Moving In With Your OH
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If you live with your OH, how long did you "date" before you moved in with them? Was it a matter of weeks, months or even years?
I only ask because I'm thinking of taking this step... we've been seeing each other since November and spend ALOT of time in each others places, them staying at mine or me staying there.
Thanks for any replies
If you live with your OH, how long did you "date" before you moved in with them? Was it a matter of weeks, months or even years?
I only ask because I'm thinking of taking this step... we've been seeing each other since November and spend ALOT of time in each others places, them staying at mine or me staying there.
Thanks for any replies
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Then rent out your own gaff and get the mortgage (if you have one) paid!
When you say November, do you mean the one that we had 2 weeks ago??
I rent, so does he.
It was the beginning of November Pretty quick, I know! Although we met in September.
We've been happily living together for 3yrs now, getting married in August.
A lot of people thought we were moving in too quickly, but everybody's different.
We have alot of history, was in a relationship for a while then split, now back together, im sure its the real deal this time but wont make any decisions on officially getting our own place yet!
I think with regards to moving in together, when its time, it will happen
Although OH has had christmas do tonight and after too much drink has a tendancy to
snore and take most of my bed up! so im awake posting on here, this part is the downside
In my case I met my now wife at university in 2001, and didn't live together until I returned to the UK, and she decided to join me in 2003. We got married in 2007.
Take your time... mistakes can be expensive, but by the sound of it, you've pretty much made your mind up though.
No way would I move in with someone I'd only been with a month...
We moved in 3 months after meeting and that was 17 years ago. We have been happily married 15 years. If the person is the 'one' it makes no difference how long before you move in together. It does take compromise and tolerance to get used to living with someone though.
Worked for us!
We're in our second place now - LONG story.
I would have been very reluctant to move in together any earlier than that just because I'm familiar with the exciting butterflies and infatuation of a relationship in its early months wearing off a little further down the line. However, everyone's different and what works for me won't work for everyone else and vice versa.
We bought a place together 4 years ago and we're still together 7 years after meeting, I'd say though that the first few years were not as good as they are now (early years were about making adjustments).
We were together for 2 months when we got our first house together. People said we were rushing into it but that was nine years go and we're as happy as ever.:D
I hated living at home and he was living with a housemate he couldn't stand. A house by his landlord became available over the road from his old house and we decided to move in. Its been almost 4 years now and we've been married for one.
I know one girl who met her OH one day, asked him round for a drink that evening and he has still not gone home 8 years later.
Obviously different things work for different people. You have to do what is right for you. I'm not going to say it was easy. He settled into it very easy whereas I was quite firey back then and found it hard to ajust.
I too found it hard to adjust as I was a pain in the bottom having been spoilt by my Mum.
We have been together for 9 years and married for 7 it was a crazy thing to do at the time, but for us, after meeting just once, it worked.
We felt we knew each other inside out anyway after talking for so long online and on the phone.
Two days. Well, a little over 24hrs to be precise.
She stayed the night and never went home.
It was the easiest decision we made to move in together, we've lived together now for a year and a half very happily and next year we're moving to a new place with more space so that we can settle down a bit more.
Less than a month and you want to move in together?
No, no, no, no.
Just no. Terrible idea.