I've been a Sheffield United football supporter for thirty odd years, and I was disappointed in some fellow Blades who wanted to show support for the player Ched Evans after his conviction for rape. It was like 'okay, he's a convicted rapist, but he's scored loads of goals for us, so he must be all right.'
I kind of lost quite a bit of enthusiasm for football after that fiasco - there were plans for minutes applause and that being discussed on forums, and it just makes you wonder about some people. Some of them were disappointed in me and people who agreed with me!
I was properly disappointed when I sought out my mother after many many years to get answers from her such as why did you leave and never bother to contact us/find us as adults ?
I found a hardened alcoholic who couldn't even remember half the stuff I wanted to ask about
Ahhh the list is long and boring but a few examples would be her ability for forget how cruelly she treated me as a child/teenager yet she lectures me constantly about how my disapline my own kids (apparently I'm too harsh; I use the naughty step as opposed to hitting them with a wooden spoon/plank of wood and throwing their favourite toys/items in the bin).
She has become very predjudiced towards people's of certain races or religions. Apparently she's a good Christian but the nasty things she says makes my blood boil.
When I was a child, despite our crappy relationship I considered her intelligent. This is clearly not the case (she once suggested those dying of typhoid in camps following mass flooding could solve all their problems by "moving closer to the river" and "boiling the water" :rolleyes: then just a few month ago she told me that mans dominance "must mean something" and denied all evidence of evolution :eek:
To cut to the chase, I thought my mum was at least thoughtful and intelligent (even if she was a crap mum) but she isn't. At all.
Apart from myself a few people I thought were friends and who I wrongly assumed thought the same about me. I find getting to know people (let alone trusting them) harder than most at the best of times and tend to wonder what I did wrong whenever people let me down.
Think the most memorable one for me was a friend of mine disappeared off the face of the earth. I discovered some months later that he was in the process of being charged for having the most serious category of child porn on his home computer.
That type of thing makes your skin crawl when this was someone you socialised with and got on well with, but that's life I guess.
My best friend of a long time who lost her job and was having trouble coping, so I managed to get her a job with the firm I work for and now she spends her time licking up to my boss and trying in sly ways to make me look useless to the point I really want to leave a job I used to love. :rolleyes:
My best friend of a long time who lost her job and was having trouble coping, so I managed to get her a job with the firm I work for and now she spends her time licking up to my boss and trying in sly ways to make me look useless to the point I really want to leave a job I used to love. :rolleyes:
With a best friend like that, who needs enemies. Don't let the bitch win.
My best friend of a long time who lost her job and was having trouble coping, so I managed to get her a job with the firm I work for and now she spends her time licking up to my boss and trying in sly ways to make me look useless to the point I really want to leave a job I used to love. :rolleyes:
Aww don't let her drive you out! Can you not speak to her or your boss about it? She sounds like a right d*ck.
I've been disappointed in many people, many times, but mostly a "close" family member, who left their kids and everyone else had to pick up the pieces. Disappointed, but sadly not surprised.
I know a few people who seem to be in the habit of messing up, then feebly saying 'sorry' and thinking that it absolves them of everything only for them to then mess up again.
I do find myself quite disappointed in some of my friends as sometimes they do let me down and it seems they don't care much. Maybe I need to meet new people, but I haven't (maybe cus I'm fairly young) experienced being truly, deeply emotionally disappointed along the lines of 'your groom not turning up to your wedding'sort of thing. Ya know major disappointment, have you ever been truly disappointed in someone you trust?
Yes. Many times. Its life. As they say, human nature never fails to disappoint.
Its why as you get older your list of friends is gradually whittled down to a select few.
Yes. I thought my Dad's very sudden and unexpected death abroad would bring me closer to my mother and brother. However, the last 24 hours have proven to me that they don't give a sh1t about me, even though I am the one they always come running to when they have a problem
I have always been there for them. To have them be so 'me,me,me' is devastating. It feels like neither of them care about what I am feeling, even though I am the youngest. They have both been perfectly happy to let me deal with everything (probate, writing an obituary to be included in the newsletter for where my father previously worked, etc) but never do they ask how I am or if I need any help. Seriously considering never speaking to them again as I can't get over how much they have hurt me :mad:
Yes. I thought my Dad's very sudden and unexpected death abroad would bring me closer to my mother and brother. However, the last 24 hours have proven to me that they don't give a sh1t about me, even though I am the one they always come running to when they have a problem
I have always been there for them. To have them be so 'me,me,me' is devastating. It feels like neither of them care about what I am feeling, even though I am the youngest. They have both been perfectly happy to let me deal with everything (probate, writing an obituary to be included in the newsletter for where my father previously worked, etc) but never do they ask how I am or if I need any help. Seriously considering never speaking to them again as I can't get over how much they have hurt me :mad:
Tell them. Most of the time, during a bereavement, people are in a state of shock and everyone deals with it differently.
I suppose you have to imagine what your Dad would have wanted. Sometimes you have to behave with dignity and give respect even though it might not seem like you are getting much in return.
Although I've had loads of problems with my close family, (mainly drink related), they're frankly now resolved, it's friends that have let me down over the years.
The most recent case being a 'mate' who I'd got concert tickets for on my credit card, (£80).
When I booked them I said you sure you want to go, cos I knew he what he was like about pulling out of things.
He assured me he did and offered to pay me the money there and then, but me being the trusting person I am said no, just pay me when we go to the gig, which was still 6 months away.
