post-natal depression
I have an 18 week old son and as hard as I have tried to fight it, I think I have pnd
I can hardly bear to look at him atm and my husband is no use. My mother in law is beyond overbearing and my own family are miles away.
I feel so trapped and wish I'd never had him.
I can hardly bear to look at him atm and my husband is no use. My mother in law is beyond overbearing and my own family are miles away.
I feel so trapped and wish I'd never had him.
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Would you feel comfortable approaching your GP?
All this. Believe me you can and will come out the other side. Good luck.
Please go and see the GP about this to get that help that you need and please ask what there is in terms of local help such as health visitors and patient support groups. It's not uncommon and very many women recover with the right assistance. I have provided some links below and I do hope that things work out for you and your family.
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/postnataldepression/pages/introduction.aspx
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Postnataldepression/Pages/Treatment.aspx
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Postnataldepression/Pages/Realstories2page.aspx
This is all part of PND and once you get the help you need you wont feel this way.
Not every mother has an instant love for their newborns, sometimes it can take a while to bond.
Ring your GP, Health Visitor or even the midwife, they can all offer you valuable advice, there is support out there.
So get on the phone today and start getting the help and support you need. Good luck
I would strongly suggest that you get yourself down to your GP and try in set into action some kind of therapy.
The bit in bold says to me that you have suffered from depression before and managed to get yourself to a point where you had control. This isn't that much difference, you can get control of these thoughts and emotions as well.
You may feel like there is no hope, that having a baby is the biggest mistake in the world, that you are a terrible mother but the reality is never quite how we perceive when we are stuck in the black cloud which medical professionals call depression.
It's only when we manage to fight our way through the cloud that we begin to realise that actually things might not be brilliant but they are not hopeless and that we can get control back.
One of the hardest things that I have had to accept and ackowledge is just because I am doing ok now doesn't mean that I may not go back again at some point in the future. The thought that this could be a life long fight terrifies me.
My therapist and I are currently working on recognising signs and triggers so that if I do feel that I am going backwards I can try to get in there before I hit rock bottom.
I think medical intervention is urgent and essential. Wishing you best wishes and a speedy recovery.
I would echo this post completely. Health visitors can be a tower of strength at a time like this and obviously your family will give you support even if its from afar. I think the fact that you recognise something is wrong is a good sign and speaking to your health visitor or GP privately on your own will be helpful, I know your husband and MIL mean well and are trying to be encouraging and upbeat but only you know how you feel. Good luck, keep us posted ((((((((((hugs))))))))
Good luck x and look after yourself, you are very important to your family and baby.
My wife suffered from PND too and she now says that she started to overcome it when she started admitting to me - and others - how she felt.
Have you tried speaking to your husband?
You definitely need to speak to your health visitor or GP. Don't suffer this alone.
Things will get better for you.
Take care.