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CitrusBlast
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I need some advise from the mums out there, actually from anyone!! I've finally started taking my 9month old to a playgroup, he's really active and playful normally so I thought he'd love it. He doesn't!
He always gives the mums a massive smile but the other kids he just doesn't seem bothered about. He doesn't really move too far from me or seem that interested in the toys. The other kids are crawling all over the place but he doesn't really move much at all, complete opposite to at home when he gets everywhere and completely trashes the place. I don't think it's a clingy thing cos he doesn't even really seem to be that interested in me either
Then after about half hour he starts kicking off, tantrum, crying and I have to take him home. Should I be worried that he seems so bored and doesn't want to interact? I don't know whether to keep going or just give up for now.
He always gives the mums a massive smile but the other kids he just doesn't seem bothered about. He doesn't really move too far from me or seem that interested in the toys. The other kids are crawling all over the place but he doesn't really move much at all, complete opposite to at home when he gets everywhere and completely trashes the place. I don't think it's a clingy thing cos he doesn't even really seem to be that interested in me either
Then after about half hour he starts kicking off, tantrum, crying and I have to take him home. Should I be worried that he seems so bored and doesn't want to interact? I don't know whether to keep going or just give up for now.
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TBH sounds OK to me. Kids are not going to be the same, some are happy just exploring by themselves, my older one was. And 30 minutes is quite a long time for a 9 month all, I suspect he is pretty tired by then which is why he is kicking off.
Thanks for the replies everyone :-)
It's good to get him used to being around other little ones and in time he will get more used to it, he can sit with you have a drink and snack (always best to have one with you - mine loved bananas!) and a favourite toy, he will soon start to feel more comfortable, another thing you could do is think about staying for about 45 minutes and then increasing the time as he gets more used to it?
Don't be so hard on yourself I think as Moms we all go through that at some point, but babies do everything when they are ready, in their own time, so long as they are happy and healthy then that is all that matters.
I speak with personal experience here having raised three children they all did things at different times, I could not compare them at all! We are all very proud of our children and quite rightly celebrate their achievements, unfortunately this does mean we end up having children (often unintentionally) being compared against each other, so just enjoy your time with your little one, it goes so very very quickly, my eldest is 20 years old now - I have no idea where the time went!
I used to think the same with my first, my second seemed much more advanced but that's because he learns things from his older brother, though he was still "late" walking. Both my boys were just lazy I think, its easy to be lazy when you have servants, babies are cunning
I went to baby groups and all that religiously had the first one weighed and measured everything you think you should do, he is not really sociable even now at 6 despite what hv etc consider the "best start". My youngest has just turned 2 never took him to baby group or to be weighted and he is sociable as anything and speaks to everyone, plays well shares, happy as anything everyone always comments on it, they are all so different try not to worry or compare him to others....most children are walking and toilet trained by the time they hit their twenties;-)
I'd imagine that a noisy play group could be quite overwhelming for a little one but if he's happy albeit for a shory while and you enjoy the social side I'd keep going. You can always invite people round to yours.
Personally I found playgroups a bit of a minefield, one was so cliquey that I and others found it very uncomfortable, oh and the boasting and comparing potential child geniuses, sheesh.
I had my daughter first and took her to playgroups fairly regularly til she was about two, then in her one and only incident of biting, she had a chomp on a little girl who was after the same toy. Not a pleasant experience and she wasn't the only one who left in tears. When I had my son, I mostly took him to play with the children of two friends with children of similar ages.
Basically though I wouldn't worry about him not being bothered by others.
What kind of toys/activities are available? A few people have noted that he may be bored... If the toys are basic or similar to what he has at home, he may not see the novelty of going to the group. In our baby groups we used to have lots of sensory or messy activities, ie bubbles, foam, water, paint, fabric, music, lights etc which were things that some parents didn't have at home.
Thanks again for the reassurance everyone, I feel much better about it now