hopefully I meet someone before i'm 25 but I'm not confident
Well from what I've seen of you from around the forum you seem like a lovely young man who always speaks from the heart. So maybe try to relax more about it and someone will come along who appreciates you.
I was 17 and lost it to a random guy a friend set me up with because I was desperate to lose it. It's wierd but I felt that it was holding me back, I had dated some nice guys but never had sex with them because I wasn't sure they were special enough to be the one - I do regret it as I a dated a really nice guy soon after that which I would have prefered to be the one that popped my cherry. I would advise anyone to wait untill they are in a relationship.
however once I popped my cherry I turned into a right **** for a few years, not something I'm proud of but they were fun years
Well from what I've seen of you from around the forum you seem like a lovely young man who always speaks from the heart. So maybe try to relax more about it and someone will come along who appreciates you.
The thing is that I don't go out and have opportunity to meet females because I only really speak with my family and one close friend. Hate pubs and clubs especially. I just checked and its actually 10% of men have paid for sex which is quite high so I am not exactly doing something extreme if I did pay for sex but but hopefully I meet someone in a weird situation although the chances must be really slim especially when I am probably less than average looking.
I could visit an escort or a lady in Amsterdam easily but not too sure I want to do this...
I know of someone who did lose his virginity to an escort. I personally wouldn't recommend it, but he found the mental torture of still being a virgin into his 20's was far worse than the knowledge he'd lost his virginity in what was essentially a financial transaction.
There are underlying reasons as to why men turn to prostitutes - social anxiety, autism, depression, other mental health issues, lack of confidence and self-esteem. Seemed to be the general pattern amongst the men I know whom have little success with finding a partner but whom do want someone.
Relax, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
21 years old here, and yet to have have sex. It's something I'm quite open about and couldn't care less what others think about it. I personally want to wait for the right woman. I could have had sex had I wanted to but it would have been meaningless sex. Which is fine, I know many enjoy that but I personally want it to mean something and to be with someone I care greatly for.
The way I look at it, it's only yourself that has to be concerned with it. If you're with a woman and she can't accept and deal with the fact you're a virgin, then they're not really worse having sex with. As for other people? What are they going to do? Call you sad? If their lives are so riviting then why would they care to comment?
Learn to be comfortable with who you are. You are you, and if you're a virgin that really isn't that big of deal; unless you make it so. Just relax, and it'll happen when it happens. But the more you think along the lines of "if I get to 25 and I'm still a virgin, I'll sleep with a prostitute" the less likely you are to hit it off with someone you actually want to have sex with. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.
So to answer the question of "what age is too old to be a virgin?"; there is no set age. It's down to you personally. Just be comfortable being who you are; everything else will follow.
I think there is far too much pressure to have sex. I lost mine at 18 to my first serious boyfriend and looking back now I still feel it was too young. There is no right or wrong answer: it is when you are ready.
I don't mind saying that I am 29 and still a virgin. I just have never met the right person.
My friends all think I am weird because of this, as do any girls I go out with and they don't seem to want to wait until I feel ready. I am one of these people who needs an emotional connection with someone before I make a physical connection and I make no apology for that.
Why is that so weird? That I want to wait///or actually don't want it at all? It's like some sort of status in street cred? Like some sort of problem that needs fixing.
Up until a couple of months ago I was a virgin too, at age 20. I'm glad I lost it when I did to be honest as it was starting to annoy me. I did just do it to get it over and done with and really I'm not sure why I didn't do it before then.
I personally think people make it out to be a much bigger deal than it is.
man if you wanna **** find a way that suites you and go for it. Mind all the very high powered people running the planet that don't bat an eye, so why should you. There is a difference between sex and love tho. The latter can't be bought !
I'm early twenties and still a virgin. I could visit an escort or a lady in Amsterdam easily but not too sure I want to do this, but I'm going to give it until I'm 25 then do it probably, as I think 25 is too old to still be a virgin.
I'd feel a bit weird if my husband or a previous boyfriend had lost his virginity by some sleazy prostitute in Amsterdam, or had otherwise paid for it, especially if I was the next person to have sex with him.
Not saying it would be wrong to do it that way, but just that I would feel weird about it for some reason. I'd probably feel a bit sad for him too, and would have wished he'd just waited for me, so his first time could have been more special.
Why would you want to lose it to a prostitute, there's no need! Go to any club on a weekend, towards the end of the night there will be plenty of girls up for it. Lots of my male friends have got lucky that way, and some of them aren't exactly lookers.
