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Relationship Age Difference
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I'm 15 and for a couple of months have been chatting with a boy who is 18, I realy enjoy his company and have feelings for him, he has also told me he likes me and about two months ago asked me to be his girlfriend, I turned him down because I wasn't ready for a serious relationship and he said if I liked him he would wait untill I was ready. However I'm still unsure about the age difference, I know three years isn't alot and many of my friends have boyfriends older than 18, but he would be my first serious boyfriend and I don't know how my parents would take it, I also wouldn't know how to tell them as they are quite old-fashioned and protective of me, he has suggested that we wait untill I'm sixteen as it may be easier for them to accept but I still don't think my parents would be happy with the idea ..
I'm not sure what advice I'm after from this thread if I'm being honest, I think I just need to hear other's opinions and any advice you can give would be appreciated
I'm not sure what advice I'm after from this thread if I'm being honest, I think I just need to hear other's opinions and any advice you can give would be appreciated
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All parents are different, but you are growing up. This doesn't mean instant all adult access in terms of respecting who you go out with though. It's about compromise, bringing him round to meet your parents first, telling them where you are going, what time you will be back etc. As things go along I'm sure the fact you talk to them first and showing you can be trusted/a level of maturity means getting more freedom. That's how it worked for me anyway, like I said all parents are different!
Thanks for your help I'm going to wait untill I'm 16 before we make anything official, if he's happy to wait untill then I know he's not just using me. Hopefully if I'm honest with my parents, like you say, they will accept him in time, I'm just worried about their reaction atm.
You seem very sensible to me, just also remember that you only go through your teens once and enjoy yourself as well! The only advice I can give about your parents is be honest but also cautious. I myself would probably say that this guy is a friend, he's really nice, polite etc. It helps to mention good points like he's going to be a doctor or work for NASA one day . If that's not true then I'm sure there are other things about him that will make your parents see that he's not just an older guy trying to take advantage of their little girl. But for now, just enjoy a good friendship with this lad, if he's a good 'un he will understand the wait.