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What is romance?
Lola UK
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After hearing the romantic adventures of a newly-coupled friend (weekend away, flowers, chocolates, dinners la la la) a jealous childish ball of fury exploded inside me. How have I landed the least romantic man in the world? Why is his idea of romance ordering a chinese? He has never once done anything in the slightest bit romantic!
Obviously I sent many texts to my other half hinting (not so subtly) that I too would like to be treated sometimes.. Well it's as if I'd asked him to build me the Taj Mahal!
He gets very defensive and responds that being romanced isn't just buying things or going places. Clearly I feel like a hideous materialistic bitch at this point and end the conversation. But.. It did get me wondering what he thought was romantic? Seems like a bit of a cop out. An excuse not to do anything or put in any effort!! Would like to point out that I'm not after present after present. or any present at all. cooking a meal or a walk down to the beach is just as romantic. A lady likes to feel special!
Whats the most romantic thing your OH has done? What do you find romantic? For me being romantic is little thoughtful things. It's when you feel like someone has made an effort especially for you, which could be anything at all.
p.s. if anyone wants to send me red roses or chocolates ill pm you my address (kidding)
Obviously I sent many texts to my other half hinting (not so subtly) that I too would like to be treated sometimes.. Well it's as if I'd asked him to build me the Taj Mahal!
He gets very defensive and responds that being romanced isn't just buying things or going places. Clearly I feel like a hideous materialistic bitch at this point and end the conversation. But.. It did get me wondering what he thought was romantic? Seems like a bit of a cop out. An excuse not to do anything or put in any effort!! Would like to point out that I'm not after present after present. or any present at all. cooking a meal or a walk down to the beach is just as romantic. A lady likes to feel special!
Whats the most romantic thing your OH has done? What do you find romantic? For me being romantic is little thoughtful things. It's when you feel like someone has made an effort especially for you, which could be anything at all.
p.s. if anyone wants to send me red roses or chocolates ill pm you my address (kidding)
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Whyyyyyy Its nice to be romantic
I got a box of teabags for Xmas one year, it was also 3 weeks after I gave birth to my daughter. As you can imagine that went down well.
Most romantic thing he done was when he was going to visit family in Canada and before he went he lit candles all over the lounge, cooked dinner and bought me the biggest bouquet of flowers I'd ever seen.. Needless to say it's a distant memory now. It's a good job I love him
I just don't understand romance, or the "romance" between people I've witnessed. I just don't have the feeling of love or whatever. Pointless. What's the whole point of romance, someone please explain?
No, we have only been together almost a year! So he should be trying to woo me!
Ah thats very romantic, I love candles!
To make your loved one feel special.
Actually thinking about it I shouldn't moan because he did get me a puppy 😍
Ok you win!
I suppose he did buy me a chocolate pudding to watch with my favourite programme once.. That might count
Swallow (or stop if you already do). He'll soon learn the value of romance after that.
Coming straight to mine after a night at work to do the school run for me, that's romantic.
Bringing me a bottle of JD when he knows I've got the girls coming round for the night, that's romantic.
Buying me the trainers or lingerie that he knows I want, that's romantic.
And if he was to arrive home from his holiday on Thursday, come straight to my house, tell me how much he's missed me and properly propose to me then that would be very romantic ;-)
I want someone to i can share problems with, deal with the things I'm too squeamish to do. Shoo mice and set out and empty traps.
I nice big pair of arms to wrap round me, I big hairy chest for me to lay my head on.
That's all....
That is without doubt the worst Christmas pressie I have ever heard of No wonder you were peeved.
I agree with you 100%. My husband was very romantic when we first got together, buying me presents and leaving me cards when he went to work telling me he loved me.
We have been married nearly 23 years now, so things have changed. He still occasionally buys me something out the blue which is wonderful, but he hasn't bought me flowers in about 15yrs now. However, what I find romantic now is the fact he looks after me. He worries about me and cares about me. He will come to the rescue if there is a spider in the room. He will help me pick up the glass when I drop a wine glass. He will give me a cuddle and wipe my tears if im sad. He is there ..... and that is more than enough. He is my number one fan, and I am his.
I have got this hopeful notion in my head that he might secretly ring the owner of the apartment we're going to stay in and ask her to put a bottle of bubbly and some flowers
on the table to surprise me on our arrival but I know that's not going to happen.
He just doesn't think about things like that. They don't occur to him and I think a lot of men are the same, your other half included, Lola, by the sound of it.
When we were first going out together ( 32 years ago ) we were walking together on a bitterly cold frosty evening and I didn't have any gloves. He gave me one of his gloves so that we could hold hands with our gloved hand and put the ungloved hand in our pockets.
Now THAT is romantic. I still get a shiver up my spine when I think of it. Whatever happened to that lovely young man?