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I need one GOOD reason to consider marriage
Graham Miles
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The situation is:
I've been in a relationship with a wonderful women for 2yrs.
We get on really well, the sex is great she's 27 I'm 32 and we plan on having children in the near future.
We both see a very long future together and hope to get old together.
We are both employed and have very adequate dwellings.
Neither of us has a religious faith.
Now is there ANY reason for us to get married?
Of course it's our choice in the end, and I'm certain we never will... However If some one can come up with just one good reason why we should marry, we would consider it. Because maybe we are missing something here. And you can bring enlightenment to us.
Many thanks
I've been in a relationship with a wonderful women for 2yrs.
We get on really well, the sex is great she's 27 I'm 32 and we plan on having children in the near future.
We both see a very long future together and hope to get old together.
We are both employed and have very adequate dwellings.
Neither of us has a religious faith.
Now is there ANY reason for us to get married?
Of course it's our choice in the end, and I'm certain we never will... However If some one can come up with just one good reason why we should marry, we would consider it. Because maybe we are missing something here. And you can bring enlightenment to us.
Many thanks
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However that has been the most valid reason I could think of.
And, ironic as it may be, it makes things easier in the event of you splitting up and divorcing when it comes to sorting out property, rights over the children and that sort of thing.
For me it would be a public declaration of the man I was in love with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with and raise children with.
Good idea to have a will though as some awkward relatives might contest inheritances.
Have you considered the implications if you decide to separate or get divorced, because the law is not exactly on the side of the man in these circumstances?
you will be worse off financially over many years.
Nobody will be able to give you a good reason to get married. its an outdated concept in a modern world.
Throw a party and invite all your friends = same thing.
What if one of you becomes unable to speak for themselves, would you want the other to be able to speak on your behalf?
As I see it, the legal reasons are what matter, whether you're religious or not. If you're getting married purely for religious reasons, you don't need to get legally married, just have the wedding.
Or if you otherwise just want to make a statement, make the statement. It might even be more powerful if you don't have to sign a contract over it.
That's what Facebook status updates are for.
Same with me, although we've not been lucky enough to have children. I am proud of stating I am married - its hard to describe but there is an invisible strong bond that binds you together. Those who don't 'get it', will never get it. Their loss in my opinion.
This x1000
I like this reason too, but there is also something to be said about the legality of being married.
All of the above:D:D:D
It seems that marriage is going 'out' of fashion with some people but to me it's the respect and love for one another and the fact you're willing to commit legally (and religiously if you're that way inclined) to one another.
Tbh though I never liked my old surmame
If you're having to ask strangers on a forum, Then No you shouldn't get married.
One is a divorcee with a child from the marriage and the marriage only lasted a couple of years. The other has a child from a previous relationship.
They both say that they'd prefer to spend the money on a nice holiday.
(* more a point of why not to go all ouot for a wedding rather than just a certificate).
I think they're just both happy with the situation and don't need it chaning by a certificate or ring.
The tax issue might not seem like an immediate concern either but if one of you were to inherit (or win the lottery
Oh, and one more thing. I think spouses can *inherit* the allowance for inheritance tax, so when the second spouse dies the tax liability is reduced for whoever inherits at that point (most likely children), if that makes sense.
Marriage isn't really for you other than the tax incentives, and people respect you more.
No. I know two people who have been together over 20 years and who have only recently welcomed their first child. They've never married and likely never will. They don't need to. They are fully committed to each other so they certainly don't need a piece of paper to confirm any of that and I think the baby will just make that commitment even stronger.
I've always felt that marriage is more for the woman's benefit than anything else. And this is not me suddenly becoming a misogynist, it's an opinion i've long held based on people i've known over the years.
So if both of you feel it's not for you then I'd certainly not even entertain the idea.