hell for like a month, interviews, judgement etc.
Years later the children have grown up and it is Grandmas big birthday bash. The boy will be there and so will the two children don't want to go for obvious reasons.
However Grandma is pressuring them saying it was a long time ago and he was young and damaged and that he should be forgiven.
Could you forgive and if you were related to that family would you agree with the family or the Grandma?
A little boy was given to his Aunt and Uncle as his mum was an alcoholic. He then said his cousins (both young teens) had abused him. The family went through hell for like a month, interviews, judgement etc.
Years later the children have grown up and it is Grandmas big birthday bash. The boy will be there and so will the two children don't want to go for obvious reasons.
However Grandma is pressuring them saying it was a long time ago and he was young and damaged and that he should be forgiven.
Could you forgive and if you were related to that family would you agree with the family or the Grandma?
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Sexual abuse. It doesn't go into great detail.
I suppose the question you need to ask is how a 9 year would know what sexual abuse was.
Absolutely nothing on Google relating to your story.
Ws it online or in the paper and was it a story or advice.
I checked on Google aswell and there's no other articles about the alleged story.
I'm sure i've seen this episode of SVU.
It was someone replying to the problem.
Jeez.
Nothing on google. What was his name?
Only if he acknowledged what he did and was truly sorry for the hurt it caused, otherwise I wouldn't be visiting the same house as him.
Just because something wasn't proved does not mean it didn't happen.
But a lot of kids do experiment together. So the OP really isnt enough to go on really.
I know that children that age and younger go around calling each other Pedo`s as a insult.
And saying things much more graphic with sexual connotations.
The younger kids in secondary school hear the older boys talking and then they in turn pass that onto the much younger kids outside of school .
That how these things happen and it doesn't surprise me that a 9 year old would make something like that up , probably when he didn't get his own way .
In my day the insults would be "you tramp" or "you're poor" , which bad as they are is nothing compared to what kids do and say these days .
And yes i would forgive him as he probably didn't know how serious his accusations were
But I would think that once he was questioned his lack of real knowledge would become apparent.
And No a 9yo would not really understand the consequence of accusing someone of sexual abuse , they would know it was wrong but not just how wrong.
At the same time he could have said he made it up as things went to fast and to far for him.
Only he and the other boys know the truth.
I never suggested at any time that you made this up. However, you did suggest that this was a news item but it turns out it was a problem in a tabloid agony aunt page, which are all made up.
So you go onto a showbiz news website and regard that as news? That is what DS is? Isn't it?