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I moved into a village a few months ago and yet to make new mates
RandomPeter94
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OK. I live in Bristol half the time for Uni, and I have mates there so it's pretty good there.
But at home with my parents, I have not made any new mates here. It is such a tiny village with a population of only roughly 350 and I'm not sure how many people similar age to me are there (I'm 20). I know there are a couple of people next door that I think are a similar age because I see a party going on there now. We cannot see each other in the garden as the brick fence is too high up (I can see a little more of their garden from a high up window). All there is in the stupid village is a pub which is normally dead (apart from when there is a special event I think, not sure, there is normally no people really my age) and a boxing club/gym (which I can't really join because I fractured my elbow 6 weeks ish ago, almost better).
So how can I make mates around this area, and Didcot which is the nearest town to my village.
But at home with my parents, I have not made any new mates here. It is such a tiny village with a population of only roughly 350 and I'm not sure how many people similar age to me are there (I'm 20). I know there are a couple of people next door that I think are a similar age because I see a party going on there now. We cannot see each other in the garden as the brick fence is too high up (I can see a little more of their garden from a high up window). All there is in the stupid village is a pub which is normally dead (apart from when there is a special event I think, not sure, there is normally no people really my age) and a boxing club/gym (which I can't really join because I fractured my elbow 6 weeks ish ago, almost better).
So how can I make mates around this area, and Didcot which is the nearest town to my village.
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In a village as small as yours it must be difficult to find friends. You could go next door and introduce yourself and explain that you are new to the area. Is there a village shop or village hall? There's often quite a lot going on in village halls and perhaps you might meet people who you get on with and who are not necessarily the same age as you. What are your hobbies? Get yourself a bike and check out the other places near you.
You say that Didcot is your nearest town. I know it well and in the past it was thought to be pretty dire but it has improved enormously.
My parents have met the couple (like the mum and dad of the grown up children) and saw the girl (but VERY briefly). It was 10am when they met them and I was asleep lol. So not sure if I'm really that new now lol since I been here for 3 months.
No village shop or village hall. There is a village hill in North Moreton (I live in South Moreton) though, which a lot of boring things happen with a lot of middle-aged people I think, not sure. I actually don't have that many hobbies, does going to night clubs count lol?! I do try and make myself go to the gym sometimes, I cannot join the current one because of my arm, I don't wanna risk hurting it again.
Wouldn't it be awkward just randomly introducing yourself to random people on the streets and in places like the cinema etc? Wouldn't it just be having a brief chat and not like getting to know them? Would be awkward for some people to be asked for yor facebook/twitter if you only just met.
I visited Abingdon once, it's quite nice.
Do you mean type Didcot into Facebook and Twitter? Tried that and it only searches the names itself, which is annoying.
It's a village, it's not exactly designed to be a wild resort for teenagers and young twenty somethings, which is doubtless why your parents chose to live there. A little attitude change will go a long way in being able to find interest and enjoyment in your surroundings. And that applies to everywhere and everyone - 20 is too old in my opinion to have such an extremely limited idea of what and who is cool or fun.
GOOGLE my dear man is your friend
http://www.didcot.com/events/
As an aside, as you're still at uni, you might find this study and revision guide useful: http://www.waterstones.com/waterstonesweb/products/tony+buzan/use+your+head/7096341/
http://www.meetup.com/Young-Professionals-Oxford-socialising-sports-fun/
People all pretty much in the same boat as you.
Then write to everyone and you're more than likely get to go on a few dates which will get you out of the house and which may result in a long lasting friendship (even if is with a gay male or an elderly lady) its worth considering.
go in the pub, and buy everyone a drink. loads of friends will appear.
And there will be a weirdo.
That's "The Slaughtered Lamb"
Stay off the moor tonight.
http://www.plusgroups.org.uk/plus/ntca/didcot/
There are also Abingdon and Oxford groups.
They are social groups for those age 18-35 so will be people your age.
The chances are that the 'old' people in this village are the ones who are regularly getting pissed, smoking dope and generally having a good time.
As another poster said, go to the pub, and be prepared to have a laugh with the over 50s.