Popping the question

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 00:50

Hi folks,

I just wanted to canvas opinion on whether or not it's best to propose with a ring when popping the question, or choose one together? Part of me thinks it's more romantic to go out and buy the ring first, but some friends have put me off the idea.

Any thoughts?

Thanks

Billy_Value · 02/11/13 - 00:55

buy the ring i would

Relly · 02/11/13 - 01:02

How about: go shopping with her and 'accidentally' wander past the window of a jeweller's. Look at the watches and bracelets, and casually amble down past the rings, see what she says. She'll go "Oooh that's a nice bracelet/watch/ring". Make sure you window-shop in lots of different types of shop, though, so you disguise what you're doing:D

I seem to recall that being the way to canvas your lady's opinion on the style of rings she likes. I don't know if it's still done, though.

Edit: sorry, I forgot to add my opinion on your question. I think getting the ring first is the done thing and is more romantic. If you get her opinion on the type she likes by doing the above, it'll work out.

Bowmani · 02/11/13 - 01:04

Darcy_ wrote: »

Hi folks,

I just wanted to canvas opinion on whether or not it's best to propose with a ring when popping the question, or choose one together? Part of me thinks it's more romantic to go out and buy the ring first, but some friends have put me off the idea.

Any thoughts?

Thanks

Propose what with a ring?

Studmuffin · 02/11/13 - 01:04

Don't buy the ring.
My first husband proposed with a truly awful ring which I had to keep as he thought it was wonderful.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:07

Relly wrote: »

How about: go shopping with her and 'accidentally' wander past the window of a jeweller's. Look at the watches and bracelets, and casually amble down past the rings, see what she says. She'll go "Oooh that's a nice bracelet/watch/ring". Make sure you window-shop in lots of different types of shop, though, so you disguise what you're doing:D

I seem to recall that being the way to canvas your lady's opinion on the style of rings she likes. I don't know if it's still done, though.

Edit: sorry, I forgot to add my opinion on your question. I think getting the ring first is the done thing and is more romantic. If you get her opinion on the type she likes by doing the above, it'll work out.

Good idea! Thanks for the tip

Studmuffin wrote: »

Don't buy the ring.
My first husband proposed with a truly awful ring which I had to keep as he thought it was wonderful.

I've got very good taste thank you very much!!:D

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:08

Can't you use a Hoola hoop for the proposal then take her out to buy the ring together? Or some kind of round crisp/sweety thing.

Billy_Value · 02/11/13 - 01:10

Darcy_ wrote: »

Good idea! Thanks for the tip

I've got very good taste thank you very much!!:D

completely ignore everyone else's comments then

Deb Arkle · 02/11/13 - 01:12

avasgranny wrote: »

Can't you use a Hoola hoop for the proposal then take her out to buy the ring together? Or some kind of round crisp/sweety thing.

I echo the above advice - I enjoyed ring shopping (ooer missus!) and I wouldn't have liked to have my engagement ring chosen for me.

Also, using a hula hoop allows for said hoop to be removed from the ring finger orally - which could lead to much fun.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:14

Billy_Value wrote: »

completely ignore everyone else's comments then

Sorry mate, thanks for your input:)

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:15

avasgranny wrote: »

Can't you use a Hoola hoop for the proposal then take her out to buy the ring together? Or some kind of round crisp/sweety thing.

Deb Arkle wrote: »

I echo the above advice - I enjoyed ring shopping (ooer missus!) and I wouldn't have liked to have my engagement ring chosen for me.

Also, using a hula hoop allows for said hoop to be removed from the ring finger orally - which could lead to much fun.

A friend of mine did this, except he used foil and made it into a ring!

Thanks for the suggestion, something else to mull over.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:15

Deb Arkle wrote: »

I echo the above advice - I enjoyed ring shopping (ooer missus!) and I wouldn't have liked to have my engagement ring chosen for me.

Also, using a hula hoop allows for said hoop to be removed from the ring finger orally - which could lead to much fun.

Oops did I spell it wrong?

Deb Arkle · 02/11/13 - 01:16

I hadn't noticed - I was just thinking of having said hoop removed.....:D

Studmuffin · 02/11/13 - 01:17

Darcy_ wrote: »

I've got very good taste thank you very much!!:D

Doesn't mean it's the same as hers.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:20

Studmuffin wrote: »

Doesn't mean it's the same as hers.

Well all the other jewellery I've bought her as gone down very well.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:20

Deb Arkle wrote: »

I hadn't noticed - I was just thinking of having said hoop removed.....:D

Well it is friday night after all Deb. Have fun.

:D;)

Studmuffin · 02/11/13 - 01:26

Darcy_ wrote: »

Well all the other jewellery I've bought her as gone down very well.

Do what you like then.
You should have originally posted "I'm going to buy a ring and propose. Only post here if you agree with me".

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 01:47

Studmuffin wrote: »

Do what you like then.
You should have originally posted "I'm going to buy a ring and propose. Only post here if you agree with me".

Chill out! :cool:

AnitaS · 02/11/13 - 02:42

Buy a ring!!! Far more romantic.

But keep the receipt or make sure you like the ring enough to wear it yourself in case she says no.

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 03:00

Buy the ring. But don't be offended if she takes it back. But to be honest, if you buy a simply ring with a diamond or two she really cant complain.... unless its a £10 piece of crap

[Deleted User] · 02/11/13 - 03:11

Honestly it depends on the couple, only you know what shed rather do. My best friends fiancé got it spot on, but a different friend refuses to wear the one her girlfriend picked saying 'let's keep it safe'

Personally id rather he chose it, if im going to marry him I'd like him to know me well enough! Saying that though, id probably drop quite a few hints through the relationship to help, like how I wouldn't want a trilogy because what was meant to be my last engagement ring was...has she ever said anything that gives you an idea of what she wants?

Wolfsheadish · 02/11/13 - 03:19

How about this; you take her to the jewellers, propose outside (while looking in the window perhaps) then take her inside to choose a ring?

AnitaS · 02/11/13 - 03:36

Wolfsheadish wrote: »

How about this; you take her to the jewellers, propose outside (while looking in the window perhaps) then take her inside to choose a ring?

That's if she says yes...

gemma-the-husky · 02/11/13 - 04:37

I would propose, and buy the ring together.

solarflare · 02/11/13 - 04:42

Billy_Value wrote: »

buy the ring i would

Yoda?

evie squeezy · 02/11/13 - 05:00

My husband asked me to marry him with a ring box with the words will you marry me in the bottom and a hotel room booked in Birmingham so we could go to the jewelry quarter and choose together xx

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