Is it possible to fall in love after the first date?
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Just wondering, is this actually possible?
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I have had very strong feelings though and been quite infatuated after only meeting someone once though. It wasn't love but it felt like it.
You can certainly have very strong feelings toward someone after a first date, whether that's love is another matter. Personally I think it's more likely to be lust
Nearly five hours later which only included one hour's work related discussion we had both nailed it with each other.
It was not plain sailing after that , but we knew we had something worth going for.
He just said he loves me only half an hour ago so whatever we had then we still have !
I think you'd have to be a bit simple and daft in the head to fall in love on date one
Ah but can you always help how you feel, Ænima?
Baby don't hurt me!
The same as the love for the person with whom you've shared good times and awful times, has comforted you through deaths, has pledged love through marriage, who's child you've born or who has given birth to your child? Who you've seen fat and thin, all dolled up and looking rough and vomiting, sick in hospital, dancing at parties, sleeping on the sofa...
No, you can like someone very much, but it takes more than one date to love them.
I don't feel like that though. I think love is something a bit deeper with some people than simply "I saw err and wanted to bone err" (which is basically all 'love at first sight' boils down to)
I think it takes time to love someone, because you start to appreciate them in so many ways you wouldn't know by just meeting them for a few minutes. Things beyond the superficial, things you only learn once you know someone almost as well as you know yourself.
That's a completely different scenario though as you could potentially fall in love (or be a long way there) with someone you have known and have been close too for some time.
Sorry that probably came across wrongly, I was (probably badly with my that's different to the OP) affirming.
I meant you are correct but I don't think that's the type of scenario the OP had in mind and would be a given as falling in love with someone you already know very well is in no way strange, unusual, controversial nor comes with the connotations "love at first sight" does.
As an aside, if I were on the receiving end:
If someone I didn't know said "I love you" on the first date or just someone I didn't know very, very well; it wouldn't land too well. I would assume things like desperation or that they were needy. It would be too much, even if I really liked them.
If someone I knew very well and was very close too said it, even if I was in no way interested, I would experience none of those negative emotions and would probably be flattered (even if it lead to awkwardness). Not unless I already knew they were desperate or needy or whatever.
There's possibilities in anything.
Interestingly (well possibly), while I am very skeptical of whether it would be love; I also would never, in a million years, school someone or call them a liar; and even think it (I'd blindly accept it) if they said they had experienced this and had a long and happy relationship because even if you don't really believe in that yourself it would be an incredibly arrogant thing too do; too claim or believe to know better how someone feels than they themselves do.
Its a bit of a contradiction I know.
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Actually laughed at this
No, you might feel attracted to someone but real love needs time to grow.
Enjoy the feeling, whichever it is
So in short I'm not sure if you can fall in love on the first date but I knew I wanted to marry him!
Baby don't hurt me.