Starting school
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My little boy is starting school in a few weeks. We are in Scotland so he has had his 2 years at nursery, now he's 5 he's shy and timid but more than ready to start school. For ages I have been so excited and thinking about all this spare time I am going to have, I thought I'd be skipping with glee down the school gates. He's my oldest, I have a 3 year old who's starting nursery. So I have been a stay at home mum for the past 5 years. This afternoon sorting out his school clothes I have been blubbering like a baby. Hopefully I can contain myself on the big day. Any first day school experiences anyone would like to share?
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I was the same then when the day came I felt sick, funny thing was there was a dinner ladies job going so I applied and got the job, every day I got to see my two boys at lunch time.
My wife works as a TA in reception class - so has the new starters as they arrive.
I would STRONGLY advise you to push him through the door and leave immediately, you blubbering is only going to upset him. Even the kids that are crying stop as soon as the parents have gone (they only seem to do it for the parents sake) - it's not the kids that are the problem, it's the parents.
So take him to school, leave him, and go home - don't hang about.
That must be a man thing lol. Me and my partner took him to nursery a few months ago, he was going through a clingy stage. I stood and pandered over him but my partner just walked away outside and left him. But as soon as I left not even a min he stopped crying!!
Introducing her to the idea of going to a place where she is part of a group of children who are not her family at the earliest possible opportunity is, in my opinion a good thing. She's very social and plays well with the other children.
If we move her through the various pre-school levels then by the time she starts full time school she should have no trouble with it.
What small children, left in an unfamiliar place, among unfamiliar people feel is often a sense of abandonment. There is very little you can do about that except put your trust in the professionalism and care of those who care for your little one.
When you return he will be glad to see you and in a relatively short space of time begin to understand that when he is left in this place every day, you will return to collect him soon enough. In the meantime, he will make friends and begin to trust his teacher. He'll start to look forward to going to school and his natural curiosity will soon kick in when he starts learning.
I'm sure he'll be fine.
I only took my daughter on her first day too. She was furious. She wanted to go with her friends. I took my eldest for the first week. After that no more. Neither of them cried and neither did I. !I used to enjoy all their milestones. I was never sad to watch them growing up.
My daughter starts in September but she's been at the school nursery for a year so her new classroom is just opposite her old one and she already knows her new teacher, I have no doubt that she'll be fine.
What an awful attitude.
Quite. she should be with her child 100% of the time and love every second of it.
I remember when we took my son to school on his first day last year and he happily went in and I was so pleased until I got in the car to go to work and a song come on the radio that was out when he was born needless to say I went into work with puffy red eyes
After about five minutes my son looked at me and said 'Are you staying all day?' - I said 'no' - he then said 'well go on then'
I came out and cried my eyes out. He was absolutely fine - most kids are in my experience - it's the parents who go to pieces.
Oh for God's sake it's a joke. I love my daughter more than anything I'm with her 6 days a week with no help whatsoever no children round about for her to play with. God forbid me for looking forward to a bit of time to myself to be able to work and for my daughter to make some friends rather than being bored playing with her mum all the time!
I always feel it must be a bit awkward having family members work at the same school that you go to.
Or at least the wise woman at the nursery had said she mustn't come back for at least an hour. The instructions were. Bring your daughter along any time after 10. Hand her over to a member of staff. Turn around and walk away and don't look back. Don't return for one hour or longer. My job was to ensure that happened.
My friend got down the drive before falling apart, thereafter she was in bits. It was so weird. She is a professional woman at the top of her field and this blubbering wreck did not fit her usual persona at all.
Anyway her daughter had a lovely time. My friend slowly settled down and we managed a coffee and a piece of cake before picking up the little one 2 hours!! later.. I had a sneaking suspicion the whole dry run the nursery arranged for new starters was not about acclimatising the child so much as acclimatising the mother.
I am absolutely gutted for her (and so will she be when she realises its "forever") that most of her little friends will not be coming back after the holidays. One of her friends in particular was only 4 a couple of weeks ago and her mother said she feels like she's just too young to go to school yet.
I can't really remember starting school, although I recall time spent in reception class quite clearly. I don't think I found it particularly traumatic, and am pretty sure my Mum was glad to have me off-hand so he could get on with Mummy-activities like keep-fit and coffee mornings
Quite right you deserve it. I'm looking forward to me time as well. My son will be at school and my daughter will be at nursery 4 hours a day. So I have planned to go to the gym a few hours a week also got a wee home help job lined up 10 hours a week as well. Just got the settling in at school/nursery to dread first lol x
I think it's different here in Scotland with school starting ages. We go to nursery for 2 years when you turn 3. Then at 5 you go into primary one. My son has just turned 5, but my daughter has a march birthday so she won't start school till the aug, so she'll be 5 and a half. Which I think personally the older the better for them. x