you are all helping very much, thank you, i was just looking at mind, thank you sweetpeanut, i didn`t realise they could help with practical stuff.
vernon:
thank you:)
i`ve hardly been smoking but maybe once a fortnight, it`s been very dry here. weed does help me, it acts as a stabiliser for my bipolar and quells my anxiety, it also helps with my add by enabling me to focus on less things at once and slows down my racing head.
I hope you're a little more positive now - like the others, I think perhaps you should look into moving, a new start may be just what you need. IIRC your daughter & family is moving soon - why not look into moving closer to her, so you will be nearer to her & her family?
she moved last week deb, she`ll be moving again in a couple of years, her husband is in the army .
i am feeling a lot calmer now thank you, i`m going to eat something and try to sleep for a bit. you`ve been so helpful, thank you
Also wanting to add my support here, Annette. You are one of my favourite posters - you have friends here. Hang on in there. Keep talking to us, if that helps.
Please count me as one of those you can contact if you need a favour or just to gab with, Annette.
About the housing issue, you could contact Rethink as they offer local services to those who prefer to live independently but in need of some support, practical and otherwise.
A family friend, who has a severe social anxiety disorder (the idea of phoning someone is enough to give him an anxiety attack, for instance), used their services a couple of years ago to help him with a house move.
He's still shocked at how focused they were on his comfort zone, and how they never once made him feel 'stupid' about his preferences, requirements, needs and anxieties. He's happy in his new home, and his local Rethink group still offers support, including making phone calls on his behalf, through email when he's having one of his - he puts it - "silly days".
There isnt really anything for me to add because it looks like you have had some fantastic advice on this thread. Becoming overwhelmed can happen to anyone (I've got that T shirt) but as someone already said, separate out each problem rather than trying to look at the whole, it'll be easier.
I have huge respect for you, you are such a likable poster and I hope things get a bit easier for you soon ;-)
Aw hen...so sorry you're feeling this way. Been there. I wish I had words of wisdom for you but the good folks of DS have already suggested everything I would. You sound similar to me in many ways. Take care and PM if you need to. You are not alone.
thank you all very much for being so nice, i do apologise for my meltdown.
thank you for the rethink link takae, i`m looking at that now. i`m not very good at asking for help but i will have to force myself, i can`t go on this way.
thank you all very much for being so nice, i do apologise for my meltdown.
thank you for the rethink link takae, i`m looking at that now. i`m not very good at asking for help but i will have to force myself, i can`t go on this way.
Will you stop apologising woman!
You can't help how you feel, and it's good to see the nice side of DS.
Please count me as one of those you can contact if you need a favour or just to gab with, Annette.
About the housing issue, you could contact Rethink as they offer local services to those who prefer to live independently but in need of some support, practical and otherwise.
A family friend, who has a severe social anxiety disorder (the idea of phoning someone is enough to give him an anxiety attack, for instance), used their services a couple of years ago to help him with a house move.
He's still shocked at how focused they were on his comfort zone, and how they never once made him feel 'stupid' about his preferences, requirements, needs and anxieties. He's happy in his new home, and his local Rethink group still offers support, including making phone calls on his behalf, through email when he's having one of his - he puts it - "silly days".
They look great! and reachable. Like your freind I cant use the phone and my mental health team were not contactable by email.... they said they cant have people sending suicide mail and they might not be there I do understand that but we are daft not stupid! and they could have put anywhere on the link that they might not be around, and we would understand and take that on board. But by not taking email they cut a lot of us off.
Anyway its all in the past, and like me I suspect once Annette get that first boost she will rock it again and be able to get things done her way.
My MHT were absolutely useless, so that link probably would have got me the help I desperately needed at the time. OK I did it (moved) by myself in the end but the whole thing knocked me for 6. lost half my possessions and was living out of a boxes until my mind cleared itself up..
But as I say since then my life took off and ive not looked back.
Annette You will look back at this thread and be amazed that you ever got to this point, but so glad you did something about it.
thank you all very much for being so nice, i do apologise for my meltdown.
thank you for the rethink link takae, i`m looking at that now. i`m not very good at asking for help but i will have to force myself, i can`t go on this way.
Nothing to feel sorry about at all. Very glad you reached out at your time of need so you know you are not alone with this, or in this. A lot of us have been there
i have an appointment with a doctor this afternoon, not one i`ve sen before my normal doc is on her holidays and someone else rang for me but i think i`ll just be asking for referral back to the nut team anyhow.
Good morning Annette, sounds more positive and a new doctor may be just what you need, often I have found a new person takes more care and interest, so hope that's true in your case too.
Good luck and keep chatting you are needed on DS !
