POF is pissing me off
TheTruth1983
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I have sent countless messages in recent months and not received a single reply.
The problem is not my profile either since most have read the message but not my profile so it has to be either my picture or my message.
My picture is fairly simple: me wearing a decent shirt, jacket an jeans standing smiling and looking quite good I must say.
My messages are always clean and respectful, I always make it clear that I have read her profile by talking about things we have in common. I always tell her a little bit about myself and ask her questions about her.
I am at a loss as to what I am doing wrong.
The problem is not my profile either since most have read the message but not my profile so it has to be either my picture or my message.
My picture is fairly simple: me wearing a decent shirt, jacket an jeans standing smiling and looking quite good I must say.
My messages are always clean and respectful, I always make it clear that I have read her profile by talking about things we have in common. I always tell her a little bit about myself and ask her questions about her.
I am at a loss as to what I am doing wrong.
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I've tried Match and had much the same experience.
from the title i wondered if it was Piece of Fish....i opened the thread to find out what it stood for....still no wiser...
I signed up to PoF last year and got around 95 messages in the first day.
I'm nothing special so I imagine most girls get the same when they join. It just gets tiring looking through them all and you end up overlooking messages which are probably really genuine.
Plenty of Fish
I can't see how that would work. Surely women get loads of messages like that each day so the name of the game is to try and stand out.
You stand out already using your pic. Seriously give it a go. For the sake of my curiosity if nothing else.
It's frustrating as hell when you put a bit of effort into your profile and taking a decent picture (rather than just a selfie in front of the mirror) and get nowhere.
Yeah but if you send the same message as dozens of others, how would that get you noticed?
If you're good looking to the person looking at it, that will be all you need.
I am probably just OK looking. It's not like I am messaging people who are considered really beautiful though (even if they are attractive to me). I tend to message people based on the content of their profile rather than their picture.
I'm allergic to cliches
I understand that.
The problem is with dating sites is it makes things all about looks when they really shouldn't be. In real life when I meet guys I rarely take notice of looks to begin with and only realise I'm attracted to them when I've had a conversation. Online you can't do this so I'm sure we all have brushed off plenty of people who actually we'd be a good match with.
You don't have to stand out right away.
When I was free and single, I'd have a few guys texting me. If I woke up the morning after a night out and got 3 texts, one with a long diatribe about we've got loads in common etc, and 2 saying had a good night thanks, I'd immediately dismiss the long one but reply to the other two.
You build a rapport over the course of a chat back and forth. That makes it fun and flirty rather than intense and requiring effort.
If you don't get any offers, 5ft 7" 20 stone trucker called Barry, hailing from Barnsley here.
So you're into 4sums?
Are you a good cook? Do you know how to make me feel special in bed?
No but I have given out my number to more than one fellow of an evening
I agree actually.
The one's I replied to were short and to the point, usually saying things like "Hi Bex, I like this band too! Have you seen them live?" Or something.
I hate selfies. They are a good way to make me ignore a profile (especially the duck pout ones) so I would not go down that road myself.