Ever done something nice and not got the reaction you hoped for?
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Just a thought. Got a friend who's not well and tried to do something nice for them, but was laughed at. I feel silly/humiliated. It doesn't really matter what it was, it was the gesture. Have any of you had similar experiences?
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I have a neighbour who recently had surgery and is on crutches, as a favour I've been picking up shopping for him. After struggling home with half a dozen bags (I don't have a car) without so much as a "thank you" he complained I'd bought the wrong type of potatoes - and had a cheek to ask if I could take them back to exchange them! I told him where I'll take the potatoes... and it wasn't back to the shop.
The thing is - I didn't want a medal or anything and I know they didn't ask me to do anything - I still would have appreciated a 'thank you'. Ah well - nevermind.
My sister went into one and said it would be humiliating and degrading and she hasn't spoken to me since. I send them a Christmas card every year and never get one back now.
And I used to clean my old neighbour's windows for her, when I was doing mine...till she complained that I was leaving smears.
Not nice is it?
The person I attempted to do something nice for said that my gesture was silly and pointless.
That's so sad!
It isn't nice
I was called a "fool" by a mutual friend for helping, the guy I helped didn't need to say it, I felt like one. I initally offered to pick up essentials, like milk and bread, instead I was handed a massive list. People just make mugs of you if you let them.
Yes, often. It's the reason I don't do anything nice anymore, leastways not publically.
People either look at you gone out, as though you're a nutter, or it gets overlooked without a single acknowledgement. Or they think you're doing it for something in return.
Either that, or "Oh I couldn't possibly accept that" ~ fine, well don't. Sod you, ingrate :rolleyes:
I cant remember exactly what he said but it was very rude - I felt quite humiliated:(
She spent the rest of the day washing and re-washing her hair, luckily it was a semi-permanent dye.
I was accused of only buying presents that I wanted myself - even though I'm well known for choosing thoughtful and personal presents for everyone else.
Oh well, that's why he's an ex! And he took the bloody thing with him when he left
You weren't a fool - you were doing someone who was vulnerable a favour. It's showing kindness - you don't expect to have it thrown back in your face.
I didn't know how to react to my friend's reaction - I was going to send him something in the post (just some sweets I know he likes and a card), because he's dislocated his shoulder and has some knee problems and is in some pain - which he loves reminding me of. He had to go to A&E but won't be operated on for another three months or so. I thought I'd cheer him up by sending something small (but not OTT). I would have sent it but couldn't remember the correct address and so had to call to confirm the flat number. He asked why I needed it and so I had to explain. When he found out he said it was really pointless and stupid since he's "not completely incapacitated". He said that "maybe if (he) was in hospital it'd be different".
He'll be lucky if I even bother to visit him when he has to go into hospital now. I was really hurt by what he said - I went really silent on the phone and haven't spoken to him for a couple of days now.
summerain - I totally agree with you. Even if you think the idea is stupid, keep it to yourself! It's basic manners.
Did you offer him a job cleaning your toilets or something?:eek:;)
You'd think so, wouldn't you? Nope..was a job driving for me.