So hate be cliche but there's this girl.
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Basically as the title says, We've been good friends for about two years and I've liked her from pretty much the word go. To make a long story short she eventually found out and we've discussed once or twice she wasn't interested carried on being friends. She got a boyfriend I reacted rather childishly about it everyone else in the friendship group said I didn't and that she's been dicking me about on purpose. They broke up but I didn't make a move and staus quo was restored,we've never been on a date or gone past a pity snog. Anyhow yesterday was our sixth form leaveing celebration day thing before all our exams in June so we all went the pub down the road for a bit to break up the tedium of revision. This girl said she wasn't gonna go because she didn't have the money to go and seeing as we were only going the one pub and seeing as I'm only 18 at the tail end of next month I was only gonna be drinking coke so I could make do on a fiver so I gave her a fiver. Anyway on route to the pub she started going on about how I'm apparently going to get loads of girls at uni because I'm really nice and won't mess anyone about and she thinks I'm quite good looking, this struck as an odd thing to say but I laughed it off. At the pub she was very touch feely as in lots of hugging which she was starting not me. She was also very complimentary. I thought I was strange but I just thought I was overthinking things. However today a friend said how he thinks I should ask her out for at least one date because he saw how in his words 'close and cuddly' and 'cute' we were at the pub and it made him feeling sorry for me. So pity on top of overthinking things great. So sorry about the long post but what should I do anything nothing? I am over thinking it and on a scale of one to ten how much should I be revising right now instead if thinking about this? 
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I had two friends in a similar situation just after we left school though, and this could be totally irrelevant but I'm just gonna say it anyway. What happened in my group of friends - the guy liked the girl through our last year of school, she was with someone then single but knew all the time he liked her. We left school in May and she mucked him about a bit until around the end of August when she decided she wanted to be with him, only to decide she didn't want to do a long distance thing and ended it. Basically what had happened was she was worried of losing him as her "safety blanket" for a relationship.
But she was a bit of a horror all round so it may be a totally pointless thing to tell you haha! It was just because you said others thought you'd been mucked about before, it was my very long winded way of saying be careful!
At your age I rarely thought of anything else.
What are you waiting for, a gilded invitation?
what rubbish, are you saying that you can't go out with friends if you have a gf or bf ?
Only you know what you want to do and what you want out of it. Personally id have had no problem with a long distance relationship at uni because i was more interested in studying than socialising. But if you want to network and go out a lot without having to check in with someone then maybe its best not to get into a relationship and see how it goes.
Theres nothing to stop you going to uni single and seeing how things go and then in the future starting a relationship with her or are you worried she will meet someone else if you dont make a move quick?
Its not impossible but it does make it harder. When my sister was at uni she used to go out with her mates every weekend but when she got a bf she spent most weekends with him so didnt go out with the mates that often. In her third year her bf had graduated and started work so wasnt free every weekend and my sisters mates had all moved on without her so she got left out lf a lot of the group outings because shed ditched them before and now they all had just gotten used to going out without her.
So she spent most weekends either in alone or coming home for the weekend.
When its a new relationship, which this one would be, young people throw everything into it and often forget about the mates and drift away from them. It happens to people not at uni, but with the distance and often trust issues it just makes it harder.
It's not that so much. I quite like her, but lots of friends who have been friends with her longer than I have saying she's leading me on and playing me like a fool. I don't see it myself but maybe I'm just being naive? Certain friends seem to think I'm in love with her. I'm not I don't even knowing the meaning of the word yeah she's really pretty and she's got a smile that lights up a room and we like similar things and we can talk about anything and just being around her makes me happy but it's not love.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing."
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No I mean if you have a long distance partner you would have to go to see them at the weekends and you miss out on a big part of uni life (or if you didn't see your partner often it would be hard to maintain the relationship)? Particularly new relationships.
Forget her. Think Freshers Week instead
That's sort of the approach I want to take but I worry about losing her as a friend. Also I have never really made a move when I say we've discussed it we've literally done just that I've never Actually asked her out in anyway which is the arugement certain friends are using for why I should but I don't know.
Lol that's just something someone told me, but really there is absolutely no bad that can happen by doing what you want to do. If you want to ask her out, then ask her out. I've been there, believe me, but having grown up a bit, I would advise that you focus on your education more. Put all of your focus into your future and your studies
I don't think they're planning to get married, if they got together now it would likely be a summer fling, at that age relationships rarely last past the first few months at the best of times anyway.
I hope it's the start of something for you, but don't get your hopes up too high. It could just have been a rare mood for her on the day. She might be back to her usual "friends only" self the next time you see her.