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Stars in the Sky dating/friendship agency
grimtales1
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Hey,
I've been considering whether this is is worth trying out... as someone with mild Aspergers (?) - some may recognise the name as they were the agency featured on The Undateables (I think).
I've never actually been on a date before
But the staff/support network where I live think it may be good idea as a first step to gain confidence, meet new people etc but sometimes I'm not sure
Maybe I should just take risks and see what happens. But I dont want to get too involved emotionally as that will hurt people.
I've been considering whether this is is worth trying out... as someone with mild Aspergers (?) - some may recognise the name as they were the agency featured on The Undateables (I think).
I've never actually been on a date before
But the staff/support network where I live think it may be good idea as a first step to gain confidence, meet new people etc but sometimes I'm not sure
Maybe I should just take risks and see what happens. But I dont want to get too involved emotionally as that will hurt people.
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If you do find yourself on a date, don't let confidence hold you back about saying what you want, and enjoy the moment. Don't think too far ahead about what might happen etc because you will get your hopes up!
It is totally worth trying because if you don't, you won't get anywhere at all. That's the ultimatum I've given myself when I want to tell a guy that I like them etc. Of course the rejection can knock my confidence but it's the ultimatum I give myself every time round. It's finally worked and I do now have a boyfriend
I may have to get an official diagnosis but I think my Aspergers is mild anyway
Some parts seem hard to fill in though - eg "Describe your ideal date" and "What are you looking for from your date eg friendship, dating" - what else would you be looking for? Why isnt there an option for "See how things develop if you find a girl attractive"? I cant really say before I've even met someone what I'm looking for, though yes dating a fun, and attractive girl would be nice, but it seems like I'm jumping the gun a bit to say that at the start
Though don't place too much investment in going on a date, not many people do that, I've never been on a date either but have had girlfriends.
I'm not expecting anything or getting my hopes up too much (he says)
I have it too
Because I've never had a girlfriend before I worry I'm going to think "A date/potential girlfriend! What do I do?" and be awkward
When I went to a disco/karaoke with a group the other week, the producer of the Undateables C4 programme was there!
Hopefully I'll just bite the bullet and try it out soon, I guess its wrong to expect something to be perfect, but I keep having second thoughts lately and I dont want to be hurt
That sounds horrible
It's a dating agency just for those with learning disabilities.
I remember there was that guy with Aspgergers on the 1st episode of The Undateables, hopefully they'll find a good match
I dont think SITS should be the be all and end all, maybe its just a first step to meeting new people or dating...
You could try 'no longer lonely'. Im not sure if it is suitable because it is for mental illness but it does cover those with autism and aspergers too.
Not really, he is used to people thinking he is odd. I find him quirky and loveable but that's because he is my baby brother.
I think I should be able to point out my concerns when I go to see them about things like this. I agree I dont think I want to reveal I have Aspergers (if I do have a mild form of it)