Could you not physically hand them to her? You know, in person? When you meet?
It's not easy for me to leave work at lunchtime to get flowers, and I often start work before the shops open. So either I would have to send them to myself, or leave work and hope that there are 3 and a half roses still available somewhere
If someone receives flowers from someone else that in itself is not showing off, although they may then make a fuss about it.
If someone orders themselves flowers and lets it be known that is what they have done I don't really see what they are showing off about, their ability to order flowers?
If someone receives flowers from someone else that in itself is not showing off, although they may then make a fuss about it.
If someone orders themselves flowers and lets it be known that is what they have done I don't really see what they are showing off about, their ability to order flowers?
It's not easy for me to leave work at lunchtime to get flowers, and I often start work before the shops open. So either I would have to send them to myself, or leave work and hope that there are 3 and a half roses still available somewhere
Would you not just go to a petrol station? They're open til all hours.
I would be thrilled but no ones ever brought me flowers before so I'd be thrilled any day of the year. As previously mentioned in the thread getting them home on public transport would be a nightmare. The buses around here are bad enough as it is, manhandling a bunch of flowers on them wouldn't be fun.
I once took delivery of this vast bunch of flowers on Valentine's Day from some courier service and just as I was getting excited the man said "Can you look after these? Your neighbour's out."
ETA: To answer the q as I forgot - it is cringeworthy and a little bit stalkerish if they are ostentatiously sent to your place of work (unless you work from home). Also makes you look unprofessional like you can't divide work from homelife or your partner can't which still makes you look uncool. But then I once dumped someone for sending me a huge bunch of flowers - not on Valentine's Day but I just couldn't deal with it.
To be honest, I think all 'staged' romantic gestures have an element of show offery to them or are just well... not that romantic. I think an unexpected proposal on a wet Tuesday afternoon when you've both just been out for a walk and got soaked is more romantic than booking a trip to Paris, hinting to everyone that this is when it's going to happen, and plodding resolutely up to the top of the Eifel Tower so you can get down on one knee in front of a bunch of onlookers.
To be honest, I think all 'staged' romantic gestures have an element of show offery to them or are just well... not that romantic. I think an unexpected proposal on a wet Tuesday afternoon when you've both just been out for a walk and got soaked is more romantic than booking a trip to Paris, hinting to everyone that this is when it's going to happen, and plodding resolutely up to the top of the Eifel Tower so you can get down on one knee in front of a bunch of onlookers.
I think getting engaged at the top of the Eiffel Tower is incredibly romantic.
Why do you assume that it's done for 'onlookers' and not because its a beautiful venue?
I think getting engaged at the top of the Eiffel Tower is incredibly romantic.
Why do you assume that it's done for 'onlookers' and not because its a beautiful venue?
It's just my opinion and something I wouldn't like and wouldn't find romantic, especially with onlookers there, that's all. I find spontenaity and something special happening against a very ordinary background more romantic.
I sent my wife a huge bunch of flowers and a wedding invite to her work, two weeks before our big day. She thought it was a lovely gesture, so I couldn't really care if others think it tacky, aslong as my wife liked it
I think getting engaged at the top of the Eiffel Tower is incredibly romantic.
Why do you assume that it's done for 'onlookers' and not because its a beautiful venue?
I think this is the crux of the matter.
One person's "incredibly romantic" is another person's "unbelievably tacky". All you can do is pick up little hints as a relationship develops to gauge what the right thing to do is
I would be thrilled but no ones ever brought me flowers before so I'd be thrilled any day of the year. As previously mentioned in the thread getting them home on public transport would be a nightmare. The buses around here are bad enough as it is, manhandling a bunch of flowers on them wouldn't be fun.
One person's "incredibly romantic" is another person's "unbelievably tacky". All you can do is pick up little hints as a relationship develops to gauge what the right thing to do is
yes, I don't think you should consider asking anyone to marry you if you haven't worked out which type they are.
That's the thing which always strikes me tbh but then I use the tube in London. No way would flowers survive that! I think it's a pretty nice thing to happen otherwise. I have never seen anyone get them and be anything other than pleased and maybe a bit embarrassed (but in a nice way). Hopefully your partner would know if you were the kind of person who would be mortified and hate it.
It seems a bit curmudgeonly to regard it as showing off though.
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It's not easy for me to leave work at lunchtime to get flowers, and I often start work before the shops open. So either I would have to send them to myself, or leave work and hope that there are 3 and a half roses still available somewhere
Let's not:)
If someone receives flowers from someone else that in itself is not showing off, although they may then make a fuss about it.
If someone orders themselves flowers and lets it be known that is what they have done I don't really see what they are showing off about, their ability to order flowers?
Okay then.:)
Would you not just go to a petrol station? They're open til all hours.
she went ballistic ,,,,,,,,,,,,,
mind you she does work at the hayfever clinic
You?
No thanks.
This 100%
My OH bought me a bunch of daff's the other day (£1) and got our 15 month old to give them to me.
That means much more than a bunch of overpriced flowers being delivered to my work because it is a certain date.
I could do, but then I'd probably have them shoved up my arris
I think with flowers, you have to do them properly or not at all.
ETA: To answer the q as I forgot - it is cringeworthy and a little bit stalkerish if they are ostentatiously sent to your place of work (unless you work from home). Also makes you look unprofessional like you can't divide work from homelife or your partner can't which still makes you look uncool. But then I once dumped someone for sending me a huge bunch of flowers - not on Valentine's Day but I just couldn't deal with it.
Why do you assume that it's done for 'onlookers' and not because its a beautiful venue?
It's just my opinion and something I wouldn't like and wouldn't find romantic, especially with onlookers there, that's all. I find spontenaity and something special happening against a very ordinary background more romantic.
I think this is the crux of the matter.
One person's "incredibly romantic" is another person's "unbelievably tacky". All you can do is pick up little hints as a relationship develops to gauge what the right thing to do is
never
That's actually sweet.
yes, I don't think you should consider asking anyone to marry you if you haven't worked out which type they are.
nah, it wasn`t, it was all for show, it was the only year in eleven he bothered.
Really? he borrowed the money from her in order to buy her a flower... sweet? Really ?
Especially not in the middle of a packed football ground
Well the way I was picturing it, it was. Obviously not in reality though.
Just envy, I think.:D