Having babies close together
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My son is 6 months today and I've just found out that I'm pregnant again. When this baby is born my son will be about 15 months, so I'll have 2 under 2. Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you cope, financially and emotionally?
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My brother is 14 years older than me, so when he left for university, my parents still had another 14 years of the school run to look forward to!
26 and 25 years later I have no regrets.
Congratulations
I have a friend at playgroup with a similar gap and she struggles as her eldest is extremely clingy and does not sleep well at all. So she essentially has two children up at various times throughout the night.
There's pro's & con's to every age gap. I believe everything happens for a reason, you'll cope fine. Congratulations
Advantages : girls grew up together, shared clothes and toys. Number one wasn't jealous when number two arrived as she was too young to understand that emotion. They have always been close friends. Having two close together means that you are not pulled in two directions with two children having different needs at the same time. School days go by so fast having them in successive academic years. You get to be a young grandparent !!
Disadvantages : sleep is a luxury to be enjoyed whenever you can. Life is hectic but ultimately enjoyable ..... really, enjoy it while you can, it seems like only yesterday that I was in your position and now I am on the point of empty nest and it's bloody awful.
Life was chaotic, messy, loud but lots of fun and I wouldn't have it any other way! My bro and sis are still incredibly close as adults too.
I had a condom break when my baby was just a few months and decided I just couldn't chance it and got the MAP.
We cope with what what have to cope with though and I am sure you will be fine.
Take advantage of any offers of help from friends and family!
There are 20 months between my two boys and it's great. The only problem I ever found was when the oldest was still having daytime naps they never coincided with the baby! Other than that it was great. He was just old enough to help out (fetching nappies and that kind of thing). They share a bedroom (2 boys) and are really very close. Rarely fight and always have each other to play with.
I went the other extreme and have two children born 21 years apart! One child wants to buy anything a la Peppa Pig, the other is getting a mortgage to buy a house!
My friends have a two and a half year old and twins aged 8 month. It's hard, very, very hard
The only extra things I'll need to buy at the moment are a pram and maybe a newborn sling.
I use cloth nappies so I'll just use the same ones on the baby when he/she comes along
The biggest challenge I'm facing is hiding my pregnancy from my family now. I'm hoping I can get away with it until december.
Thanks!
It was great fun growing up and we were never short of someone to play with.
They are now 6, 3 and 19 months - it is noisy, hectic, they fight, I never feel like I have a minute to myself, I'm constantly doing washing and ironing and I go to work for a rest!
On the flip side they are the best thing in the world, we have such fun together, they make me laugh daily and I'd be lost without my girls!
I'm nosey!
The older 2 fought like cat and dog for several years. The younger two are closer but also fight like mad, one minute then the next and best friends - like twins. All depends on the child and its personality, in other words and how well those random characters interact.
My oldest son, 3 years older than the 2nd, was always the most easy going and the least likely to fight. I think if he'd been more difficult I'd have never had more kids.
It was bloody hard but it's worth it.
I am now the Mother of three young women I'm in awe of. I'm their MUMMY and I'm so proud of them.
They fight and argue and socks will ALWAYS be an issue with them.
They are my girls and I love them
Mother had a double pushchair but in most photo's my brother is one of the kids sitting in it and either my sister and I are walking.
My sister and brother had curly red hair so people would think they were the twins. My hair was darker and straighter.
I don't know how anyone copes with twins. I've got 4 under 6 with 15 months between by youngest two and it's really hard work. My youngest has been a very difficult baby. I couldn't imagine two of him!
As others have said it's just a case of getting on with it. I have good days and bad days, but things are starting to get easier now the youngest is coming up to 18 months.
I realised the other day I've been constantly changing nappies since 2007!
I have friends who are also 10 months apart. They just missed being in the same school year by a couple of weeks.