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Mr Stiffy has turned into Mr Floppy........
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Hi all
So this is a bit of a a embarassing problem. My partner and myself have enjoyed a very healthy sex life (we have been together about 6 months). It has always been brilliant, he's been a bit of a sex pest if anything. At least 2-3 times a day and always lots of fun
Anyway a few days ago I made a (in hindsight very bad) joke about him ejaculating too soon. The exact circumstances/conversation escapes me but it was fairly obvious it was a joke and we always have a bit of banter with each other so I didnt expect him to take offence nor did he seem too.
But later on he couldnt get an erection. I politely ignored it as I didnt want to make a big issue out of it. We had a drink and got a bit merry that night and all was well 'downstairs' later on so I thought no more of it. But its happened again, he got very upset and embarassed.
I'm fairly confident its not that he isnt physically attracted to me. I'm not full of myself but I know Im not unattractive and we were 'at it like rabbits' for want of a better phrase up untill 3 days ago. I know I can't have changed much in that space of time. He also insists its nothing related to me. I'm also 100% confident he isn't cheating.
He can still get an erection when he wakes up like most men do so its obviously not a problem with his bits and bobs. Seems like a mental issue that Im worried is going to become a bit of a self fufilling prophecy if we dont do something.
Has anyone had experience of this? And what can I do to get things back on track?
Thanks all
NB: I should mention we are both in our late twenties.
So this is a bit of a a embarassing problem. My partner and myself have enjoyed a very healthy sex life (we have been together about 6 months). It has always been brilliant, he's been a bit of a sex pest if anything. At least 2-3 times a day and always lots of fun
Anyway a few days ago I made a (in hindsight very bad) joke about him ejaculating too soon. The exact circumstances/conversation escapes me but it was fairly obvious it was a joke and we always have a bit of banter with each other so I didnt expect him to take offence nor did he seem too.
But later on he couldnt get an erection. I politely ignored it as I didnt want to make a big issue out of it. We had a drink and got a bit merry that night and all was well 'downstairs' later on so I thought no more of it. But its happened again, he got very upset and embarassed.
I'm fairly confident its not that he isnt physically attracted to me. I'm not full of myself but I know Im not unattractive and we were 'at it like rabbits' for want of a better phrase up untill 3 days ago. I know I can't have changed much in that space of time. He also insists its nothing related to me. I'm also 100% confident he isn't cheating.
He can still get an erection when he wakes up like most men do so its obviously not a problem with his bits and bobs. Seems like a mental issue that Im worried is going to become a bit of a self fufilling prophecy if we dont do something.
Has anyone had experience of this? And what can I do to get things back on track?
Thanks all
NB: I should mention we are both in our late twenties.
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You need to talk to him about it, i can imagine it would have dented his confidence somewhat.
seriously though (and i dont mean to be mean) its probably what you said - the subconcious is a minefield, especially in blokes....
previous poster said stick with foreplay - seems like a good idea?? maybe build up to a quickie and then get back into the swing of things.
oh and the words "oooh oooh aaaah big boy" or similar are guaranteed to help
good luck pet
You've ruined his virility with your flippant remark.
I suggest you send him dirty pictures of yourself. Post them up on here first so we can select the right ones.
Thanks all for the advice. I really didnt think a little joke (albeit a not very funny one) could have such a massive impact on such things!!!