Yes I do fear dying - and life seems to be rushing by now at an ever accelerating pace. Christmasses and birthdays come round faster and faster it seems.
I love life. There is so much to enjoy. I can't bear the thought of one day not being here to see the English spring and hear birdsong and feel the sun on my face. The thought that everything will go on without me and eventually I will be totally forgotten upsets me.
I also fear HOW I die.
I am terrified of choking to death in some way - of struggling to breathe.
I think I would almost welcome Alzheimers in old age because then at least I wouldn't worry about these things any more.
Yes I do fear dying - and life seems to be rushing by now at an ever accelerating pace. Christmasses and birthdays come round faster and faster it seems.
I love life. There is so much to enjoy. I can't bear the thought of one day not being here to see the English spring and hear birdsong and feel the sun on my face. The thought that everything will go on without me and eventually I will be totally forgotten upsets me.
I also fear HOW I die.
I am terrified of choking to death in some way - of struggling to breathe.
I think I would almost welcome Alzheimers in old age because then at least I wouldn't worry about these things any more.
Unfortunately with Alzheimer's disease it is the family and friends you LEAVE who have the pain. I am having a lot of difficulty being polite in my reply here, it's not something I or any of my family, would ever wish.
Unfortunately with Alzheimer's disease it is the family and friends you LEAVE who have the pain. I am having a lot of difficulty being polite in my reply here, it's not something I or any of my family, would ever wish.
I know - my father had Alzheimers for ten years before he died. I cared for him until eventually he had to go into a home and I visited him daily. I used to drive home after those visits with tears pouring down my face.
But my father wasn't afraid of death. I noticed that. He lived in this kind of daze - a dream world. It seemed better than other deaths I've witnessed where there has been pain and terror.
That's why I say that for the person with Alzheimers at least there is no more fear.
And of course it's bad for those left behind to care for you but I would have no-one to do that anyway.
This part of the poem "Aubade" by Philip Larkin sums up pretty much what I feel about death.
Till then I see what's really always there:
Unresting death, a whole day nearer now,
Making all thought impossible but how
And where and when I shall myself die.
Arid interrogation: yet the dread
Of dying, and being dead,
Flashes afresh to hold and horrify.
The mind blanks at the glare. Not in remorse
- The good not done, the love not given, time
Torn off unused - nor wretchedly because
An only life can take so long to climb
Clear of its wrong beginnings, and may never;
But at the total emptiness for ever,
The sure extinction that we travel to
And shall be lost in always. Not to be here,
Not to be anywhere,
And soon; nothing more terrible, nothing more true.
This is a special way of being afraid
No trick dispels. Religion used to try,
That vast, moth-eaten musical brocade
Created to pretend we never die,
And specious stuff that says No rational being
Can fear a thing it will not feel, not seeing
That this is what we fear - no sight, no sound,
No touch or taste or smell, nothing to think with,
Nothing to love or link with,
The anasthetic from which none come round.
Lol highly possible - though it's more likely she would throw herself into her work and end up running some animal sanctuary in the middle of nowhere, or surrounded by cats.
I always say in these threads, that I fear dying young, before I feel fulfilled or missing out on seeing my daughter grow up. I don't think I have anything to fear once I'm already gone.
I know - my father had Alzheimers for ten years before he died. I cared for him until eventually he had to go into a home and I visited him daily. I used to drive home after those visits with tears pouring down my face.
But my father wasn't afraid of death. I noticed that. He lived in this kind of daze - a dream world. It seemed better than other deaths I've witnessed where there has been pain and terror.
That's why I say that for the person with Alzheimers at least there is no more fear.
And of course it's bad for those left behind to care for you but I would have no-one to do that anyway.
This part of the poem "Aubade" by Philip Larkin sums up pretty much what I feel about death.
Alzheimers is a particularly hard and emotionally exhausting illness to deal with. I can only imagine what you had to deal with. xx
Came the last night of sadness
And it was clear she couldn't go on
Then the door was open and the wind appeared
The candles blew then disappeared
The curtains flew then he appeared...saying don't be afraid
Come on baby...and she had no fear
And she ran to him...then they started to fly
They looked backward and said goodbye...she had become like they are
She had taken his hand...she had become like they are
Come on baby...don't fear the reaper
I have no fear of death, it's an inevitability. Should I have chance for a moment of reflection just before it happens I feel I've done enough already to look back on my life fondly and without regrets knowing I had a pretty good go at it.
I rarely even think about it. It's only when it is mentioned that it crosses my mind.
