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Why force Children to lie at xmas?
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When children are asked by Santa if they've been a good boy/girl. They are peer-pressured into lying namely by their parents of society in general (other kids/movies/influences etc). And saying they have have been a good child, even though they havent, simply so they can recieve a materialistic item in return. This materialism is paid for by the lies told, or occasionally by a little cash out the pockets from the parents.
Is it acceptable that we should be teaching children to lie simply so they can gain something? surely materialism can be overlooked so that they can feel more self-assured that they have been at least truthful in honesty values. Rather than being pressured into deceipt, even if being children they aren't aware of it.
Is it acceptable that we should be teaching children to lie simply so they can gain something? surely materialism can be overlooked so that they can feel more self-assured that they have been at least truthful in honesty values. Rather than being pressured into deceipt, even if being children they aren't aware of it.
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It's a childhood fantasy & shouldn't be quashed. I think parents that always told their children that Santa didn't exist were far more cruel tbh. They tend to find out by about the age of 10 anyway, depending on factors like older siblings spoiling it. But I dont think their whole personality is influenced by the Santa lie, no lol
I think it's nice for Children to realise that they are nice people - no lying involved. They'll learn to feel socially imposed guilt a plenty as they grow up.
because cartoons only show santa visiting 6 houses but seemingly that accounts for the entire world and all 24 timezones
how can we tell kids to be good if we're lieing to them from birth /sarcasm
I don't think kids think about that! ITs only as you get older and start to realise there is a big wide world out there that you start to figure stuff out.
Perhaps you would feel happier if the children said "no Father Christmas I have been really bad " and then instead of a present he turned them upside down and beat them with a stick and then they spent Christmas with no decorations, no presents and bread and butter for lunch and were shown films of good children getting presents and food.
Most small children who your OP message applies to are generally good , being naughty at times is not being bad , its older kids and adults who are bad by choice.
I don't think its a harmful lie.
What if they resent you after finding out the truth ?
then you're a horrible parent and you deserve to be hung......
Eh ???
yeah after finding out that youve spent £100s of pounds on them for years
sorry - just taking a cue from your other thread about the need for the reintroduction of corporal punishment
Oh, right.
Thanks for the clarification
Tad excessive! lol But I do know a woman that made sure her kids knew Santa wasn't real. But she is a mum that openly says she hates her 13 year old daughter, & has done to her face. And has allsorts of problems with all but 1 of her 6 kids. These mums are usually seen on Jeremy Kyle in the future lol
Unlikely, I didn't resent my mother after I discovered the truth, infact I felt like I was getting in on a cool secret! I actually don't know anyone that resented their parents for not telling them that santa wasn't real....