are open relationships becoming the norm.
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in the job i do i often get called to help others in their relastionship.
none of them have been an open one.but i am shock to hear that they all know someone that is in an open relationship. most of the time its the woife that can go and have sex with someone she like, the man seem to get a kick from it, over the years that i have been doing my job i hear it more and more, and now i have even found out that close frirnds of ours also have an open one. she has had sex with 3 other men in the last 6 years.
should i be shocked by this or is it just more the norm now?
none of them have been an open one.but i am shock to hear that they all know someone that is in an open relationship. most of the time its the woife that can go and have sex with someone she like, the man seem to get a kick from it, over the years that i have been doing my job i hear it more and more, and now i have even found out that close frirnds of ours also have an open one. she has had sex with 3 other men in the last 6 years.
should i be shocked by this or is it just more the norm now?
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I don't see anything wrong with having an open relationship, so long as you can both detach recreational sex from the emotional kind and everyone knows where they stand (or whatever position they prefer!).
It's the when people have sex outside a relationship without their partner knowing that I have an issue. Unfortunately, I think that's becoming more common too.
fromk what i understand its that they can have fun and talk about it after and both get a kick from it.
A wall?
No.
The only answer I can come up with is priest.
It clearly worked out well for you........
it did very well, the reason we are exes is not the case of this, we are still good friends
I dont thinks it more the norm, but I do think that the accessability of porn is changing the way some people behave, making them think that what they see on porn, is how people have sex.
So the men all have huge penis, the women dont have any hair and being watched by your partner or watching them with someone else is just how it is.
I know a few cheating idiots but no open crap.
I think its a bit naff, a bit greedy and a bit pointless, just be single???
Buuuuuuttttt each to their own, that is just *my* opinion!!!
if you want an open relation and have sex with others why be in a relationship in the first place.
i am gay and can be 100% faithful and monogomous, and will not look at another guy let alone touch them....to me monogomy comes with relationships.
lol no, i run courses for married couples and confidence building stuff and a life coach.
i teach about 100 different people a week lol
Most of my friends have the same thinking as me, 1 person for them and its an exclusive relationship. However I have another friend who if their partner said they could go and stray they would do it in a heartbeat.
well the sort of feed back from them is that it helps their relationships, they have fun doing it and both get a kick from one of them doing it.
my view of it is that one person in the relationship thinks the other is going to cheat on them so they let them do it with them knowing they are doing it. ....i tell them that this is down to low confidence in themselves in being able to make the relationship work.
yes **** buddy they often use.
from what i know its often an idea that both come up with as they get a kick from it, 90% if the time it is the women that will go and do the act.
one of them told me that if it was not for the games they would have split up, they have been married for 20 years.
most now use websites to meet others....we are not talking swinging here, thats not the same and as far as i know none of them do that.
I agree, if someone allows their partner to sleep with others (or even encourage) it must be down to a lack of confidence/low self esteem. It would be interesting to find out if people who allow their partners to sleep with others, have ever been cheated on while in a "closed" relationship, or perhaps have had bad experiences in previous relationships.