No way. And I would never smack a child even if the parents begged me to. I used to work as a nanny and I think it is really unprofessional for a childminder to smack a child. It's illegal too.
I remember seeing a billboard saying "if hitting is working, why do you have to keep doing it?"
Too right. If you're having to use violence to control child then your parenting skills aren't working.
Didn't you see that other billboard saying ""if talking things through with them is working, why do you have to keep doing it about a million times with no perceptible effect?"
i'm often given permission but as i explain to them, you do not need to smack them, in fact all smacking does it show them you are out of control and not worth respecting
A friend of mine is babysitting for her neighbour. She also has a 3 year old son of her own. She babysits about four times a week, half a day. either nights or mornings.
She been given permission to smack the older girl she babysits for, if she acts up. The girl is five. And a few days ago, we both heard her say to my friend's son. They were up the stairs at the time, playing in his room "Jump on you're bed. if you don't I'll hit you on the back with this car.."
My friend said she would never smack the child. But she wishes she could. I asked why? She said because she feared she would be arrested if she did. even though the mum had given her permission to do so.
I would never hit a child for different reasons. I just find it wrong. My own child, maybe I would.
The poor child has nothing to do. I can see why she acts up. Her mum works, but instead of getting a proper child minder or putting her children in daycare, she pays her neighbour 10 pounds a day. And to be honest my friend is no good with children. she snaps at them constantly, and gives them nothing to do.
At 3 yeah you probably have to smack 'em on the arms when they do something wrong as they are not capable of understanding things yet.
At around 7 yo, you can just look at them fiercely and threaten them, i.e. make 'em FEAR you, and they will behave; no need to smack 'em anymore when they are 7yo or older.
I have never smacked my own children, so would not see the need to smack anyone elses child, I find it all a bit Victorian and authoritarian.
I would also not want someone to say that to me, as obviously they beat their own children and would not want to be blamed for any injuries on the child.
I never smacked my own, certainly would never smack anyone elses.
When I was training to be a teacher decades ago corporal punishment was allowed. As I went into a classroom to teach a class of 14 year old lads the previous teacher left dragging a boy after him. Ten minutes into the lesson the lad was returned in floods of tears from the beating he had been given. It was a totally vile and demeaning experience. But I expect the teacher felt better for getting something off his chest.:mad:
I was smacked maybe 3 times as a child.....all for times I did something bad or was doing something dangerous.
Smacking (and I mean a slap around a bare leg) should be an exception not a rule in parenting...I knew that if I was bad I could get a slap. And rarely was because of that threat.
Some people would say it's cruel for kids to live in fear, but I wasn't in fear, I knew there was a sanction available that was not nice...and I behaved accordingly. Children need boundaries.
I left my two year old son with a friend so that I could go to the hairdressers. When I got back my son was in a different pair of trousers and my friend told me it was because he had an 'accident'. I thought no more about it until we got home and my son told me that a lady had hit him and he wet himself. When I asked my friend what really happened she told me she had asked her neighbour to come and keep an eye on her kids and my son while she ran up to the local school to pick her daughter up. Whilst she was away her neighbour hit my son. Astonishingly she said that she had an agreement with her neighbour that if any of her kids were misbehaving then she could smack them. So this neighbour took it a stage further and hit my son without my permission. It took weeks for my son to stop wetting himself and he also developed a fear of strangers and would hide behind sofas etc when anyone came into the house. I took solicitors advice but in the end had to leave it because of the age of my son but the friendship between myself and my neighbour totally evaporated that day. So, no I would not hit another person's child and would not allow anyone to hit mine.
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Let's face it, if a person 2-3 times your size hit you you'd be screaming 'assault' and calling the police.
I am evil, and I probably put the apostrophe in the wrong place in "people's".
Ohhhh yes you did, and I totally agree with the thought.
Just don't get caught when you do it.:D
It sound to me like she has already had a fair bit of smacking if she has the idea it is how you get things done.
I wouldn't smack a child but it would be useful if they didn't know that and thought there was the possibility.
Didn't you see that other billboard saying ""if talking things through with them is working, why do you have to keep doing it about a million times with no perceptible effect?"
At 3 yeah you probably have to smack 'em on the arms when they do something wrong as they are not capable of understanding things yet.
At around 7 yo, you can just look at them fiercely and threaten them, i.e. make 'em FEAR you, and they will behave; no need to smack 'em anymore when they are 7yo or older.
I would also not want someone to say that to me, as obviously they beat their own children and would not want to be blamed for any injuries on the child.
When I was training to be a teacher decades ago corporal punishment was allowed. As I went into a classroom to teach a class of 14 year old lads the previous teacher left dragging a boy after him. Ten minutes into the lesson the lad was returned in floods of tears from the beating he had been given. It was a totally vile and demeaning experience. But I expect the teacher felt better for getting something off his chest.:mad:
Smacking (and I mean a slap around a bare leg) should be an exception not a rule in parenting...I knew that if I was bad I could get a slap. And rarely was because of that threat.
Some people would say it's cruel for kids to live in fear, but I wasn't in fear, I knew there was a sanction available that was not nice...and I behaved accordingly. Children need boundaries.
And no, ofcourse I wouldn't smack another persons child just because her meff of a mother thinks it's ok.