There's no set age where you're too old to be a virgin, but the longer you put it off, the more difficult and scary it seems. I think lots of people build it up to be something it's not- losing your virginity isn't some sort of grand, significant event. More often than not it's nerve-wracking, fumbly and it will take a bit of practice to get good and start enjoying it.
Once you get the first time over with, you'll start to relax more around the opposite sex!
And no way have 25% of men paid for sex, that's one in four, I don't know about your area but there aren't enough prostitutes in my area to fulfil that sort of demand!
Umm, it depends.
Does "25% of men paid for sex" include husbands shelling out for a new outfit for the wife followed by a meal out?
There's no set age where you're too old to be a virgin, but the longer you put it off, the more difficult and scary it seems. I think lots of people build it up to be something it's not- losing your virginity isn't some sort of grand, significant event. More often than not it's nerve-wracking, fumbly and it will take a bit of practice to get good and start enjoying it.
Once you get the first time over with, you'll start to relax more around the opposite sex!
It is a cruel irony that it's possible to be prevented by shyness or even fear for years and then once you do the do you realise how simple it all is and wish you had started years earlier
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Please don't stress.
Well from what I've seen of you from around the forum you seem like a lovely young man who always speaks from the heart. So maybe try to relax more about it and someone will come along who appreciates you.
however once I popped my cherry I turned into a right **** for a few years, not something I'm proud of but they were fun years
The thing is that I don't go out and have opportunity to meet females because I only really speak with my family and one close friend. Hate pubs and clubs especially. I just checked and its actually 10% of men have paid for sex which is quite high so I am not exactly doing something extreme if I did pay for sex but but hopefully I meet someone in a weird situation although the chances must be really slim especially when I am probably less than average looking.
There are underlying reasons as to why men turn to prostitutes - social anxiety, autism, depression, other mental health issues, lack of confidence and self-esteem. Seemed to be the general pattern amongst the men I know whom have little success with finding a partner but whom do want someone.
21 years old here, and yet to have have sex. It's something I'm quite open about and couldn't care less what others think about it. I personally want to wait for the right woman. I could have had sex had I wanted to but it would have been meaningless sex. Which is fine, I know many enjoy that
The way I look at it, it's only yourself that has to be concerned with it. If you're with a woman and she can't accept and deal with the fact you're a virgin, then they're not really worse having sex with. As for other people? What are they going to do? Call you sad? If their lives are so riviting then why would they care to comment?
Learn to be comfortable with who you are. You are you, and if you're a virgin that really isn't that big of deal; unless you make it so. Just relax, and it'll happen when it happens. But the more you think along the lines of "if I get to 25 and I'm still a virgin, I'll sleep with a prostitute" the less likely you are to hit it off with someone you actually want to have sex with. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.
So to answer the question of "what age is too old to be a virgin?"; there is no set age. It's down to you personally. Just be comfortable being who you are; everything else will follow.
My friends all think I am weird because of this, as do any girls I go out with and they don't seem to want to wait until I feel ready. I am one of these people who needs an emotional connection with someone before I make a physical connection and I make no apology for that.
Why is that so weird? That I want to wait///or actually don't want it at all? It's like some sort of status in street cred? Like some sort of problem that needs fixing.
I've never understood that attitude at all.
I personally think people make it out to be a much bigger deal than it is.
What's an achievement about it? Remaining a virgin is easy; all you have to do is do nothing.
I was under the belief that sex is better when it's hard
Virgin eh...what a word.
When are you 31?
I'd feel a bit weird if my husband or a previous boyfriend had lost his virginity by some sleazy prostitute in Amsterdam, or had otherwise paid for it, especially if I was the next person to have sex with him.
Not saying it would be wrong to do it that way, but just that I would feel weird about it for some reason. I'd probably feel a bit sad for him too, and would have wished he'd just waited for me, so his first time could have been more special.
Just food for thought.
Just get yourself out there meeting people, don't be shy and it will happen.
Don't lose it to a hooker. It's not worth it on many levels.
There's no set age where you're too old to be a virgin, but the longer you put it off, the more difficult and scary it seems. I think lots of people build it up to be something it's not- losing your virginity isn't some sort of grand, significant event. More often than not it's nerve-wracking, fumbly and it will take a bit of practice to get good and start enjoying it.
Once you get the first time over with, you'll start to relax more around the opposite sex!
Does "25% of men paid for sex" include husbands shelling out for a new outfit for the wife followed by a meal out?