Flatmate Problems
Cestrian18
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Hi everyone, I just wanted some advice about some ongoing issues in my student flat. Basically my flatmates make no attempt to communicate with me and concerns are raised by email in quite an aggressive way, for example, I have been admonished by email for not wiping a surface in a morning when I was late for work (I try to be considerate most of the time) and also because I hosted some friends for dinner so I apparently made him wait to use the kitchen until we had left, he has also taken issue with my tv being too loud, bit instead of simply walking across the corridor and asking me politely to turn it down (which I would) he sends me another email the following morning. It's quite clear he's taken a dislike to me as whenever I try to be polite it's always fairly abrupt and it's making me feel uncomfortable in my home, and with things like heating and stuff coming up the lack of communication worries me. I'd love to move out but the lease runs until July so I'm just trying to ignore it until then as I don't want an argument if I can help it but I still want to invite people round without fear of a snarky email every time I do Any advice to make the situation better would be appreciated
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It's a long way till July - think you need to establish some sort of relationship. Perhaps he's really shy and lacks confidence or something.
Also, maybe it´s time to sit down with him and decide on some house rules so that everyone knows the expectations and that way PA emails can be avoided.
If you would rather things were discussed face to face say so. You just have to say feel free to give me a knock if I'm noisy, its hard to judge how sound carries, and please dont feel you have to email me about any problem.
I agree.
In my day at university, there was no mobile phones and no internet. We had to talk to each other.
OP: That is what you and your flatmates need to do.