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Saw this article today. It's happened to me, has it happened to any other FMs? How did you feel? Did you report it? Did anyone help?
My experience was outside a busy post office. A guy sitting in his car called me as I walked past and opened his door to show me he was masturbating. Personally I just thought he was a bit pathetic and gave him a dirty look and carried on with my day. I didn't report it. I wasn't frightened, although I do accept that it could be frightening for some women.
I'm curious to know if it is as common as the article says it is.
"When I was 13, a man sitting across from me on a crowded train took his penis out and fondled it. No one did anything."
There are some experiences that sound so extreme, so shocking, that there is a general consensus they must be very rare indeed. People would like to assume, understandably, that this story is a horrifying anomaly. But when I retweeted one woman's experience of being masturbated at this morning, the response was overwhelming.
A deluge of replies flooded in from women who had experienced the same thing. From grandmothers to girls who were six when it first happened, their reports came from London, Sydney, Frankfurt, Paris, Berlin, Barcelona, Brussels, Las Vegas, New York, San Francisco, Canada, Mexico, Ireland, Ukraine, Peru, and even Vatican City.
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/jun/26/women-being-masturbated-at-in-public
My experience was outside a busy post office. A guy sitting in his car called me as I walked past and opened his door to show me he was masturbating. Personally I just thought he was a bit pathetic and gave him a dirty look and carried on with my day. I didn't report it. I wasn't frightened, although I do accept that it could be frightening for some women.
I'm curious to know if it is as common as the article says it is.
"When I was 13, a man sitting across from me on a crowded train took his penis out and fondled it. No one did anything."
There are some experiences that sound so extreme, so shocking, that there is a general consensus they must be very rare indeed. People would like to assume, understandably, that this story is a horrifying anomaly. But when I retweeted one woman's experience of being masturbated at this morning, the response was overwhelming.
A deluge of replies flooded in from women who had experienced the same thing. From grandmothers to girls who were six when it first happened, their reports came from London, Sydney, Frankfurt, Paris, Berlin, Barcelona, Brussels, Las Vegas, New York, San Francisco, Canada, Mexico, Ireland, Ukraine, Peru, and even Vatican City.
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/jun/26/women-being-masturbated-at-in-public
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absolutely. It happened to me at a very young age and it was incredibly harrowing. Sadly these stories are often just laughed at or ignored. The dirty old man being widely accepted as part of society.
...at least not in public
One night, years ago, I was walking my Irish Wolfhound (and he was BIG, even for a wolfhound) when a guy at the bottom of the road we were on started to fiddle with himself, flies open.
I was really annoyed, and, not wanting him to think this was in any way ok, I walked straight up to him with my dog - who promptly stuck his considerably-sized muzzle right where he shouldn't (sorry to say this, but it must have been nice and smelly, at least to a dog).
I think the guy got the shock of his life! He backed off, hastily doing up his flies and scarpered.
I thought it was quite a good result, all round
I'm not sure what to make of that "casual sexism" website - some of the stuff is deeply shocking, whilst other posts are so silly and trivial that they seem to be insulting the truly bad ones.
She looked over her glasses at him and simply said "If mine was THAT small, I wouldn't want anyone to see it", got in her car and drove off.
I'd find it scary. Has never happened to me although I did years ago see a neighbour whip it out in his garden for a quick wee and I never looked at that man the same way again as he was quite an inoffensive, uninteresting man - but hung like a bloody donkey.
F*cking fuming and very angry.
Yes, police were very helpful.
Yes - and I will always be grateful to those who stuck up for me and helped out.
That piece of shit w*nker w*nked at the wrong person that day, I'm tellin ya. I had him charged, which was to become the SECOND time he'd been charged with a 'public disorder' offence.
Ive not seen a flasher for a very long time but then dont hang about in those places anymore. I'm betting it still goes on just as much as it always has.
My first sighting was when I was eight on a tube train. He was one of the dying breed - a black suit jacket, pinstripe trousers, black bowler hat, briefcase and the whole works. He seemed old. White hair, white moustache. Sitting alone in front of me. I can't remember who I was with, but it was during a late evening. We were probably on the way home from a cinema or something like it.
The last sighting - roughly eight years ago. Again on a tube. Got my attention when he stared intensely at me. As I was noticing his stare, I noticed how the folded newspaper on his lap bobbed, which made it clear what he was doing. I think I did an eye-roll and refused to look at him since.
The worst was on a N73 during rush hour on a Saturday when I was 12. A bloke sat next to me in a top decker. His elbow eventually kept digging into my arm and ribs. I thought he was trying to get my attention, but I realised what he was doing with his hand in his overcoat pocket. I pretended I didn't notice. I think I stared out of the window. What else could I do? I was trapped between him and the window. The bus was crowded, and my stop wasn't for another twenty minutes. I wasn't upset, though. It was more of feeling irritated, in a sense of "please finish it soon, because I don't like your bony elbow digging my ribs. I don't like sitting next to a weirdo, either."
That sort of thing was more common during my childhood and early teens. Never saw a flasher, though. Yay?
I suppose that depends on how you define "common".
It does happen, evidently, but as to how often, and how often that often translates to "common"...?
Not sure if there are any official and penis-fiddling-in-public speciifc figures.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Koro_(medicine))
There are quite a few blokes online who regularly film themselves wanking in public in front of women. If I saw it, he would get a hard kick.
It happened to me when I was 13, and I didn't actually realise what he was doing. An older person in the group quickly ushered us away. I remember to this day, the shock I felt when I was told what he was doing.