So worried about my son starting secondary school tomorrow
gorsewaygirl
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I know I'm just being stupid but I am so worried. Not sleeping great and just feel really anxious about the whole thing.
My son is fine, he is excited, he has been well prepared by his new school - they had all the new kids doing sport once a week for 4 weeks so he has already made some new friends and is looking forward to it.
So why am I so scared? I don't want him to be bullied like I was and everything is going to change isn't it
My son is fine, he is excited, he has been well prepared by his new school - they had all the new kids doing sport once a week for 4 weeks so he has already made some new friends and is looking forward to it.
So why am I so scared? I don't want him to be bullied like I was and everything is going to change isn't it
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Be proud that you've raised a sociable young man who's looking forward to going to school.
Don't let him pick up your fears, be excited for him and with him.
Good luck xx
He's my first born and his little sister is just going in to year 4. It just feels like they are all growing up and he's not going to need me anymore like he has done.
I know it's good that he is confident about it all and not worried, I've made sure he's got all the stuff he's going to need, the 'right' shoes and bag and so on.
I don't know - just being stupid aren't I. My husband says I don't need to worry and he'll be fine. I'll probably feel better after his first day won't I.
I taught in a secondary schools for 38 years and I can assure you that in all that time there were very few (fingers of one hand) problems when kids first started.
I think you are just realising that time is passing and your wee boy is growing up. (((((hug)))))
Look how easily I give advice!! I cried my heart out when my wee lass started school
I think my Mum experienced the same thing. Sadly her fears were eventually proved correct - by the time I went off to uni I was fully independent and was bad at staying in touch. I'm sure your son will be better at all that when the time comes.
It is the growing up thing really isn't it. Realising I can't keep him with me all the time anymore. The growing independence that is developing - making his own decisions. I've just got to get used to the change I suppose. I'm sure I'll be better after he's had his first day.
I am going to try and stay positive
It's hard, isn't it? The more successful you are as a mother, the less they need you, and the more they're capable of standing on their own feet.
Your boy will be fine - and you'll find they need you in different ways when they grow up. (Mine need me to babysit the grandchildren.
No-one wants their child to be bullied and schools have a much better record at dealing with this now, than they did when I was a kid. I think every parent is anxious when their child starts school, it's just how and when you show it, isn't it - most people keep it to themselves, because MOST children don't get bullied. Just as long as the child is comfortable telling you any problems they have, you should be fine. Don't go down the road of wrapping the child in cotton wool and insisting on driving them there 'in case they're bullied', children have to gain independence and autonomy, and intervening like this isn't going to help. We had one parent at a school I was a governor at whose parent insisted on trying to walk the child to their desk.
When the time came, it was an anxious day but he returned home and he was all smiles. His fears came to nothing but good fun.
Seems like only yesterday. He's 33 now, still loves his Mum and I still worry about him, bless him
All will be well, you'll see
Your son will still need you but in different ways. Boys aren't always so good at opening up but make sure he has opportunity to do just that. Things will be changing for him as he grows up but inside he is still a little boy so bear that in mind. I am sure he will be fine!
I left him at the Playground looking utterly lost & I cried all the way to work.
Picked him up afterwards and he was bouncing about telling me all about his new friends & teachers... Feel much better now, kids cope with things much better than we give them credit for!
Good luck, I wont say dont worry because you will, just have confidence that you've brought him up to be well-adjusted & happy & that you cant go through the experience for him x
NO NO NO. You are not being stupid at all. You are just a loving Mum. Don't hide or deny your feelings, they are normal. I could cry buckets at the moment for all mine as they are all entering new stages in their lives and although wonderful and correct its hard and an emotional time.
It's far easier to accept your feelings than try and ignore them and pretend its all ok. Have a cry, feel sorry for yourself in private and then plaster that smile for when he comes home.
It's so easy for husbands or whoever to say 'not to worry'.
Hope all goes well for you both. You won't be on your own with your feelings...I have cried numerous times in the night just recently. Buy yourself a bunch of flowers, you deserve it.
I will worry all day (that is a given) and then he will burst through the door with a big smile and give me an edited version of his day. And how much he enjoyed it. And then I will worm all the juicy details out of him and he will laugh at me like he usually does.
Have read some of my friends FB messages whose children have started at different schools today and they all seem to have made new friends and enjoyed themselves.
So that is how it is going to be for my son - and this positive thinking is going to get me some sleep tonight...
Snap! My son is 33 and it just feels like yesterday that he was setting of in his too- big royal blue blazer.:D I wasn't anxious as he was ready for secondary school and he was looking forward to it too.
That's the spirit!
Don't let him see that you are scared. or you'll communicate nerves to him. It's only natural to be anxious for him, but he sounds like he's going to cope just fine. Most of them do.
Sat here twiddling my fingers when he was at primary we were still getting ready to walk there!