What is your opinion of all-boys and all-girls schools?
AnnieBaker
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Do you think they are a good or bad thing?
Did you go to one?
Personally I think they are unbalanced and leave young adults slightly unprepared to face the world when they leave school.
Did you go to one?
Personally I think they are unbalanced and leave young adults slightly unprepared to face the world when they leave school.
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It must be difficult to be segregated from the opposite sex but on the other hand, it's probably less complicated.
Sorry, not much of an opinion that really is it?
Girls are horrible.
I think research shows (or at least it did when I was at school) that girls tend to do better in an all girls school, wheras boys tend to do better in a mixed school rather than all boys.
I went to a mixed primary school and all girls secondary school. I definitely wouldn't change that.
I'm sure there are distractions in a mixed school (though there might be more focus on hot teachers) but it does help with social skills for the "real" world. Particularly for those who don't really have hobbies involving both sexes.
i think it depends on the child and the school.
i think i would have done much better at a single sex school.
my first husband was a public school boy and boarding prep before and he`s proper ****ed up. though some of that`s due to the parental separation.
What happened to him at school which you think has this effect?
i think it was just the lack of family warmth and unit really, he`s a very cold fish.
I don't have kids but if I had a daughter (which I'd love to one day) I would be sending her to an all girls school and no going out with her mates on weekdays, and no boyfriends til after gcse's.
Thats a joke right?
Lol
*actually I wrote 'weekdays' by mistake - I actually meant school nights. The rest still applies.
I can't say I was ever unbalanced or my mates were, I often see my old school mates in town, everybody very much happily married!!!
I don't think so. Particularly in this age of all things digital and electronic.
Even though we didn't have all things digital and electronic in my time, it didn't stop some of us from having boys as friends, foes, crushes and boyfriends. And pen pals.
Seriously though, it depends on each person.
I had the aptitude to fit in anywhere, so I was able to fit in an all-girl boarding school, just as well as in a mixed-sex boarding school. My parents chose my schools on the basis of my personality and aptitude. For example, they knew I wasn't that keen on sports so they made sure I wasn't put in a sports-oriented school.
Some kids weren't so lucky as they ended up in unsuitable schools. There was a few in my own schools. They struggled. Homesickness, shyness and so on. Some learnt to adapt and eventually could fit in well, but there were some that still couldn't. Easy to see why some don't regard those years so highly.
All that said, I did notice one significant difference between the single-sex environment and the mixed-sex environment. The single-sex environment tended to create a strong sense of competitiveness, bluntness, trust and kinship. Everyone was equal in many respects, which made it easy for some to compete against each other.
In the mixed-sex environment, it was usually the boys that dominated. But some girls and boys cared almost too much about how they might be perceived, especially by the ones they liked, which often affected their academic performances. I didn't see this that often in the single-sex environment.
Good luck with that, once she hits the teens you'll have a struggle getting her to comply. Kids reach a point they want to do their own things and not be stifled by over dominant parents. They will also grow to resent it
What happens if you end up with a son instead of a daughter?
Same with a son if I were to have one.
You might not resent it, that doesn't mean that any child you have will feel the same way you did.