Do You Fake It?
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I was talking to several colleagues at work, we were talking about relationships when one of them casual mentions that she has not had an orgasm throughout her sex life, which works out to be 20 years. :eek: So in order not to upset her fella she fakes it. The rest of us went silent - I mean what do you say when someone makes a revelation like that!?
So will anyone admit to faking it, if only to get your partner off so you can get some sleep?
Do tell!
I can honestly say I've never needed to fake it yet!
So will anyone admit to faking it, if only to get your partner off so you can get some sleep?
Do tell!I can honestly say I've never needed to fake it yet!
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I rather got carried away with that analogy, didn't I?
Even if I could, I wouldn't bother!
Gosh.
Joint pain meaning pain in your joints or pain for both of you?
Was it better with anyone else?
Well I have to be honest and say I have never faked it and neither has my girlfriend (at least not with me). Now of course (still being honest) there are times when, despite how wonderful I think my c*ck is, it doesnt do it for her, so out comes the rabbit and my tongue
Edit: We have quite an honest relationship and are open with each other, verbally as well as sexually, so I think its important to both be satisfied in bed, at the same time where possible! Having said that, when I first when on the Seroxat, one of the side effects is not being able to orgasm (I could get an erection) so there were quite a number of times when she was satisfied and I wasnt, but it didnt bother me as I love her and just wanted her to be happy. Maybe thats how it is for some women. The weird thing was, early in the medication (its fine now) I found myself thinking about other stuff while she was on top, like fixing the oil leak in my car and painting the coving on the ceiling. Again, maybe thats how it is for some women! :eek:
Now that you have pointed that out, I realised I could have worded that better!
I did mean to say pain in my joints.
It was better in the past but not specifically with anyone else. I only started with the whole sex thing about 4 years ago. And I think the only reason it was better was because I was younger.
Even at 21, the pain in my joints is, at times, bad enough to stop me from wanting to get up to use the loo when I need to.
Thankfully he insisted that we got some "Loving Angles", which are great foam things that can be put in any position/combination and we are able to find all sorts of inventive, almost pain free ways of using them.
I would recommend them to anyone!
We do, we just don't care. If you want to pretend, that is fine by us. Makes our life easier.
With that attitude I can well understand why you would be used to girls having to fake it....
Not all men are that selfish in bed atcually!
I honestly have - we were doing it for like 50 mins+ and I was getting a bit sore and the footy was about to kick off...
what a day in the kop that was
I've only climaxed a couple of times without involving anything else!
My point I was making is that it really only affects you. If you feel that you need or want to fake it then why should this affect the man. You have decided this course of action, you are the one not getting the goods. You are the one that needs to do something about it.
It's not being selfish.
Men can tell when it is fake, stronger, weaker etc for a woman, just as a woman can tell when a man has a stronger or weaker orgasm.
We don't care if you are content with lying about it, as obviously you don't care either - or you would do something about it.
You can't pin the blame on one side.
You did it in the kop before a match?
that was the joke... yes
p.s. i thought you were going to say - you call your girlfriend the Kop?
Really: men do not always know- there are plenty of ways to make it convincing. Do you know why we have to lie? It would be nice to talk about but men and their egos mean we often can't...
Why do you have to lie?
If you honestly believe we think it is an earthshattering event for the woman every single time, you are mistaken.
Similarly, I am sure you don't think it is earth shattering for the man every time. Or do you?
You do realise that sometimes for us it is OMG, sometimes aah that was nice, sometimes a mix, sometimes not. Depending on circumstances and what you are in the mood for. It's not like a tick box on a questionnaire. "Orgasm? Check. Great that's that." There are degrees.
Why would we think it is different for you?
Of course, I've been pretty open about that with any woman I ever slept with, so I hope no body has ever had to fake it, just because it would seem a waste.
Phazer
They have at some point. Get over it.
Bloody hell man, get off me I need my zzzzz's
it's only you that looses out so why do it?