Is this an acceptable thing to do?
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My friend's (who I don't really speak to anymore) birthday was today and I've been busy all day completing a university assignment so have been stressing quite a bit, so therefore haven't had the chance to browse on any social media site. She sent me an inbox on Facebook this evening which stated 'aren't you going to wish me a happy birthday??'
Do you think this is an acceptable thing to do?
Do you think this is an acceptable thing to do?
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It only takes 10 seconds to say happy birthday on a text. I don't think anyone is so busy, they can't do that personally.
I tend to think someone is reasonably close when they refer to them as a 'friend', but maybe that is just something that is thrown around now, I mean facebook friend often doesn't seem to mean anything, evidently ^^
I bet it'd piss you off more if all your friends forgot your birthday though
It's weird though, I can't imagine anyone writing that, it's so nerdy. Strange friends you have OP
This is what I'd do and have done in the past
Not really, I'm not much of a birthday person.
I agree though, its a strange message to receive.
Coming from a former university student, I think it's really easy to spend 10 seconds writing out a text to say happy birthday to a friend before getting back on with an assignment, though most of the uni students I knew spent as much time drinking as studying
Personally I procrastinate even when doing my essay - my 'short break' turns into a long one. This usually happens on essays I'm worried about
Ah, ok. But even if I wasn't a birthday person, I know my friends enough to know which ones are birthday people, and I wouldn't ignore them on their birthday, because I don't just assume everyone is like me.
I like it though personally. It's nice to make a night out of it and celebrate someone and sort of big them up a bit for one night
Sounds just like my gf
Maybe she likes you and was being a bit flirtatious.
I'm a little confused. Are you still friends or not ?
FFS, how long does it take to to pick up a mobile or log on to social media sites and write three or four words?
It seems to me that nearly everyone I come in to contact with is wedded to their mobile. Hardly a waking hour passes when texts and status updates aren't checked. It takes about 10 seconds. The guys who work for me would constantly check their phones if I didn't have a "no mobiles in work time" rule. As soon as there's a break then it's the first thing they do even before lighting up or putting the kettle on.
I'll get flamed for this I'm sure, but perhaps the deep and uncomfortable truth is you left it to the last minute to do the assignment, and now maybe you're feeling a bit angry with yourself that you didn't plan better. You're looking for some validation to justify your actions (or lack of them) when in your heart you know that there were times when you could have checked. Maybe even deeper than that, you know this friendship is waning and that's a source of guilt?
Or you just couldn't be arsed and let's forget about the whole thing
The correct response to 'Aren't you going to wish me happy birthday?" is surely 'Yes, happy birthday! Hope you're having a good day."; if you have time to go onto facebook and read through the posts, you have time to write that.
If you think that requires greater reserves of generosity than you have, the other correct response is to block this person you obviously neither like nor respect and think of it no more.
You obviously don't think so.
And what makes it sad is that you had more time to create this thread than wishing her a good birthday.