Taking young children into opposite sex toilets
Blondie X
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I wanted to discuss this as it came up on another thread and I was surprised by a few of the comments.
Someone seemed to feel it's completely inappropriate for a man to take his young daughter into the gents these days and they only ever use the baby changing or disabled loos when out with her.
Someone else thought it was wrong for a mum to take a little boy into the ladies.
I must admit being a bit shocked by those views, they're kids who need a wee, that's all.
What are your views?
Someone seemed to feel it's completely inappropriate for a man to take his young daughter into the gents these days and they only ever use the baby changing or disabled loos when out with her.
Someone else thought it was wrong for a mum to take a little boy into the ladies.
I must admit being a bit shocked by those views, they're kids who need a wee, that's all.
What are your views?
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Taking a little girl into the gents is a bit different because they are usually urinals aren't they ?
But I don't really see what the alternative is if a man is out with his daughter somewhere.
Most gents do have a couple of cubicles according to my OH
That's right, we have to have a No.2 in them too.
I thought it was more about what she may see and ask questions about a bit like that bit in Three Men & A Little Lady where they blindfold her before they take her in
As a father and a man who has a natural urge to protect all children, I find this very disturbing.
You see I never get this sort of thing either - if your child asks questions then you just explain things to them. If my husband took my daughter into the gents and she asked why they were peeing standing up or anything else then where is the harm in just explaining it?
I wouldn't say it's that so much or a man would be happy to let his young daughter go into the ladies alone.
Even when I was a kid I don't think I wasn't allowed to go into a public toilet alone until I was about 7 and even then my Mum waited outside I think she trusted me to be ok when I was 8 and that was only if we knew the area.
To be fair 90% of murders are carried out by men, so men are the more aggressive sex, even if realistically 99% of all men would never commit violence towards women or children.
Having said that, I do agree that we're suffering from 'phedophile paranoia' at the moment. .
...A man out with his two young daughters asked me if I would take his 2 little girls into the toilets as there was no way he was going to take them in the blokes.
Sort of the same here but as he saw my Mum and Bother are in wheelchairs he asked if we had a key for the disabled toilet and could we let him in.
I find that even more disturbing unless he knew you.
I recall being in Spain many years ago and my young son (aged around 2 or 3) who was running some way in front of us in a pedestrian area fell flat on his face. A man of around 60 who was sitting nearby, lept to his feet and immediately picked up my son (who was crying) and started saying things (in Spanish!) to comfort him. He was also wiping his tears away.
In Spain there is no chance at all that his actions would have been interpreted as anything other than an instinctively kind gesture by a concerned man. I can't help thinking however, that if the same thing were to happen in the UK, a significant number of people would immediately think he was a sexual pervert - and wrestle their child from his arms. Maybe even openly berate him and accuse him of being such.
We're not perverts.
Please feel free to bring your child into the gents without fear of us molesting them.
Not sure what I find icky about man taking girl into male toilets - I think I just imagine them to be less hygienic?? I mean cubicles in mens toilets are 9 times out of 10 for men to take a dump right??
Christ people love taliking about taking dumps.!:D
Look i see no problem with young girls going into male toilets with their dads when young, most of the male toilets i have used to date are kept clean and fresh.
If you have to use the loos when out there is very often a disabled loo nearby anyway.
I think most people would think that was sensible are female loos any cleaner well i do not know.!
Never an issue, but then it's not as if everyone having a wazz is stood there waving their knob about for all to see.
I see strangers comforting or playing peek a boo etc with children every day without any strange looks or gasps of horror.. Don't believe our media or even discussion boards.
I am not an attention seeking person, but on one occasion I was so indignant at the presence of a boy with a broken voice and facial hair being towelled down by his mother that I went and stood about a yard away from him with no clothes on and dried myself very slowly. His mother gave me the filthiest look and pushed him away.
Now that is worrying being towelled down by your mum at that age, at that age i would not have wanted my mum anywhere near me in that capacity. :eek::eek:
TBF just by looking a the situation like that you have no idea if the boy has leaning difficulties just because he can shave and has a broken voice doesn't mean he can do it himself he may have the mental age of a young child.
I know people in their 30's who still need help like that but you wouldn't know it to look at them
I have absolutely no problem with dads taking their little girls into the mens restrooms. I mean its just for a pee. People who think there is something perverted about this must have a perverted mind themselves.
Even I use the mens restrooms from time to time as there is very often a enormous queue for the womens restrooms.:D