I don't fear being dead, but I do fear or am annoyed by the fact that I won't be able to see what the world is like in say a hundred or a thousand years. As a lover of history and also of current events that will become historical, I fear that there is so much I will miss out on.
Came the last night of sadness
And it was clear she couldn't go on
Then the door was open and the wind appeared
The candles blew then disappeared
The curtains flew then he appeared...saying don't be afraid
Come on baby...and she had no fear
And she ran to him...then they started to fly
They looked backward and said goodbye...she had become like they are
She had taken his hand...she had become like they are
Come on baby...don't fear the reaper
I have no fear of death since my dad told me, when I was about 6 that there was no point in worrying about it as everyone went through it. Strangely, now, I found that comforting.
I never think about it unless I think it's imminent, like when I see the car at the last second crossing the road, or I fall down stairs. I don't want to die any time soon, but it doesn't really weigh on my mind. Maybe it will when one day I find the years have got behind me, but I hope not.
I always think of Dylan Thomas - 'Do not go gentle into that good night' when I think of death.... Although I don't want to go kicking and screaming would rather go peacefully in my sleep if possible...:)
Can you explain how Chopra is a sham?....he writes and lectures based on his opinion and he is a real medical doctor....
He's rambling on about people having a soul, something that cannot be estalished and is designed to appeal to people believing in a god. He can have no concept of life after death.
People don't have souls. They evolved from simple organisms on this planet, a planet in an incredibly vast universe, which if you could travel at the speed of light you would never travel its vastness.
He's rambling on about people having a soul, something that cannot be estalished and is designed to appeal to people believing in a god. He can have no concept of life after death.
People don't have souls. They evolved from simple organisms on this planet, a planet in an incredibly vast universe, which if you could travel at the speed of light you would never travel its vastness.
I fear dying while my children are still so young, But i came to terms with the fact that i'm gonna die one day a long long time ago.
I try to live everyday with my children to the fullest, no matter what:).
I find it slightly worrying that a qualified medical doctor can have so little understanding of evolution. He preys on the gullible who lap up his nonsense.
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I love life. There is so much to enjoy. I can't bear the thought of one day not being here to see the English spring and hear birdsong and feel the sun on my face. The thought that everything will go on without me and eventually I will be totally forgotten upsets me.
I also fear HOW I die.
I am terrified of choking to death in some way - of struggling to breathe.
I think I would almost welcome Alzheimers in old age because then at least I wouldn't worry about these things any more.
Unfortunately with Alzheimer's disease it is the family and friends you LEAVE who have the pain. I am having a lot of difficulty being polite in my reply here, it's not something I or any of my family, would ever wish.
But my father wasn't afraid of death. I noticed that. He lived in this kind of daze - a dream world. It seemed better than other deaths I've witnessed where there has been pain and terror.
That's why I say that for the person with Alzheimers at least there is no more fear.
And of course it's bad for those left behind to care for you but I would have no-one to do that anyway.
This part of the poem "Aubade" by Philip Larkin sums up pretty much what I feel about death.
....she sounds kooky..I like.
Seconded.
Alzheimers is a particularly hard and emotionally exhausting illness to deal with. I can only imagine what you had to deal with. xx
"I'm not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens"
And it was clear she couldn't go on
Then the door was open and the wind appeared
The candles blew then disappeared
The curtains flew then he appeared...saying don't be afraid
Come on baby...and she had no fear
And she ran to him...then they started to fly
They looked backward and said goodbye...she had become like they are
She had taken his hand...she had become like they are
Come on baby...don't fear the reaper
I don't fear being dead, but I do fear or am annoyed by the fact that I won't be able to see what the world is like in say a hundred or a thousand years. As a lover of history and also of current events that will become historical, I fear that there is so much I will miss out on.
Love that song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdXfkkyI1nQ
Absolutely right!
Can you explain how Chopra is a sham?....he writes and lectures based on his opinion and he is a real medical doctor....
But the amazing Randi isn't right?......Don't you sometimes like to hear differing opinions than those that complement yours?
I like this video about death....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pU7ftKGY37s
He's rambling on about people having a soul, something that cannot be estalished and is designed to appeal to people believing in a god. He can have no concept of life after death.
People don't have souls. They evolved from simple organisms on this planet, a planet in an incredibly vast universe, which if you could travel at the speed of light you would never travel its vastness.
Another charlatan for the masses.
ditto !
I try to live everyday with my children to the fullest, no matter what:).