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Do you ever feel awkward encountering women in the street?
Jefferson
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In the sense you are concerned they may feel in some way intimitated by you, if say, the street is otherwise quiet. Even if you don't look like a hooded scally. And as a result you feel it necessary to avert your gaze, causing you to feel somewhat inhibited and awkward. Instead of being as you'd prefer, (as the old song goes) walking tall and looking the world right in the eye.
And is this more of an uptight English thing? Just overly concerned about others.
And is this more of an uptight English thing? Just overly concerned about others.
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I was walking home during the tube strikes the other night for work and there was a long period of me walking behind this woman I got the distinct feeling she was thinking I was following her so I crossed the road a to not make her feel uncomfortable (and save me getting a face full of mace
I can understand where he was coming from when he felt the need to apologise merely for being a bloke walking past a woman in a grim lonely underpass.
I can't blame them, to be honest, as he looked rather odd. A cross between Keith Allen and Udo Kier. But he turned out to be a nice guy, thankfully.
Also, just because I smile doesn't mean it's genuine. My public smile can cover a wide range of emotions including wariness, impatience, anger, nervousness and confusion.
If it's a quiet road at night then I always thought it was the gentlemanly thing to cross the road so as not to spook the woman.
I remember when I was a student coming back from a lecture. It was early evening, Winter, and dark. As usual, I took a slightly dodgy, deserted short-cut through a nasty part of the city back to our house, which meant going down this alley and then under a railway bridge known to us students as "the rape bridge." Anyway, as I was approaching the rape bridge, I heard footsteps behind me. I felt quite nervous and sped up, but the person behind sped up too (that was how it seemed, he probably didn't really). He caught up with me right at the bridge and overtook me. He was obviously completely harmless, and there was no reason he should have had to slow down to assuage my paranoia, but I still felt irrationally annoyed at him.
At the end of the day it's not me that is the problem though, it's the fact that there are people who are a threat and it's just part of the I despise those people with a passion.
What while walking along the road. If a man tried stroking my hair because I looked a bit scared of him I would go mad.
I did once pass a girl while walking to the shop one evening though, I was in a hurry as it was closing soon, so reached her pretty quickly and I clearly spooked her and felt really bad and apologized.
It is quite sad that women feel that way tbh as most people are just going about their business.
I am tall, have long legs, normally wear trainers and I walk really really fast. Even during the daylight hours I come up steaming behind women to overtake them and accidentally spook them as they don't really hear me until I'm close.
At night time, if I'm closing in on a woman on a quiet street I do often cross the road and cross back later on
I've never so much as lifted a finger to a woman in my life, so yes it makes me feel sad and a little angry to be honest.
The sad fact is that women are more vulnerable to attack, sexual assualt and rape on our streets. Most men with an ounce of humanitity are consious of that.
You really seem to dislike women. Why is that?