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Kitt 2000
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I was on Match.com for 3 years..
Still use POF and Oasis..
I have had a few dates, but always seem to get used for free meals and then given the boot..
Is there something wrong with me?
I am seriously losing any faith in dating..
Still use POF and Oasis..
I have had a few dates, but always seem to get used for free meals and then given the boot..
Is there something wrong with me?
I am seriously losing any faith in dating..
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Buy me some fish and chips and I'll tell you.:D
I was on POF after my 3 1/2 year relationship broke down. He cheated with his ex. i don't think it's you at all. I had so many dates from POF and most would say after 1 or 2 dates "I'm not ready to see anyone at the moment" ... Then why join POF? lol... Ironically I met my ex on Faceparty 4 1/2 years ago and my current partner I met on Twitter of all places. It is possible to meet someone via a dating site. My cousin met her husband of 8 years on Match.com and they have 2 kids now... You have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince... Or princess
Yes true...
I have been single for so long 3 and a half years since my last relationship..
Think once you are single that long, there is little you can do to change the situation
Is it a given on these sites that the man pays for dinner? Seems a bit archaic to me....
A lot of women go on just to keep meeting guys and getting a free feed...
A bit harsh of me to say that..
But thats how it looks..
Let me into your secret please..
I fear I am just to Global and girls see that..
Don't offer or agree to meet for dinner on the first date - agree to meet for coffee instead, that way you won't feel used if it goes pear-shaped and you can extricate yourself from a date if it isn't for you without it being too hurtful as you (or the other person) isn't expected to make a night of it.
Finding a partner that suits you takes time and it's better to be on your own than with the wrong person.
I met a shitload of men but the only ones that really stick in my mind are the favela gangsta I dated for a few months who was really hot but got dumped after he stole stuff from my apartment, and some guy with a really close cropped photo who I agreed to go to the cinema with but ran away from because made me watch Harry Potter and kept pawing at me. It didn't help that he looked like a hobbit in real life either.
Its no secret its just a numbers game the more you message the closer you get to the right ones, the rest is down to intuition
But I have heard girls saying its a shit site as well, so I dont think its just a guy thing.
I met up with a woman on there ended up just having casual sex and a bit companionship, she wanted a relationship but I wasn't so sure, eventually she met another guy but we remained friends. She introduced me to a friend of hers in which we really hit it off and now we're kinda seeing each other and dating.
Personally I'd go with say Facebook over a dating site, I found that to be so much better. Getting to know friends of friends by commenting on statuses or joining certain groups and meeting women there. I met up with lots of women on there, many of which I became genuinely good friends with which can open doors for you. The problem with POF it attracts the wrong kind of people you want in your life.
I think that with internet dating by the time you get round to meeting you have already decided there is potential there so its just down to the "spark" and thats the purpose of the meeting to see if its there
But yes coffee or a drink is the way to go, if the woman (in my case) isn't happy with just that and insists on a meal , theatre or something expensive they are just looking for a meal ticket
Just look on it as their loss not yours , if they don't have the decency to reply then they weren't worth it anyway , you had a lucky escape
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/nov/27/online-dating-britain-hadley-freeman?commentpage=1&msg=a#end-of-comments
It's untrue I was single for longer than that as I refused to date any old man for the sake of it. I met my husband on e-harmony and we got married this year. So it can and does work.
Lol it probably does look that way. My husband paid for all meals and sometimes we went to dinner twice a week. Where else are we meant to meet and talk? A restaurant is good for that but it can be costly. I told myself him paying was his way of saying I was worth the money etc.
As we got to know each other he cooked for me, do much better than eating out but clearly he couldn't have asked me to dinner at his at the start.
I don't mind treating a lady to dinner..
But after 40 times of taking different ones out, gets a bit pointless..
I know the time and i know the place, and want to go and be nosey! So does my other friend. (want to be nosey) that is.:D
Thats why I have had n look with these sites?
Nah, I'm sure you're not a mug. (Maybe.)
It's better if you don't come across as a cheapskate who thinks the ladies are only using him for dinner, though. lol
Are you usually very cynical on a date, or is this a rare time where you're airing your grievances?
I agree with the person who said you should just go out for coffee on a first date. That way, you'll only be set back like £10.
I don't ponce over them or anything..
These days you'd probably be locked up for something with innercent intentions.. lol
I do think it's possible, but you just have to meet the right person, it's pot luck. Some people will find it after a couple of months, so people may take years.
You just need to learn how to weed out the people who are going to use you as a meal ticket, and find the really desperate ones who are more interested in their biological clock ticking away and have the need to settle down. ;-)
I shall show you the way, grasshopper.