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I'm pleased she's not married - am I bitter?
SirMickTravis
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So here we go. There was this girl I was crazy about in University, I eventually managed to tell her but well, she wasn't interested. Later on she started dating a strange bloke who used to supply the drugs. I didn't much approve of her drug habits but there you go. Anyway she clearly fell for this guy and they dated for a long time. Drove me crazy. So here we are 10 years later and I decide to look her up on Facebook. It turns out she still hasn't got married at 31 and I was quite pleased about it. She was always the sort who wanted to get married and have kids. I've noticed looking on facebook how few of my university contemporaries are settled down and married. Funny thing that.
Incidentally the drug dealer student boyfriend now has quite a good job in finance, whereas I sadly don't. I wonder if I'm being a bit snide about it all.
Incidentally the drug dealer student boyfriend now has quite a good job in finance, whereas I sadly don't. I wonder if I'm being a bit snide about it all.
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People change, life changes, priorities change.
Forget about her/him, move on, decide what you want out of life and do something to make yourself happy.
Yes.
Or no,
Hello Miss Doh.
If you are pleased she's not married, it just shows you are still hanging on after all this time. It sounds a wee bit immature, sorry. Perhaps you should forget her, her ex boyfriend, his job etc... and stop caring
People make their own life choices - wishing them well or ill because you weren't one of them is simply outside my experience.
I don't want to speak to or see my ex-husband - but I'd rather he were happy than otherwise. - and would get no pleasure if that weren't the case.
So no need to feel superior either way.
I'm flummoxed as to how come it didn't work out.
I did wonder that too...
OP, you do sound bitter to be honest. And I'm afraid the fact that she is not married is no way linked to how happy she is, she could be the happiest person ever.
And as for her ex boyfriend, I suppose that just shows you that sometimes, what people are like between the ages of 18 and 21 does not define them for the rest of their lives. Funny that.
We were part of the same group of friends. I couldn't really ignore her. As for the drugs, well they aren't good for you. I don't generally think much of drug dealers, even small time ones.
I don't think it's about her not being happy, it's the fact that her relationship(s) haven't worked out.
You are assuming because someone isn't married, their relationships haven't worked out? Do they even HAVE Facebook in the 19th century?
dance cards ?
But why does her not being married mean her relationships haven't worked out?
Even on this thread, someone has said they've been with someone years and are very happy but not married. And it's not exactly uncommon. I could name loads of people the same.
You are also not very nice.
I can't see any evidence of her being in a long term relationship. Looks like she's single. She may be happy. But I'm pleased she's not with the drug dealer.