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Can a male/female Platonic relationship exist?
KorkyTheCat
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Yes, it's that old chestnut again! Really, though: Do you think a heterosexual man and woman can have a longstanding close Platonic relationship, as close as it's possible to be, without one or both of them falling in love?
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Understood, but do you actually really LOVE these female friends?
You can love friends without being "in love" with them.
Of course. My closest friends are mainly female and I love them to bits. But not in a sexual way.
You crossed the line with Matilde though.
Obviously though gay male/straight female, straight male/lesbian female & gay male/lesbian female close relationships can work.
True dat
Enjoying each other's company isn't the same thing as loving each other. It's the separation of Platonic love from non-Platonic love that I'm interested in.
Am I imagining my life then? :eek:
A few more years went by and I got the feeling that the lady in question was placing hints that there could be maybe more in our relationship, I was happy in my own and had no wish to be with this woman in any way.
I backed off a little and only went around when I'd know the husband was there whilst staying friendly with both, A few months later she started telling my family I was having an affair with her :eek:
She left her partner almost straight after this "reveal" and began semi stalking/spreading lies around about me.
But if you really love them very deeply and over a long time, wouldn't you want to show that love in the most meaningful way?
So you're saying that there's no straight man and woman out there that are close friends and don't have sexual contact at all? I find that very hard to believe. I'd say there are.
Edit: What if by some coincidence they're both asexual?
But again, do you actually love these men?
Not if they're just a friend, no. If you find yourself wanting to have sex with them then you're seeing them as far more than just a friend. You can love a friend very deeply without wanting to jump into bed with them. I guess problems are likely to occur if one side ends up falling for the other and the feeling isn't mutual.
I didn't actually mention sex in the title, only falling in love.
Korky, I'm answering you. Pay attention to me or I'll throw a three-legged cat at you.
I think you are confusing loving someone and being "in love" with someone. They're two entirely different things.
What about the relationship between straight brothers & sisters? Doesn't that qualify?