Affair with married man
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Hi all. Long time lurker, first time poster. Usually read the advice pages so thought you guys could help me out.
Basically my male mate from work is having an affair with a married man. Or should I say was. It all started almost a year ago when they met each other and his wife at some work gathering. One thing led to another after a few drinks and the missus away, and before long they had sex at a hotel. My mate told me the married bloke never had sex with men before, but wasn't too sure seeing as he was "very experienced" in bed. Nor did he feel ashamed.
Things ticked over, and two months later they did it in the married bloke's bed. As you can imagine my mate was confused, head all over the place. He was sick of being some secret and told him to leave him alone or just grow a pair of balls and tell the wife.
Just two weeks ago both attended a birthday party. My mate seemed to move on and brought a guest with him, who the married guy thought was his partner. Interrogated both and told my mate to meet him at his the following morning to clear things up -- his wife would be away at work. They did more than that and had sex.
It's all a mess and it sounds like something from a soap drama. My mate is at a crossroads -- he feels he has to take action before it's too late. He doesn't want to tell the wife because he's actually on good terms with her and can't avoid the married bloke because they work together, almost daily. He likes the man but doesn't he want to play the part of homewrecker. Suggestions?
Basically my male mate from work is having an affair with a married man. Or should I say was. It all started almost a year ago when they met each other and his wife at some work gathering. One thing led to another after a few drinks and the missus away, and before long they had sex at a hotel. My mate told me the married bloke never had sex with men before, but wasn't too sure seeing as he was "very experienced" in bed. Nor did he feel ashamed.
Things ticked over, and two months later they did it in the married bloke's bed. As you can imagine my mate was confused, head all over the place. He was sick of being some secret and told him to leave him alone or just grow a pair of balls and tell the wife.
Just two weeks ago both attended a birthday party. My mate seemed to move on and brought a guest with him, who the married guy thought was his partner. Interrogated both and told my mate to meet him at his the following morning to clear things up -- his wife would be away at work. They did more than that and had sex.
It's all a mess and it sounds like something from a soap drama. My mate is at a crossroads -- he feels he has to take action before it's too late. He doesn't want to tell the wife because he's actually on good terms with her and can't avoid the married bloke because they work together, almost daily. He likes the man but doesn't he want to play the part of homewrecker. Suggestions?
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I would say to stay clear of anyone elses complicated issues.
Imagine how the wife would feel
I just never believe this phrase any more.
Especially if it's accompanied by a story like this.
You mean besides the obvious suggestions to stop being at this married bloke's beck and call and stop having sex with him?
(Sorry, I'm a little distracted, I can't wait for tomorrow's installment. I'm already trying to think of the twist.
considering the DS account was only created yesterday then not lurking for very long.
Whether the story is fabricated or not, I'll just say affairs are not worth the hassle.
Come come....you can be a lurker and not have an account you know. Shheeesh, people are sooooooo suspicious.
Personally, I think we need some added frisson....like the OP fancying the friend. How'd that be for a twist in the tale? Bet ya that's the next instalment.
Either it is the OP or it's a joke
possible, but extremely unlikely.
No, I think the wife is having a mad passionate affair herself and doesn't give a damn. Her lover will undoubtedly be someone at work, probably the (female) managing director.
Maybe she is a member of this site...
https://haveanaffair.com/default.aspx
Granted, granted...but what if....what if, by treating the problem as fiction we actually participate in dismissing one of love's great tales, love in adversity, love against all odds...what if this truly is one of the greatest love stories of all time, one that will resonate down the years, one that will haunt the audience with it's sincerity, with it's passion, with it's tragedy...? Ask yourself, could you live with yourself if it turned out to be true, and you were so incredulous? Forever, from this day 'til the end of time, to be known as "Doubting Chenks"?
Nah, it's one of those where the OP returns once a day or so to add some more little titbits of information, with the story getting more and more shocking/interesting....until the thread gets closed.
I'm at work.
No, she's not pregnant (to my knowledge) and I doubt the married guy will dump her for him. Life is not an episode of Eastenders.
I only found about the gory details a week ago and had suspected both were seeing each other months ago, but didnt have concrete evidence. The post was long because a detailed account is better than shrewdness.
You can choose to believe me or not. I don't care. I just want advice on what to tell him.