Hi Annette, so pleased to see you are a bit happier and more positive today. Keep smiling babes. You will get through this and the sooner you get a house move the better. xx
i have an appointment with a doctor this afternoon, not one i`ve sen before my normal doc is on her holidays and someone else rang for me but i think i`ll just be asking for referral back to the nut team anyhow.
That's good. You haven't had to wait for days! I hope it goes well Annette. I'll be thinking of you. xxxxx
well i won`t be going to see that doctor again if i can avoid it.
by the time i got in there i was in tears but i wasn`t unintelligible, she pushed the tissues at me and snapped you have to calm down, that helped no end. then she asked me what i wanted her to do i said i wasn`t the bloody doctor [] and if i knew what to do i wouldn`t have dragged myself down there.
after that she decided i couldn`t be on my own, i said i certainly couldn`t be doing with other people flapping round me, it makes more stress not less - she had trouble understanding that too.
in the finish she gave me a script for a week`s worth of meds i`ve already got and told me to go back and see her next week, i think not.
she has referred me back to the nut team, who DO know how to talk to someone in crisis.
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vernon:
thank you:)
i`ve hardly been smoking but maybe once a fortnight, it`s been very dry here. weed does help me, it acts as a stabiliser for my bipolar and quells my anxiety, it also helps with my add by enabling me to focus on less things at once and slows down my racing head.
she moved last week deb, she`ll be moving again in a couple of years, her husband is in the army
i am feeling a lot calmer now thank you, i`m going to eat something and try to sleep for a bit. you`ve been so helpful, thank you
I'm so glad you are feeling a bit better. Do contact MIND, they will help you. Good luck love xx
Couldn't have said it better myself
Hope you are ok Annette
About the housing issue, you could contact Rethink as they offer local services to those who prefer to live independently but in need of some support, practical and otherwise.
A family friend, who has a severe social anxiety disorder (the idea of phoning someone is enough to give him an anxiety attack, for instance), used their services a couple of years ago to help him with a house move.
He's still shocked at how focused they were on his comfort zone, and how they never once made him feel 'stupid' about his preferences, requirements, needs and anxieties. He's happy in his new home, and his local Rethink group still offers support, including making phone calls on his behalf, through email when he's having one of his - he puts it - "silly days".
http://www.rethink.org/services-groups
I have huge respect for you, you are such a likable poster and I hope things get a bit easier for you soon ;-)
I'm also adding my support to you, Annette, I have come to like and respect you very much on DS and am so sorry to read of your current distress.
I do hope you feel even a little better now, or have managed to contact someone who can help you.
Don't forget, we are here for you. We can be an argumentative bunch at times on DS, but when one of our own is in trouble, we stick together.
Please report back, if and when you are able, to let us know how things are at the moment. Hopefully you managed to eat a little and are resting now.
(I also have a lot in common with things that you have said).
Best wishes.
Hope you're feeling better soon Annette.
thank you for the rethink link takae, i`m looking at that now. i`m not very good at asking for help but i will have to force myself, i can`t go on this way.
Will you stop apologising woman!
You can't help how you feel, and it's good to see the nice side of DS.
They look great! and reachable. Like your freind I cant use the phone and my mental health team were not contactable by email.... they said they cant have people sending suicide mail and they might not be there I do understand that but we are daft not stupid! and they could have put anywhere on the link that they might not be around, and we would understand and take that on board. But by not taking email they cut a lot of us off.
Anyway its all in the past, and like me I suspect once Annette get that first boost she will rock it again and be able to get things done her way.
My MHT were absolutely useless, so that link probably would have got me the help I desperately needed at the time. OK I did it (moved) by myself in the end but the whole thing knocked me for 6. lost half my possessions and was living out of a boxes until my mind cleared itself up..
But as I say since then my life took off and ive not looked back.
Annette You will look back at this thread and be amazed that you ever got to this point, but so glad you did something about it.
Nothing to feel sorry about at all. Very glad you reached out at your time of need so you know you are not alone with this, or in this. A lot of us have been there
I hope you have managed to get some sleep now and woken up feeling a bit better today.
Wishing you all the best x
i have an appointment with a doctor this afternoon, not one i`ve sen before
Good luck and keep chatting you are needed on DS !
That's good. You haven't had to wait for days! I hope it goes well Annette. I'll be thinking of you. xxxxx
by the time i got in there i was in tears but i wasn`t unintelligible, she pushed the tissues at me and snapped you have to calm down, that helped no end. then she asked me what i wanted her to do
after that she decided i couldn`t be on my own, i said i certainly couldn`t be doing with other people flapping round me, it makes more stress not less - she had trouble understanding that too.
in the finish she gave me a script for a week`s worth of meds i`ve already got and told me to go back and see her next week, i think not.
she has referred me back to the nut team, who DO know how to talk to someone in crisis.
/rant