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Psychologists find people benefit from chatting to randoms on transport

starry_runestarry_rune Posts: 9,006
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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-motives/201411/why-you-should-talk-strangers

Do you talk to people on trains / planes / buses / tubes? Do you find it makes the journey more bearable? What are good conversation starters for you? For the oldies - do you remember a time when people chatted on transport more? or in queues etc..

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  • JasonJason Posts: 76,557
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    I'd never talk to anyone on public transport. It's against the rules :)
  • ElectraElectra Posts: 55,660
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    JasonWatkins wrote: »
    I'd never talk to anyone on public transport. It's against the rules :)

    You're obviously not a Geordie :D
  • phantom sneezephantom sneeze Posts: 1,064
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    I remember this one time I caught the bus and this young lady with a pushchair was talking too this older couple about the monotony of her life, I thought they new each other really well. it was only when the young lady got off the old women told me she diden't know her from Adam....
  • CravenHavenCravenHaven Posts: 13,953
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    I find with girls that "I bought that underwear last year, why don't yours have holes in yet?" a great ice breaker
  • Paulie WalnutsPaulie Walnuts Posts: 3,059
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    I find it very odd when people use the word 'randoms' instead of 'strangers'.
  • CorbynDallasCorbynDallas Posts: 821
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    yes sometimes i talk to the people on the buses but they dont talk back to me and i get angry and confused and it is sad for everyone:(
  • Marie4evaMarie4eva Posts: 1,296
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    I could do it alot when I was at uni and less in my PGCE (This year)... Sometimes I used to look up and observe and guess what everybody's looking at their phone :/ boring....
  • Toby LaRhoneToby LaRhone Posts: 12,916
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    I was on a bus last week and a chap opposite was rabbiting nonstop to the woman next to him.
    Then, when she got off, he looked around and sat by another woman and banged on and on about the rugby. Then he said "Have you seen they got Mr Bean in the Snickers advert now instead of Joan Collins? He's funny isn't he?"
    I'd have had to say something very blunt if he'd chosen me.
  • JasonJason Posts: 76,557
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    Electra wrote: »
    You're obviously not a Geordie :D

    No .. worse .. an Essex man :D
  • Toby LaRhoneToby LaRhone Posts: 12,916
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    Paulie Walnuts wrote: »
    I find it very odd when people use the word 'randoms' instead of 'strangers'.

    I agree. "Randoms in the Night" just doesn't work does it?
  • Jol44Jol44 Posts: 21,048
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    Don't mind strangers, but can't stand chatting to randoms.
  • jrajra Posts: 48,325
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    starry_rune wrote: »
    http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-motives/201411/why-you-should-talk-strangers

    Do you talk to people on trains / planes / buses / tubes? Do you find it makes the journey more bearable? What are good conversation starters for you? For the oldies - do you remember a time when people chatted on transport more? or in queues etc..

    If you don't talk to randoms/strangers, how are you going to meet new people, some of whom might become friends of yours.

    :confused:
  • ElectraElectra Posts: 55,660
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    JasonWatkins wrote: »
    No .. worse .. an Essex man :D

    Yikes :o

    Up here, we'll talk to anyone :D
  • Pea1Pea1 Posts: 383
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    I talk to people I don't know if I fancy a chat, sometimes they will chat back and that's fine. If they just answer with one word answers I assume they don't want to chat so don't continue the conversation.
    I think talking to strangers depends on how sociable you are and where you live.
  • xorosetylerxoxorosetylerxo Posts: 6,674
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    No where I live you don't talk to anyone on public transport unless you know them
  • BastardBeaverBastardBeaver Posts: 11,903
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    Bit of a weird report really :D

    But now when I think about it, I always step off the train happier if I have had a little chat with someone during the journey.
  • Toby LaRhoneToby LaRhone Posts: 12,916
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    BastardBeaver wrote: »
    Bit of a weird report really :D

    But now when I think about it, I always step off the train happier if I have had a little chat with someone during the journey.
    And they get into work saying "Guess who the nutter sat next to today? Me!!"
    :D
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