Personally it wouldn't bother me, his hair has been cut by a professional, it would have been done at some point anyway and has saved you some money I'd have been angry if his friend had cut it and it was a mess but I'm assuming this lady has done a good job.
This reminds me of something similar-ish from when I was younger. We went on holiday and left our pet rabbit with a neighbour, anyway when we came back our neighbour said her friend is a vet and cut our rabbits claws as they were getting a bit long, my mum went mad saying she had no right to do that, but I never understood what the issue was.
Not exactly the same, but its the same principle, I think:)
:D After all the outrage & squabbling on here, this proper made me giggle. Did the rabbit give consent for its claws to be cut?
OP, I think you have every right to be miffed and don't think you sound "controlling" at all. I would be too. Who cares if his hair will grow back? The fact is, she should have made a quick phone all to you - or got your son to do it - and just ask you.
And I'd also be miffed that she bloody charged him for it!
OP, I think you have every right to be miffed and don't think you sound "controlling" at all. I would be too. Who cares if his hair will grow back? The fact is, she should have made a quick phone all to you - or got your son to do it - and just ask you.
And I'd also be miffed that she bloody charged him for it!
a 13 year old goes out and he gets a sensible haircut all by himself, What a shock that most of been!!!
I know 13 year old's who smoke and get pissed every weekend. I actually mentioned it to one of the girls mother and she just said she can't control her.
I think it's nice that you care for your son, but at 13 you should be allowing him to experiment with hair, cloths etc. anything else though then come down on him like a ton of bricks.
And...?
Sensible haircut or not, the friend's mother should have run this by the OP first, or at least got the OP's son to run it by his mum, in my opinion.
OP, I think you have every right to be miffed and don't think you sound "controlling" at all. I would be too. Who cares if his hair will grow back? The fact is, she should have made a quick phone all to you - or got your son to do it - and just ask you.
And I'd also be miffed that she bloody charged him for it!
But it's not like there's a legal age of consent for a haircut though? What if he'd walked into a hairdressers and asked for a cut without parental supervision, would they refuse until they prove their parents' consent?
Indeed. That "abuse" claim is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on these pages. A professional did something that she was trained for, she was paid for an and neither the parent or the child are unhappy with the the end result.
But it's not like there's a legal age of consent for a haircut though? What if he'd walked into a hairdressers and asked for a cut without parental supervision, would they refuse until they prove their parents' consent?
I do see where you are both coming from but
it's more the fact that she took money off him for a service that she provided without the boy's parents knowing anything about it.
I think that's out of order.
I do see where you are both coming from but
it's more the fact that she took money off him for a service that she provided without the boy's parents knowing anything about it.
I think that's out of order.
I asked earlier but no response, OP visibly missing, surprise surprise. Should a 13 year old boy ask mums permission to spend his money?
I asked earlier but no response, OP visibly missing, surprise surprise. Should a 13 year old boy ask mums permission to spend his money?
Not necessarily, no. But should the friend's mother have asked permission to perform this impromptu haircut (bearing in mind that, according to the OP, this wasn't the reason her son was at his friend's house in the first place) and take money off of him for it? Yes I believe she should have.
Not necessarily, no. But should the friend's mother have asked permission to perform this impromptu haircut (bearing in mind that, according to the OP, this wasn't the reason her son was at his friend's house in the first place) and take money off of him for it? Yes I believe she should have.
Neither you nor I know what was discussed, agreed nor negotiated do we ? So assumptions are being made. Encouraged by the OP.
Neither you nor I know what was discussed, agreed nor negotiated do we ? So assumptions are being made. Encouraged by the OP.
Of course we don't since we weren't there. But that logic could be applied to pretty much every thread in this Advice section which would render it pretty much defunct if we are to assume that the OPs are deliberately not telling the whole story.
As it stands in this thread, the OP asked if they are being unreasonable to be miffed about what happened, I answered that I do not think she is, based on what she's said. What's the problem?
Of course we don't since we weren't there. But that logic could be applied to pretty much every thread in this Advice section.
The OP asked if they are being unreasonable, I answered that I do not think she is, based on what she's said. What's the problem?
So what? Are you saying you think this is a wind up?
The OP only started the thread yesterday. I've started threads before and not returned to them until a couple of days or so later.
In fact, the OP was last active when she posted this thread so it's not like she's been posting elsewhere.
Neither you nor I know why she hasn't returned yet; there could be many reasons for that being the case.