I spoke to him about a month before reminding him about it and he was still well up for it. Then about 2 weeks before I rang him a few times over a weekend but got no answer. Then over the course of the next week I called him countless times, sent him texts, left messages on FB etc but still nothing.
Then I got worried and thought he might be sick, (he'd been ill a few months previous), and I even said to him I didn't give a monkeys about the gig but just to let me know he's OK. Nothing.
Then the day of the concert he sent me a text saying he couldn't make it offering some lame excuse about not being very well, which I now know was bullshit!
I just sent him a text back saying I wanted the money by the end of the month and left it at that, even though I was fuming.
That was in June, I'm still waiting!
Needless to say he's not on my Christmas card list anymore.
Yes. Believed in someone and bought a house with them, for us and my sons. Within months they went off with someone who was a complete idiot - and tore my life apart.
Hard to trust after it all, but have done - but got let down again since. Many people with commitment/promiscuity issues out there.
Ahhh the list is long and boring but a few examples would be her ability for forget how cruelly she treated me as a child/teenager yet she lectures me constantly about how my disapline my own kids (apparently I'm too harsh; I use the naughty step as opposed to hitting them with a wooden spoon/plank of wood and throwing their favourite toys/items in the bin).
She has become very predjudiced towards people's of certain races or religions. Apparently she's a good Christian but the nasty things she says makes my blood boil.
When I was a child, despite our crappy relationship I considered her intelligent. This is clearly not the case (she once suggested those dying of typhoid in camps following mass flooding could solve all their problems by "moving closer to the river" and "boiling the water" :rolleyes: then just a few month ago she told me that mans dominance "must mean something" and denied all evidence of evolution :eek:
To cut to the chase, I thought my mum was at least thoughtful and intelligent (even if she was a crap mum) but she isn't. At all.
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Hello Mrs T:) We make tough decisions in life. Some we are proud of, some we are not. I could write a book, if I could write.:)
So true
I always listen to Bob Marley - 3 little birds, when i'm feeling down :cool:
I kind of lost quite a bit of enthusiasm for football after that fiasco - there were plans for minutes applause and that being discussed on forums, and it just makes you wonder about some people. Some of them were disappointed in me and people who agreed with me!
I agree.
I found a hardened alcoholic who couldn't even remember half the stuff I wanted to ask about
Ahhh the list is long and boring but a few examples would be her ability for forget how cruelly she treated me as a child/teenager yet she lectures me constantly about how my disapline my own kids (apparently I'm too harsh; I use the naughty step as opposed to hitting them with a wooden spoon/plank of wood and throwing their favourite toys/items in the bin).
She has become very predjudiced towards people's of certain races or religions. Apparently she's a good Christian but the nasty things she says makes my blood boil.
When I was a child, despite our crappy relationship I considered her intelligent. This is clearly not the case (she once suggested those dying of typhoid in camps following mass flooding could solve all their problems by "moving closer to the river" and "boiling the water" :rolleyes: then just a few month ago she told me that mans dominance "must mean something" and denied all evidence of evolution :eek:
To cut to the chase, I thought my mum was at least thoughtful and intelligent (even if she was a crap mum) but she isn't. At all.
Think the most memorable one for me was a friend of mine disappeared off the face of the earth. I discovered some months later that he was in the process of being charged for having the most serious category of child porn on his home computer.
That type of thing makes your skin crawl when this was someone you socialised with and got on well with, but that's life I guess.
With a best friend like that, who needs enemies. Don't let the bitch win.
Aww don't let her drive you out! Can you not speak to her or your boss about it? She sounds like a right d*ck.
I've been disappointed in many people, many times, but mostly a "close" family member, who left their kids and everyone else had to pick up the pieces. Disappointed, but sadly not surprised.
Yes. Many times. Its life. As they say, human nature never fails to disappoint.
Its why as you get older your list of friends is gradually whittled down to a select few.
I have always been there for them. To have them be so 'me,me,me' is devastating. It feels like neither of them care about what I am feeling, even though I am the youngest. They have both been perfectly happy to let me deal with everything (probate, writing an obituary to be included in the newsletter for where my father previously worked, etc) but never do they ask how I am or if I need any help. Seriously considering never speaking to them again as I can't get over how much they have hurt me :mad:
Tell them. Most of the time, during a bereavement, people are in a state of shock and everyone deals with it differently.
I suppose you have to imagine what your Dad would have wanted. Sometimes you have to behave with dignity and give respect even though it might not seem like you are getting much in return.
The most recent case being a 'mate' who I'd got concert tickets for on my credit card, (£80).
When I booked them I said you sure you want to go, cos I knew he what he was like about pulling out of things.
He assured me he did and offered to pay me the money there and then, but me being the trusting person I am said no, just pay me when we go to the gig, which was still 6 months away.
I spoke to him about a month before reminding him about it and he was still well up for it. Then about 2 weeks before I rang him a few times over a weekend but got no answer. Then over the course of the next week I called him countless times, sent him texts, left messages on FB etc but still nothing.
Then I got worried and thought he might be sick, (he'd been ill a few months previous), and I even said to him I didn't give a monkeys about the gig but just to let me know he's OK. Nothing.
Then the day of the concert he sent me a text saying he couldn't make it offering some lame excuse about not being very well, which I now know was bullshit!
I just sent him a text back saying I wanted the money by the end of the month and left it at that, even though I was fuming.
That was in June, I'm still waiting!
Needless to say he's not on my Christmas card list anymore.
Hard to trust after it all, but have done - but got let down again since. Many people with commitment/promiscuity issues out there.
None of us is perfect.
I can see how that must be a rocky relationship