Gary Busey's semi deafness/ hard of hearing...
MissDeeBlue
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I cannot understand why the fuss?
I keep thinking about the past housemates who were so much younger having worse disabilities, and never caused this much fuss/attention in the house.
Sure thing, Gary belches, elbows people, is rude and has no manners, zero personal hygine, yet after all this, people say awww hes elderly, deserves respect.. oh and hes deaf.. awwww bless
Now, I really like Gary, he is making great BB. So I'm not moaning. But I remember Sam Evans BB14 winner, was even more deaf than Gary, yet didn't make as much fuss as Gary does.
Also if Gary is like this is real life, there is no way ANY partner would be with him. So I am calling the 'acting' card
And the Oscar goes to.....
I keep thinking about the past housemates who were so much younger having worse disabilities, and never caused this much fuss/attention in the house.
Sure thing, Gary belches, elbows people, is rude and has no manners, zero personal hygine, yet after all this, people say awww hes elderly, deserves respect.. oh and hes deaf.. awwww bless
Now, I really like Gary, he is making great BB. So I'm not moaning. But I remember Sam Evans BB14 winner, was even more deaf than Gary, yet didn't make as much fuss as Gary does.
Also if Gary is like this is real life, there is no way ANY partner would be with him. So I am calling the 'acting' card
And the Oscar goes to.....
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YAY it worked
Sorry JP hands up yep.. I admit.. I forgot the brain injury
Sorry
John McCrirck's wife 'the boobie' must be Mother Theresa!!! ;-)
Sam Evans, was congenitally deaf as is one of my siblings, and has over their lifetime adjusted to living with "hearing people" to a much better level than Gary would who has an acquired deafness.
Please believe me, I am in no way at all an authority on what level of deafness or it's aacquirement is worse, all I can speak from is experience and I would imagine to loose one's hearing having had perfect audio range, must be disturbing.
Moreover, to assume that any partner would not want to be with Gary is really quite offensive. That is taking supposition a bit too far in my book.
opps sorry you disliked what I wrote but I didnt type 'would not want to be with him'
Firstly who said I disliked what you wrote...where did I say that.
MissDeeBlue
Also if Gary is like this is real life, there is no way ANY partner would be with him. So I am calling the 'acting' card
maybe I should hold off posting till tomorrow ...
Enjoy CBB tonight folks.. loving it so far
And you too sweetheart. Debate is good. Doesn't mean it'a all bad. That's the thing with forums....give and take.
Dad would get very rude when he wasn't understanding me, claiming I wasn't speaking clearly or loudly enough...actually his cognition was the problem, and it was all terribly sad for us all, including him.
Gary can't hear very well, and when he does hear, sometimes doesn't understand very well,or respond appropriately. That is brain injury. Not ALL his social deficits are brain injury, but many of them are I think.
I can imagine how tiresome it is for Gary's fellow housemates, and how agonizing for Gary who KNOWS he's irritating, but as he says, he is doing his best.
I hugely respect Gary for earning a living in spite of his disabilities, and feel sorry for everyone having a hard time dealing with him. It is REALLY hard for all of them. Sad situation, and very exploitative imo.
Anyway theres been alot more older people who have been in the celeb big brother house like Lional Blair and Sylvester Stallones mum. Stephanie Beechams was deaf aswell remember. Besides all that Gary busey is a twice arrested wife beater.
I too have been saying since early days that it looks like there is a cognitive problem. From an observer's perspective it often feels like Gary isn't joining the dots quite correctly. The trouble is that in his mind the incorrect links he has made will seem as right as can be. To him but not to the others. This is a recipe for misunderstandings and a lot of frustration.
He won't understand why they are telling him what he honestly perceives to be the case is wrong. And if the rest of them are unaware that he doesn't always perceive things as they are and have only been briefed with the knowledge that he is deaf and some vague information about a brain injury they will not know he isn't being wilfully contrary.
I feel it was unfair to all of them not to provide some solid information about Gary's limitations and how his particular injury manifests itself. Of course I don't know that they weren't but it doesn't look like it.
I find it hard to believe that 14 people are being nasty to Gary with the intention of hurting him. Why would they do that? Few human beings set out to deliberately hurt others. I just don't think they have the information or knowledge they need to understand why he behaves as he does.
Deafness is part of the explanation. They seem to get that but deafness is only part of the story and doesn't explain all his mannerisms. There is no reason why they should automatically conclude that he has a cognitive reasoning malfunction. So they are left with knowledge gaps which inevitably they have filled in and wrongly; concluding that he is just difficult. I have a lot of sympathy for all of them.
Really? So by that token 26 yrs ago when I was unfortunate enough to contract an illness that has now left me not quite right, my husband should have dumped me? Instead he stuck by me and makes sure I have everything I want and need. Do you know why? Because he loves me.