What do you think of women who have children to different fathers?
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In this case I know of a young woman who is pregnant ATM, with her third child and all the children have different fathers, someone in their twenties already having 3 children with 3 differnet fathers, would you say it was careless or extremely selfish? I feel sorry for the kids.
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bit of a **** too lol
I'm part of my mum's second brood, but my dad was the best thing that could have happened to my half-siblings given how awful their father was (in short: physically abusive to them and my mother, adulterous and alcoholic). My mum made him propose twice and rejected him the first time because they hadn't been together long enough to justify her letting him becomng 'Dad' to her first children.
There are plenty of ways feckless parents mess up their childrens lives - having too many, not giving them good learning experiences, and yes, 'dad-hopping' is one of them, but plenty screw up their children without it.
It is neither, you cannot plan your life in advance and there is not a set line that any two lives follow. I have 3 children by 3 different men, I also lost 2 babies and if I would have had them it would have been 5 children by 4 men, so what? you cant force men to stay , you shouldnt put up with abuse, you cannot know what life has in store for you, but what you can do is deal with life when these things are thrown at you.
I look back at my life so far and do not regret a minute of it,least of all ,having my children.
It is none of our business who has how many children and by whom.
That is a very ignorant view to take of someone elses life.
This.
My friend fell pregnant at 30 by a guy she'd been with for 3 years. he told her he didn't want to be a dad, packed his bags and left that night. She's never seen him since. She got with her now husband when her son was 4 months old. That was 7 years ago and they've now just had a daughter.
So how could you judge her for having different fathers for her two children?
People can have as many kids as they want, all that bothers me is whether they can afford them or not.
I have kids to two different dads, so I wouldn't say anything but when someone has so many and every single one to a total stranger...,. that has to be dysfunctional. So far as I know, she was not in a single relationship.
She has never worked since leaving school ( was a teenager with the first baby, I think) and so I am guessing she has the kids to keep the benefits flowing.
what 6 kids with 6 dads at 26, no wonder this counties standards have sunk so low with that attitude :rolleyes:
Having kids means you are part of a life time relationship with the person you have kids with, even if you split up with them. Being in a happy, stable, committed relationship is the best environment to bring up a child, and so before you bring children into the world, you would have to be 100% sure that this is a happy relationship for life. Obviously people can make mistakes, but if the same mistake happens more than once and she is in a relationship that is not good for bringing children up time and time again and yet still has chidren, then I would have no respect for her.
Saying that, it really depends on the situation, as she may have been widowed twice, which would mean 3 different dads would be ok.
I think its your attitude that stinks, why is it the woman who always has to be called a ****? men are able to go through life and have children and dump them and women pick up the pieces,we should support these women, not call them petty names.
Yeah. We should be able to call women who sleep with more than 1 man sluts all we like!
So now there is a criteria and if we dont meet it then we are to be frowned upon?? the first two men I had my children with ended up being gits, the first ended up in prison for a crime that no one could forgive, was I supposed to forget it? the second, he got cold feet and ran, should I have tied him up in the basement? the third, he is my husband and is father to all 3 of my children, if it wasnt for him my children would be fatherless so how can you put a 2 child limit on these things???
Not something to aspire to though.
Things happen in life and relationships break up. My parents split up and I have a half brother and a half sister, both much younger than me. My parents got together quite young, were not good for each other and have both moved on to other relationships where they're both much happier.
But that is completely different to just having kids by random blokes. But the example above of having 6 kids with men you're not even in a relationship with is shocking imo. And, before I get attacked, the men involved are just as bad.
As counterbalance, my cousin got two girls pregnant more or less in the same month and I told him he was a knobhead and moved on.