Do you feel sorry for Helen?
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It's clear Helen is a pretty damaged person from her messed up past with prostitution and stuff, and her behavior in the BB house is a bit worrying. Do you feel sorry for her because of this?
Personally I do not, frankly it seems as if her life is her own fault by having a child at an age where she wasn't secure or stable enough to look after it. If she had any sense then she would have seen at the time that her life would turn out like this...
Personally I do not, frankly it seems as if her life is her own fault by having a child at an age where she wasn't secure or stable enough to look after it. If she had any sense then she would have seen at the time that her life would turn out like this...
Do you feel sorry for Helen? 259 votes
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on second thoughts, no
It's called compassion...
Having a child when there's no way in hell she could look after it
Taking out loans she couldn't pay
Not keeping her clients confidential etc
Many have children at a young age but don't take the paths she did or treat others the way that she does.
With the exception of the last one (and that's a grey area too, as far as I'm aware), I wouldn't hold any of that against her. She's been through a lot, and I'm sympathetic towards that, but that doesn't necessarily explain, and definitely doesn't excuse her behaviour in the house. I think going into Big Brother hasn't done her any good whatsoever.
Lol funy funy funy you I said funy funy funy did you hear me lol I agree with you it's a no
I agree, she's brought everything on herself. Let's face it, without the warning she wouldn't have changed her ways.
Not in the least. She had opportunities and wasted them.
So what?
She has trouble controlling her emotions and doesn't really understand herself or consider the impact of her actions on others before acting. To me, that sounds like some important guidance was missing from her upbringing. I think, at the very least, she needs to look into getting help managing her anger and to stop drinking. It all comes down to impulse control really. She needs to learn to pause before acting and consider the longer term consequences of whatever she's about to do or say,
A lot of us have had things to deal with. BUt not all of us have turned to prostitution and bullying. Some of us have worked bloody hard at a normal job despite some real issues. But keep ploughing through life and try not to impact on others and to attempt to be self aware. There is a limit to compassion when that person has such an impact on others. She has the potential to impact in such a negative way on others in life it is frightening. She picks on personal insecurities with delight and does not give a fook if she destroys that person....she has even said as much.
Unfortunately, someone like Helen would use compassion as a green light to carry on being the way she is. She needs honesty, a huge massive dose of it, but she is so intimidating very few would dare give it to her.
Great post, exactly how I feel!
I do, however, feel sorry for her in that she has had a pretty awful start to life. Who knows what she had to deal with at a young age, why she went on the path she did. Something must have triggered it - and for that, and the fact she does sometimes show just how damaged she is, I do feel sympathy for her.
I also feel sorry for the other HM who have to put up with her in the house.
A lovely and measured response, to which I fully agree.
Ouch but I almost agree!