So what? Are you saying you think this is a wind up?
The OP only started the thread yesterday. I've started threads before and not returned to them until a couple of days or so later.
In fact, the OP was last active when she posted this thread so it's not like she's been posting elsewhere.
Neither you nor I know why she hasn't returned yet; there are many reasons for that being the case.
Back off. Many questions have been raised , rightly . We will await the OP s answers..
It is just not that interesting so I will leave you to it..
Then I am at a loss as to why you are quizzing me on my opinions about it and drawing attention to the fact that the OP hasn't returned since yesterday.
But anyway, it's no problem. Hopefully the OP will come back soon and answer your questions for you.
A 13-year old girl could go and get the pill from her GP without the GP needing to consult the parent.
Is the idea of a 13 year old boy getting a (sensible) haircut without his mums permission really that bad?
If it is then I've missed something. As a teenaged lad, I always used to go to the barbers on my own. I genuinely don't understand the concern of the OP and others over this issue.
As for the issue of the woman charging the boy, well so what? Hairdressing is her job, someone asked her to cut his hair, she charged for it. I don't know how much he paid for it, but let's assume for a second it was a fiver. If the woman owned a shop selling sweets and magazines instead and this boy wanted five quids worth of stuff, would people expect her to give it to him for free just because he's her son's friend?
I consider it abuse... Admittedly only a bit but still I would be furious if it was my son, especially if she took money?
It's not abuse at all. She is a hairdresser. She did a job and was paid. Maybe the OPs son told her he had permission. He is old enough to make a decision like this and as long as its not too outrageous it's nothing to get wound up about. He is growing up and starting to do things on his own, they all have to sometime.
IMHO a 13-year-old boy should be able to go and get his hair cut by himself without any parental involvement. It seems that he made a sensible choice of where to get it done and should be commended.
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And I'd also be miffed that she bloody charged him for it!
He's 13 not 3!
I know 13 year old's who smoke and get pissed every weekend.
I think it's nice that you care for your son, but at 13 you should be allowing him to experiment with hair, cloths etc. anything else though then come down on him like a ton of bricks.
And...?
Sensible haircut or not, the friend's mother should have run this by the OP first, or at least got the OP's son to run it by his mum, in my opinion.
The lad is 13. He's had his haircut not had a tattoo or his nose pierced, perspective required.
But it's not like there's a legal age of consent for a haircut though?
Indeed. That "abuse" claim is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on these pages. A professional did something that she was trained for, she was paid for an and neither the parent or the child are unhappy with the the end result.
I do see where you are both coming from but
it's more the fact that she took money off him for a service that she provided without the boy's parents knowing anything about it.
I think that's out of order.
I asked earlier but no response, OP visibly missing, surprise surprise. Should a 13 year old boy ask mums permission to spend his money?
Neither you nor I know what was discussed, agreed nor negotiated do we ? So assumptions are being made. Encouraged by the OP.
As it stands in this thread, the OP asked if they are being unreasonable to be miffed about what happened, I answered that I do not think she is, based on what she's said. What's the problem?
The missing OP.
The OP only started the thread yesterday. I've started threads before and not returned to them until a couple of days or so later.
In fact, the OP was last active when she posted this thread so it's not like she's been posting elsewhere.
Neither you nor I know why she hasn't returned yet; there could be many reasons for that being the case.
Back off. Many questions have been raised , rightly . We will await the OP s answers..
You're asking me questions and I'm replying to you. Calm down.
It is just not that interesting so I will leave you to it..
But anyway, it's no problem. Hopefully the OP will come back soon and answer your questions for you.
Is the idea of a 13 year old boy getting a (sensible) haircut without his mums permission really that bad?
If it is then I've missed something. As a teenaged lad, I always used to go to the barbers on my own. I genuinely don't understand the concern of the OP and others over this issue.
As for the issue of the woman charging the boy, well so what? Hairdressing is her job, someone asked her to cut his hair, she charged for it. I don't know how much he paid for it, but let's assume for a second it was a fiver. If the woman owned a shop selling sweets and magazines instead and this boy wanted five quids worth of stuff, would people expect her to give it to him for free just because he's her son's friend?
It's not abuse at all. She is a hairdresser. She did a job and was paid. Maybe the OPs son told her he had permission. He is old enough to make a decision like this and as long as its not too outrageous it's nothing to get wound up about. He is growing up and starting to do things on his own, they all have to sometime.