Are your parents ignorant towards gays?
mizhog
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Mine are, my brother in laws brother is gay and whenever they go see my nephews and they are there whenever they describe them they say 'oh the poofs were there'..and like today i showed my mum what i had bought in the sale and she said why do you like those gay colors (it was a mustard coloured beanie ffs!) however when i question my mums opinion about gays she seems tolerant like its their life and stuff
the thing is i am actually planning on coming out as i have a boyfriend but my parents dont know a thing. im extremely straight acting...so they've got a shock coming up lol
how are your parents regarding gays?
the thing is i am actually planning on coming out as i have a boyfriend but my parents dont know a thing. im extremely straight acting...so they've got a shock coming up lol
how are your parents regarding gays?
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My dad's a homophobic, racist b'stard.
seems to be the norm, wonder why that is....
EDIT: I was wondering, would people actually call out/correct family members that say homophobic things etc.?
Yeah, she lived through the Second World War
I guess it's different for people who lived through that experience
Times change... and time is supposed to be a healer, but not always it seems
My parents haven't a bigoted bone in their bodies, but I did have a contretemps with an acquaintance, the same generation as they are.
She was homophobic 'they don't call them queer for nothing' and horrifyingly racist.
I wasn't prepared to let her make her ignorant statements and not be pulled up for it.
She hasn't spoken to me since.
They are both dead and I don't recall them ever talking about them apart from the chap next door who save my life. He was very sad for him when he got done for cottaging and angry about the system.
I think one of his brothers, my uncle Jack, was probably gay but it was never alluded to and Jack was well loved within the family anyway.
My step dad is just old fashioned and, despite not having any bigoted views, still uses language that isn't really used these days like queer. If I ever pull him up he says things like' my mate Bob is a queer and he's absolutely fine with being called one so why would it bother you?' So I just leave them to get on with it
I don't think I would, but that's for personal reasons. My grandma sometimes says quite racist things and anyone/everyone around would call her out on it, but not in an aggressive way, more in a semi-laughing, semi-serious 'you can't say that kind of thing anymore' way, if that makes sense.
I wouldn't call out any of my family for saying something homophobic though, because I'd feel like I'm outing myself, like if I defended gay people that would flag up my own sexuality. I tend to just keep my head down if discussion turns to homosexuality in any way. I feel like responding in a positive way would out me.
Luckily for me, my parents seem OK with gay people by and large and I don't really hear any homophobic talk at home, even from my grandma (well, not much).
ETA - I do sometimes hear the phrase 'bent as a nine bob note', which isn't really meant offensively. It's clearly just a saying from another time.
I don't think that saying has anything to do with sexuality, but "bent" being slang for dodgy in a dishonest sense, while "straight" being for the more honest/square sorts.
My mum is open minded, as she is on most things. I can't say I've ever heard her criticise much, never mind a person's sexuality. My dad can be a bit of an old fart, and say some daft things. I think he's got better, but he used to think it was all a bit of a showbiz/media creation, and that there weren't many gay people in real life. I think it may still come as a shock to him to discover gays aren't all like Larry Grayson.
I've only ever heard my parents use in it regards to gay people, not in a homophobic way, just as a way of saying they're gay.
Bent is very much a term for homosexuals as well as criminals.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bent_(play)
Good luck OP coming out
My mum is fine with it
My dad seems to be..but if my sibling turned out to be gay I'm not sure if that might change. I'm not sure what his reaction would be if he saw a same sex couple kissing either.
He is not actively prejudiced in any way but that's because he hasn't really encountered it.
Hetero men seem to have more problems with gay men than women do,I have no idea why but it is something I have noticed myself.
Yet they seemingly have no problem with lesbian women especially in certain contexts
Its very odd and I do wonder about it.
Some people just don't like the homosexual lifestyle.